Is a separate hotel room acceptable for two teenage boy

[ILoveGoldenSheps]

My boys are 18 & 13. They are both from a previous relationship. I've booked a holiday in Corfu for the them, myself and my partner. We have been together 8 years now.
We've taken them away every year for the last 6 years and have previously always booked a family room.
Last year the sleeping arrangements meant the boys were sharing a double sofa bed. This led to a number of squabbles between them.
So, this year I have booked two rooms. One for the boys and one for me and my partner.
They will have their own beds, no sharing and of course their own bathroom.

It is by no means seen by either me or my partner as an opportunity to give my 13 year old more independence; expect my 18 year old to be more responsible for my other son, or a way of me and my partner having more time to ourselves.

It will be a typical family holiday where we'll do everything together except obviously sleeping in the same room.

Is this irresponsible? Is my youngest son too young to sleep in a room with his brother?

The youngest has been on school trips and sleep overs but my ex is refusing to let him go on the holiday with us this year unless I change the rooms to a single family room. I've checked and at the moment, there are no family rooms available, so we couldn't change it even if we wanted to.

This was my first thought.

My children always had their own room right from when they were toddlers. What am I missing here ?!

Just tell the ex it’s a family room and deal with it when you get back he’s being ridiculous

I started doing this with my kids when they were 9 and 12 and carried on right through their teens when they came away with us.
I don't know what your ex is getting his knickers in a twist over.

Your ex is just trying to ruin your sex life, what a bastard. You can tell him you've asked for a childrens bed to go in your room. And then get the permission letter from him.

Just make sure you tell the hotel they can't order room service to their room! My siblings once spent a small fortune on milkshakes and hamburgers in a posh hotel when they were in a separate room from my parents. Many hundreds of pounds...

When ours were small we used to book a suite with separate sleeping area, when they were slightly older we progressed to connecting rooms that we locked the outer corridor door and left the connecting one open but by the time they were teens we had no problem at all with them in a separate room.

Totally fine. I run school trips, and kids share hotel bedrooms at that age (and younger!!).

@ILoveGoldenSheps does your hotel do adjoining rooms? ie. the boys have a twin room that adjoins to yours.

That would be the best answer. If not then can you change to another hotel that does

Absolutely fine.

I have twins they were in a separate room from us from about 12.

Completely normal.

The elder is an adult, what's the issue?

Thanks everyone. So very comforting knowing this is not something anyone thinks is irresponsible and seems to be perfectly normal.
Unfortunately no real reasons or concerns shared. No worry about the 18 year old drinking too much. They are both fairly mature for their ages.
Hoping I can find a resolution.

I'd happily put a 13 year old in his own room TBH. Last year I went away with DS and DH (not his dad) and he had his own room at 14. Your ex is being controlling. Book it and apply to court for a single issue order if necessary. He won't win.

What on earth is wrong with that?

ILoveGoldenShepsdoes your hotel do adjoining rooms? ie. the boys have a twin room that adjoins to yours

That would be the best answer. If not then can you change to another hotel that does
Why though?
I dont understand the need to potentially change hotels.
Blimey ,if I could have afforded it I would have had three bedrooms one for me and dh and one each for the lads

my only question would be how you are going to get them up each day? Both my DC would have slept happily through until late afternoon 😉

Knock on their door? Phone them? Hotel wake up call? This is a total non issue!

Your ex is being an ass. The 18 year old is an adult so no chance of nim stopping the 18 year old.

My parents stopped getting family rooms when we were about 10/11.

Why wouldn’t you want to give your 13 year old more independence? We had separate rooms from our parents on holidays from aged 10 and 12. Your ex is being ridiculous and petty.

Sorry to jump on here with a question. I have young teens and always search for a hotel with jnterconnecting rooms or apartments. If you have them in separate rooms do people just ignore hotel policy on there being an over 18 required in each room?

Sorry to jump on here with a question. I have young teens and always search for a hotel with jnterconnecting rooms or apartments. If you have them in separate rooms do people just ignore hotel policy on there being an over 18 required in each room?
When I did this, years ago I didn't realise it was a policy. Every where we went we just booked two rooms and that was that. We never had any issues.

Absolutely fine. Total none issue.

Theoretically, your older son could take your younger son on holiday to a different country, let alone a different hotel... or just a different room.

An interconnecting for would be great, but not vital. Your ex is having fun trying to control you. Ignore him.

We've booked a holiday this year with Tui with a 14 and 11 year old and the system literally wouldn't let us book 1 room, we had to have 2.