Is a separate hotel room acceptable for two teenage boy

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My boys are 18 & 13. They are both from a previous relationship. I've booked a holiday in Corfu for the them, myself and my partner. We have been together 8 years now.
We've taken them away every year for the last 6 years and have previously always booked a family room.
Last year the sleeping arrangements meant the boys were sharing a double sofa bed. This led to a number of squabbles between them.
So, this year I have booked two rooms. One for the boys and one for me and my partner.
They will have their own beds, no sharing and of course their own bathroom.

It is by no means seen by either me or my partner as an opportunity to give my 13 year old more independence; expect my 18 year old to be more responsible for my other son, or a way of me and my partner having more time to ourselves.

It will be a typical family holiday where we'll do everything together except obviously sleeping in the same room.

Is this irresponsible? Is my youngest son too young to sleep in a room with his brother?

The youngest has been on school trips and sleep overs but my ex is refusing to let him go on the holiday with us this year unless I change the rooms to a single family room. I've checked and at the moment, there are no family rooms available, so we couldn't change it even if we wanted to.

It's fine. Why would a 13 year old need to share with his parents

What is your ex concerned about?

Your ex is being ridiculous, of course he’ll be fine and there won’t be any issues from the hotel point of view either since the 18 year old will be with him. I’d request rooms next to each other for peace of mind but that’s as far as you need to go

Assuming no special needs etc it's totally, totally fine!

Tell ex you've booked them as connecting rooms, so they have their own beds but there's only a door between you, rather than risk them being somewhere else in the hotel. Then in their own room is fine but I'd not want them far away.

My sons (13 and 15) shared a hotel room last year rather than having a family room. They were next door and it worked fine

What concerns does your ex have?

The 18 year old is an adult..your 13 year old will be fine with him. Your ex is just being awkward as it sounds like a lovely holiday

Of course our kids have shared a separate room to us from about 10

I don't see the concern. Two teens of same sex share bedroom on holiday?!
Seems totally normal.

There's no reason they each need a room, nor that the younger one should share with parents.
I'd have always put the kids and adults separate, as soon as the youngest was above about 6.

Unless someone's loaded and then each person can have a separate room with ensuite?

erm at 13 definitely old enough even for a room by himself if it's very close to your one. i would expect to have done this by early teens not when they are an adult.

Basically you need to answer this - are they responsible enough to a. not completely trash the room and b. get out if there is a major fire. if they are they can sleep in their own rooms. assume they do not sleep in your bedroom at home

This is totally normal. Your older son is 18 year old, so you'll be following rules that require an adult in each room.

No issue imo. We have an 11yr old and an 18 yr old and they've shared a separate room for the last 2 years of holidays. The fug of teen boy in a family room kind of takes the shine off imo.

Preferably on the same floor, but last year they were on the floor below and that was fine - we'd collect them for breakfast and mobile phone contact is a thing.

Absolutely fine! Your ex is being jealous and weird.

It's completely normal - mine have had separate rooms since they were 12 and 10! If he refuses permission (assuming you don't have a 'lives with' order in which case you don't need permission) the cost for a specific issue order will cost about £200 if he is being an arse.

Ask your ex is he is happy about his teenage children sharing a room with an unrelated naked man?

I think you need to email the hotel and ask to be in adjacent rooms , your Ex can explain his issue to the 13 year old ! Having teen boys rather him than me .

Of course the boys will be fine in their own room! Ask for ones next to each other if you’re genuinely worried.

Sounds to me like your ex is jealous you get proper alone holiday time with new partner!

Absolutely ridiculous. Me and my brother had a separate (albeit next door) room to my parents from 12 and 10. Your 18 yo is old enough to leave home

Your older son is an adult, so I don't really see how this is irresponsible.

Sounds amazing 😂 perfect set up. Ok ex I'll try to change it. If not are you ok to have the boys for the week?

He just wants to spoil your shagging time with partner.

Tell him you've changed it then when you get there, oops sorry hotel made a boo-boo, tough luck that's how it is.

My kids have had their own hotel room on holiday since they were 14&10. It’s brilliant for all of us and well worth the extra cost. That first year we all went to our rooms (next door to each other) at the same time at night. Last year (15&11) DH and I stayed out after dinner for a last drink or a walk when they went back. The eldest babysits for youngest at home so it felt no different.

Our 2, boy and girl, shared a room from about 11 or 12. Now they are 24 and 21, if we go away together, they still share.

Is your ex worried that the 18 year old will be going out drinking and returning with someone else with him?

Otherwise it sounds like he is being awkward just to make things awkward.

We have done it. 16, 14 and 13 year old in a room alone. No biggie.