Is a separate hotel room acceptable for two teenage boy

[ILoveGoldenSheps]

My boys are 18 & 13. They are both from a previous relationship. I've booked a holiday in Corfu for the them, myself and my partner. We have been together 8 years now.
We've taken them away every year for the last 6 years and have previously always booked a family room.
Last year the sleeping arrangements meant the boys were sharing a double sofa bed. This led to a number of squabbles between them.
So, this year I have booked two rooms. One for the boys and one for me and my partner.
They will have their own beds, no sharing and of course their own bathroom.

It is by no means seen by either me or my partner as an opportunity to give my 13 year old more independence; expect my 18 year old to be more responsible for my other son, or a way of me and my partner having more time to ourselves.

It will be a typical family holiday where we'll do everything together except obviously sleeping in the same room.

Is this irresponsible? Is my youngest son too young to sleep in a room with his brother?

The youngest has been on school trips and sleep overs but my ex is refusing to let him go on the holiday with us this year unless I change the rooms to a single family room. I've checked and at the moment, there are no family rooms available, so we couldn't change it even if we wanted to.

What reasons does your ex have? How have previous holidays been ? Any issues before? Did you ask your ex first ? Anything you can think as to why after no problems before ? I’m asking as I’m in this EXACT situation …. And I’m not a crazy ex at all but in my situation I have concerns as my youngest sleep walks, the last holiday their dad took them on , my boys phoned me constantly saying they wanted to come home and were arguing the whole time . Even my ex said he didn’t know if he would ever take then abroad together again but this year he is with his partner and to “ solve “ the problem they have booked then a room on their own… because out of sight out of mind right ? Every child / family is different so not one shoe fits all. Maybe try book adjoining rooms, or get confirmation from hotel that you will be in the room next door. Just from my point of view if your ex has concerns then talk to her reasonably and come up with a compromise rather asking on here ?

Seems a good sensible solution. Ignore your ex.

Do you all sleep in one room at home? If not, why do you think you’d need to sleep in one room in a hotel. The 18-year-old is an adult. If he can vote, buy alcohol, join the army, get married, etc I’m sure he can be responsible enough to watch his 13-year-old brother, who will be asleep most of the time he’s in the room.

Are your sons comfortable with sharing together? If so, your ex is being odd; the arrangement you propose sounds much much more comfortable (and fun) than the four of you in one room!

If there's fear of (for example) the 18yo bullying the 13yo, your ex should be telling you this specifically - even if he has full custody of the boys and you only see them for the holiday, you're still their parent and need to know the full context.

Your ex is trying to cock block you.

Excellent is being ridiculous

@ILoveGoldenSheps My DDs shared when they were much younger than this! Your 18 year old is an adult! My DDs shared on safari holidays where we were escirted to and from our accommodation. They went on 1 term school exchanges at 13 and we didn’t go with them. They went to South Africa and back from the uk. How on earth anyone could think brothers sharing is irresponsible is beyond me! You are just next door surely? Of course it’s ok.

HNRTFT but I find these posts crazy! My children slept in different rooms from us from the age of 3 and 4 ! Cannot think of anything worse than sharing one room for a family of 4 .

Er what?

Your toddlers were in a seperate hotel room from you?

I'd find a family room in the most expensive hotel and tell ex if you want me to change the room it is the extra to pay, I'm guessing that there's no problems between your 13 & 18 year old, so I wouldn't have a problem with them in a separate room