My partner has turned round and told me a couple of weeks ago he is going away for 4 nights to New York with a friend. I feel insanely upset that he wants to be that far away from our 4 young kids who are 2 6 8 and 11 not to mention I am so worried about his safety. It comes from not having a big family network around if something happens to him and having to put up with a lot of clearing off abroad before we had kids. I kinda thought those days were done. He has experienced the loss of family members in last couple of years so thinking that may be a contributing factor. His mate has been absolutely relentless about going too not caring that I have said outright im not comfortable. Am I being unreasonable? I just couldn't be that far from our babies for that long and I dont understand him. I feel almost embarrassed it prob sounds insane.