Leaving my daughter on Holiday.

[SillyPig]

Me and my family have gone on holiday to Australia. It has been an amazing time and we’ve met up with some of my old school friends here. My child (16 girl) has struck up a strong friendship with said friends daughter (16 also).

Us adults are going out for a night on the town. Well as much as I can nowadays. I was wondering if I should leave my daughter home alone.

She is very mature for her age reading well above her peers. Reads more mature books than me. So I feel like she can be left alone safely.

However some part of me feels really uncomfortable leaving my daughter home alone in a new country. I’m going to leave her my card so they can order some pizza (probably a mistake) and they have my phone number. But it’s weird, some part of me feel like I shouldn’t go.

I know I’m being ridiculous but has anyone else felt like this.

Oooh what's the gossip

DD told OP and DH she’s aroace. DH said to DD that she just hadn’t met the right person. DD got offended, said DH was homophobic. Holiday in jeopardy. OP has a history of not updating her threads.

Had to Google the word aroace as thought you were just stubborningly repeating the same typo 😂

Fucking hell. Yeah I think your dd will be okay op. It doesnt sound like shes going to be ordering the super spicy pizza whike youre out

Ah, you again!

Oh. I don't remember that poster's username.

Anyway, what I said before stands - two 16yos, both of whom speak the language, one of whom knows the area, should be perfectly capable of going out to a pizza restaurant together. They don't need to stay in and order, unless they want to watch a football match or something.

dw, OP. If there's a crisis she can always read her way out of it 🙂

Not sure what her reading level has to do with anything 😂🫣

From the heading I thought you were leaving her there and coming back on your own!

Limit how much you let them spend and leave them to it. They're both 16, for heaven's sake. What do you think they'll actually do?

Voting question is ridiculous. I voted yes leave her . Who the hell votes no don't not leave her?

To clarify 16yo will be fine at home in Australia

Leaving a mature 16 year old is fine. Although reading age isn't an indicator of maturity and ability to keep themselves safe. Some people are very advanced readers but very delayed in reading social cues/recognising danger/responding in an emergency.

She’s not even by herself!

I vote no don’t not leave her, or whatever option means go out and loosen those apron strings.

This is ridiculous. We all have phones now, she can contact you if there is a problem. She is old enough to go out for dinner on her own so I am sure leaving her alone is fine.

Ummm that link says 16 and 17 year olds can stay doesn't it?

I honestly don't know what her reading ability has to do with her being allowed to be unsupervised at the age of 16 .

The vote choice is a bit weird .
I would leave a sensible 16 year old alone (at your rental holiday home ?) in a safe English speaking country .
I would have done this with my 2 older girls but not with my younger daughter when she was 16 ( SEN )
When we were in France 🇫🇷 Portugal 🇵🇹 and in Spain 🇪🇸 we didn’t do that because my girls don’t speak those languages and I wouldn’t want them to be flustered if they needed help .
And yes I do know that many in the above countries speak English but felt I’d rather stay with the girls or they come out with us

Your voting is too hard for my head in this heat but she fine to be left

AIBU to leave my 192 month old, who is reading at a MUCH more advanced level than her peers, for approx 3 hours with another 192 month old. They will eat pizza and maybe read some, obviously the lesser gifted child will have a picture book and some crayons. AIBU?

@Zucker im not sure. The crayons could be a choking hazard. Make sure you cut them in half first.

The question should read - should I leave my daughter

dh and I had to read your question several times to work out the answer is yes you’re ok to leave a 16 year old whilst you go out therefore no was the answer required

im pretty sure yes is in the lead as people mean yes, leave her rather than the no answer your question requires if you mean it’s ok to leave her

going to go and lie down now in a darkened room, my brain is fried from trying to work it out

You're not leaving her alone though.

I wouldn't leave a card, get her what she needs yourself.

I thought this was going to be, going home and leaving her.

No means leave her, yes means do not leave her based on the weirdly worded question!!! Took us ages to work it out

At 17 I left home for a year to travel in Africa. I know the world has changed a bit… but still. 16 is normal to be going out without parents, so staying home is fine!

I guarantee your daughter has a side you don't see when you're out of sight. Which is a good thing.

I’m confused by your voting. She’ll be fine to be left

I'm also distracted by the 'mature' reader - at 16 my peers and I, my DC and most of their friends, all read like adults. Presumably you leave your DD home alone quite often in the UK? Or would leave her with a friend? Australia is a different country but not a hugely different culture and she knows the language. Hopefully the exchange rate will give her a shock and she won't spend too much on pizza but set a limit if you're worried. Have a lovely evening, all of you.

I don’t understand why her reading ability is an indicator of her ability to be left alone?