Leaving my daughter on Holiday.

[SillyPig]

Me and my family have gone on holiday to Australia. It has been an amazing time and we’ve met up with some of my old school friends here. My child (16 girl) has struck up a strong friendship with said friends daughter (16 also).

Us adults are going out for a night on the town. Well as much as I can nowadays. I was wondering if I should leave my daughter home alone.

She is very mature for her age reading well above her peers. Reads more mature books than me. So I feel like she can be left alone safely.

However some part of me feels really uncomfortable leaving my daughter home alone in a new country. I’m going to leave her my card so they can order some pizza (probably a mistake) and they have my phone number. But it’s weird, some part of me feel like I shouldn’t go.

I know I’m being ridiculous but has anyone else felt like this.

As.PP.said make.sure she knows the emergency phone number just in case (even though she'll be at the other girl you never know what might happen)
Its stuck with me since hearing about Kim K being robbed in paris, none of them knew what number to call for the police so has to call. security instead

You sound ridiculously anxious. She’s 16…and does it actually matter if they order too much pizza ffs? 🤦‍♀️ (Unless ‘pizza’ is a code name for crack cocaine??)

Lighten up OP!

Right?? This bit is so bizarre!! 😂🤯😵‍💫

This! My son is dyslexic and doesn’t really read books. Does that mean he couldn’t be left alone at 16? 😂😂😂

I also thought you meant, leave her in Australia.

You mean mean her staying in alone/with someone her age for company whilst you're both on the same holiday.

She's 16. Not a child. I babysit from age 14, and went abroad with a friend at 16.

Really struggle to comprehend why she wouldn't be ok on her own eating pizza. Unless she doesn't want to be left alone, in which case I wouldn't.

She's 16 and in a safe country. Unless there's a drip feed about additional needs, you're really overthinking this.

Not sure what her reading abilities have to do
with her safety in a place you do not know. I would
think it depends more on her maturity and sensibility. Is she likely to sneek of, drink, meet boys, or meet people she doesn’t know and get into a dodgy situation. Does she know how to get help where she is. Does she know the laws? Does she know the area if she was to get lost or mixed up with someone, does she have contact numbers ?

She's 16! Of course you can leave her alone in the house. Surely she goes out and about with her friends when in UK with no adult supervision, so I'm sure a night at home is perfectly fine. Sheis 16 not 6!

I know. Reading was my favourite hobby as a child and I definitely wouldn’t have trusted me to stay on my own at 16 😂.

Yep, I’d have no issue meaning her. Esp as she isn’t alone anyway but with someine who lives there.

Your vote though…
I voted Yes on the ground the question was should I leave dd, as per your thread title. I suspect many other people have been making the same mistake….

What’s her reading skills got to do with anything? It’s common sense she needs. If you think she has common sense then leave her, if not, then don’t.

I thought you were going to leave her in Australia. Then I thought I must have misread her age as 6 when you mention her reading ability.
I’d expect 2 x 16 year old girls to be going out by themselves.

Your voting makes little sense,
what does her reading age have to do with it? I’ve never thought oh well my son is a marvellous mature reader so I shall be fine to leave him home alone…?
you either trust her to be responsible or you do not. All this faffing is ridiculous, just stay at home I couldn’t be bothered with the backwards and forwards.

My god I thought you were going to say she wanted to stay behind in the country after you left. Which would have been ok. You’re talking about leaving her for an evening?!

My concern would be the other girl inviting her friends round for a party.

I am ao confused.
Are you taking about leaving her by herself or with a friend for an evening? Based on the headline it sounded like you're going back home and she wants to stay another month backpacking.

I'm glad she can read, but your worry is that she will order too much pizza? And the friend isnt who she says she is, eventhough it is your friends daughter?

vote doesn’t make sense. Yes leave her. She’s never had time alone before?!

Exactly!

They them what? Too confusing. Yes, a 16 year old is fine to be alone but I have no idea what you’re actually asking

This is bizarre. Of course you can go.

She is old enough and in a country that she can speak the language too. I don’t see any issues with that. Plus Australia is super safe. Our kids here (Sydney) are playing unsupervised in the neighbourhood.

Sounds fine to me!

Is she sensible or is she not? Do you trust her or do you not? Can you give her a budget? You can spend this max and I will call you half way through the evening to make sure you are ok.

Or is it just your fears? Insecurities and anxieties? Thinking the worse. No judging as I have been there.

DD15 recently invited some friends, she did not want anyone home. I trusted her, made sure everyone went out; asked to buy food, let us know when she wanted us back, They left by 9pm, the house was the same as we left it. She didn’t feed them, said they weren’t hungry 🙈 and that they just watched a movie.

I also thought you were going to
fly home and left her there for a few more weeks with your friend.

Also, mentioning reading ability for a 16 year old is weird

Oh that’s exactly what I did! I voted the opposite to what I meant. That will teach me to not properly read the question!