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mum dragging kids from school

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 19:52

there is a girl at ds school who is 26 years old and has 5 children under 7 at ds school, let me make myself clear at this stage is not the issue, the issue is that she left school at 17 without any qualifications and is not at all educated, she has claimed benefits all her life and her dp works cash in hand whilst she claims, she also lives in a 2 bedroomed flat which looks like a kim and aggie show, her youngest are 2 and newborn and 3 eldest 5,6 and 8, they are already having problems at school and have hard time fitting in, to make things worse she thinks that she is a muslim and tells her dc regulary that boys are evil etc. she has now decided she wants to home educate and i am appalled, surely she cant do this?

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nickschick · 28/03/2011 21:40

Easy life???? I home ed and its deffo not an easy life.

ScarlettWalking · 28/03/2011 21:41

Look I really don't think you are going to get helpful responses on this thread as the story hold a lot of cliches which make people see red. I think you are genuinely concerned and you should call ss and report your concerns.

I think the situation for there children sounds fucking dreadful btw.

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 21:43

i didnt mean that nick it just means to her that she doesnt have to go out, she doesnt have to dress them, she doesnt have to iron thier uniforms, i admire that you home educate believe me i do, but I KNOW this girl she wont be home educating because she just hasnt got the tools to do so, nor the ability to do so

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 21:45

scarlett i know alot of cliches and i so wish that they werent true but they are and believe me they are and i will report her to ss because she needs support and someone to help her more than i did

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ScarlettWalking · 28/03/2011 21:45

So speak to someone in rl and voice your concerns!

CarGirl · 28/03/2011 21:47

I don't think you should have posted in Home Ed it's not about Home Ed it's about she can't be bothered to get them to school anymore.

If CP at school have told SS and you've spoken to the HV my only other thought is ring NSPCC and speak to them ask them how to keep this family on the radar.

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 21:48

i have spoken to headteacher and she has assured me that she has asked her to reconsider, i hope she does and i have also spoken to my ex hv and asked her advice and i will speak to someone in rl

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nailak · 28/03/2011 21:50

where is the rest of her and dps family?
why havent the housin moved them? i know a lady who was livin with inlaws and had 2 kids then was due to have twins and they wouldnt send them home from hospital as they said 2 adults and 2 kids was too much in same room, so they ot housin, surely this is the same?

you know one thin about that irl who died of starvation was that i wondered where the rest of the community was and how they didnt notice, especially the irls dad!!

but if she thinks she is muslim maybe an elder from the muslim community could help?

what area is she livin in?

is she a convert? you say she is british?

nailak · 28/03/2011 21:50

and is she on fb :p

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 21:51

thanks car maybe the wrong place to post i just thought that this was the right place i am sorry if i offended people i have had it rough myself and am the last person to judge but i am so so so sad for these dc because they are such good bright kids and ds says they have been crying at school

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 21:54

she cant be rehoused because she is behind in rent by thousands as she has no idea of budgetting, she hasnt coverted she just says she is a muslim, she doesnt know about the community because she wont go to mosque, we were getting somewhere she was coming out more, i had sorted her arrears out and got her help and she threw it all back in my face.

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BrilliantDisguise · 28/03/2011 22:00

nailak- the 'girls dad' was with his other family.
Some Dad he was.

nailak · 28/03/2011 22:01

social services?

CarGirl · 28/03/2011 22:02
Sad

It is isn't it. I live on a council estate and most - probably 95% of us are "normal" want and do our best and have a good go at raising our dc, a small percent are horrible, violent bullies, another small percent are druggies whose children are neglected, lice ridden, not fed and clothes properly and smell, another small percentage just do not have the capability of bringing up their children - mainly due to low IQ.

I just wonder where all these other people live who never see this sector of society Confused

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 22:02

will do x

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SpringchickenGoldBrass · 28/03/2011 22:03

Just FYI: I don't think Kyra Ishaq died because her mother home-educated her and I also think that the case was used against home-edders in a disgraceful way. I am concerned that the DC in this case may suffer asimilar fate because their mother like Kyra Ishaq's mother sounds like a nutjob and a neglectful abuser.

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 22:11

oh she feeds them, they are just negleted emotionally, they are shouted at and made to clean the mess up, they live in a smoke filled flat where they have to shout to make themselves heard, when they came to my house they were totally different all they wanted was a hot bath and to be cuddled, they were missing affection, since the much wanted boy came its got worse

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seeker · 28/03/2011 22:25

YOu expressed yourself very badly. A shame, because you obviously have genuine concerns in there somewhere

Mentioning HE was a mistake though - anybody who HEs is automatically a saint and beyond criticism on MN. Odd, but true.

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 22:30

mentioning whom

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ScarlettWalking · 28/03/2011 22:32

This really sounds dreadful please contact ss.

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 28/03/2011 22:35

i am going to tomorrow

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weejie · 28/03/2011 22:49

Guys, you should be ashamed of yourselves. This is some of the most disgusting, arrant snobbery I have ever seen on MN. Those if you who just went in for the kill, without engaging and with deeply unpleasant petty remarks such as criticising spelling and punctuation, and enquiring if the OP had forgotten her Gs, well words fail me.

Well done OP for keeping your cool, the rest of you petty snobs I await your GCSE level English language paper crit of my post.

Those of you thoughtful enough to actually engage instead of getting swept up in the torrent of unpleasant snark and bullying I salute you.

exoticfruits · 28/03/2011 23:08

I think that you are right to be concerned OP, it is a shame that people were so unpleasant-I think that you just chose the wrong place to post to get any helpful advice.

nickschick · 29/03/2011 06:53

I immediately objected to the phrase 'mum dragging kids from school'......a better title may have been 'I am concerned about a Mum who has chosen to H.E her children'.

I then disliked the way the OP described the Mum,I myself grew up dragged from gypsy site to refuge to squat until my Mother died when I was 11- that doesnt make me a bad person.

My friend is not very houseproud,on first view you may actually think shes been burgled- but she is a fantastic Mother.

Not everyone can live in a home adequate for the size of their family -you cant judge people for that.

The benefit claiming? its not right,but its her business and it doesnt reflect parenting skills.

Smoking is a habit and a very difficult one to break again thats nobody elses business.

Something has clearly happened for this presumably young potentially vulnerable Mum to lose her confidence in school and Id try and support her and help her see the other options if I were really only interested in supporting children Id grown fond of.

Ill say it again Home Education is not a cop out or an easy life nor do you have to be a professor yourself to be good at it.

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MrsDrOwenHunt · 29/03/2011 07:22

thanks everyone for thier advice and to nick I dont know how many times i have to make the same point but this girl is not a vunerable mum at all and if you would have read my posts properly you would see that. Her living conditions are through her doing, she could be in a bigger house but she decided to blow the money on rubbish that she was meant to pay rent with, she smokes heavily in the house where there are 5 dc, yes smoking is a habit but you do not have to inflict your habit on innocent children. nothing has happened to this mum apart from realising that if you keep on banging out dc you will NEVER have to work, she has never worked, she boasts that she gets over £1000 a week and last week her dc all came to school on brand new bikes. I say dragged because they are being dragged they dont want to leave school, they have been crying about it. to all you that have giving me helpful replies thankyou, to all those that have put snotty replies and bitched at me, you really are wasting your efforts, takes alot lot more to upset me!

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