A question about Japanese culture.

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A while ago I worked with an elderly Japanese lady who gave me her card and said to please visit her any time I was in Tokyo. Well I’ll be in Tokyo soon. I’ve read in some places that this is just a custom to invite people to visit you and they don’t actually mean for you to visit them - it’s just polite to offer (kind of like in the uk you might say to an acquaintance “we should catch up soon!” When you bump into them in the street - this is not a direct invitation, it’s more a polite thing to say). Would it be weird to actually visit her? Sorry for my ignorance, it would be lovely to see her again but I don’t want to show up if culturally it was just a politeness and not a sincere invitation.

I worked in Japan and find Japanese people very hospitable. In terms of visiting, I would tell her your dates and where you are staying and suggest meeting up. Take her gifts from home. If she does invite you to her home, she may take it seriously and make a huge effort, so just be very respectful and courteous - less casual than here. She may also want to show you the sights and pay for you. Don't assume it obviously but be aware they do take hosting seriously and tend to be very generous and hospitable.

@Xmasbaby11thank you for your response, that’s good to know. I will do so, good to leave the ball in her court I suppose.

A friend of mine lived in Japan for a few years and she old me being on time is seen as an essential .I am sure you will enjoy being there.