Husband wanted holiday for himself

[Taffy8567]

Keep it brief, DH, DD early teen & I on Holiday.

husband wanted holiday so he can proceed to sunbathe all day (it’s very hot) and just sleep after evening meal.

I would much rather be at home. Day 2 of 7, hurrah!

To be fair I thought it looked dreadful but I wouldn’t have booked it!

Did you not discuss the holiday beforehand? DH would probably happily lie on a beach for 2 weeks but I'd be bored rigid, so we always booked something with a mix of relaxing and things to do and activities suitable for dc's age. If DH wanted to sunbathe and we didn't we'd go out and vice versa.

Why did you go? Why are you not leaving him to it and doing something interesting?

@GiddyGladys I think the disappointment of the poster in Crete was more about her holiday in Rhodes being cancelled and that being a poor second best.

Doesn't sound like you like you husband much tbh, do you have separate lives at home?

So..take control, you like cycling so hire a bike and head off on your own or with DD, watch some films, go for a walk, read a book, sightseeing, market browsing... I really don't get people who go on holiday and then complain they're bored. It's only one week, you can catch up with friends and study when you get home.

Go and do something you enjoy then. You could have easily brought drawing or sewing supplies with you if you’d have wanted.

you could go go for a mooch around when it cools down after dinner if your husband wants to go to sleep. Take your dd out for an ice cream or find some live music. Don’t just sit there getting annoyed because your husband doesn’t want to do much.

My husband likes to sunbathe all day on holiday. I don't.

I go for a run, go to the hotel gym, hire a bike and cycle etc. Go off on your own and do your own thing

I'd be pretty irritated by that

My understanding of the OP’s posts is that this the type if hols her DH likes but not what she enjoys doing at all.
So she is there (prob having said Yes to keep the peace) and still not enjoying herself.

And Tbf, whilst this is the type of hols a lot if people enjoy, I’d hate it too. It doesn’t sound like a family hols (as in one where you do things together) either 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Yes, but what is stopping her going and doing her own thing? I like a minimum of 2 days sunbathing/lazing by the pool or on the beach in a 7 day holiday. I wouldn't be bothered if others wanted to do something else.

Fair enough. I'm just jealous after a washout wedding at the weekend that I'd been looking forward to going to.

Sounds like it’s stressful as she’s tied to a week of doing things she doesn’t like and isn’t used to in order that dh can get exactly what he wants.
I would treat the holiday as if I was single and there alone. Do some things you’d like to do. Leave dd chilling with with dad if she’d prefer that.

By the sounds of it, because it's too bloody hot where they are to do anything except swelter at the beach or hide indoors with the A/C running.

I fully sympathize - exactly why I would never book the Mediterranean outside the April/May timeframe when you can actually go and explore the surroundings. For the height of summer, just gimme the Baltic or North Sea coast/Iceland/Alaska.

Surely there some thing to do nearby? Can you go off on a walk/excursions/visit a local site?

better to get up and find something you enjoy doing than to sit there being unhappy.

Just say no next time. He can go by himself.

It depends where they are doesn’t it?
It sounds like it’s extremely hot so many activities are out.
There might not be a lot to do outside the resort etc…
And seing what she enjoys, I doubt that going out in the evening to find live music and/or a busy bar is what the OP enjoys either.

What exactly is stopping you studying, drawing, sewing, or watching comedy? Or going for a walk in the late evening/early morning?

That's not really her husbands fault though. If it's too hot for her to do anything and there is no where to go then relaxing and making the most of it is the only real option.

Unless they just want to sit in their rooms.

Why does him wanting to relax stop you doing anything? Go out and do things if you want to!

Even I couldn't get worked up about this and I am Chief Moaner

I think everyone is missing that there is also a child on this holiday. I don't know any parents who get to do exactly what they want for the entirety of a holiday with kids in tow. Sounds like he's completely checked out.
I'm just back from holidaying with a teen and whilst I could happily do nothing but sleep and read it wouldn't exactly be fair on my teen. I still got plenty time to do just that whilst doing some fun stuff for a couple of hours a day. Sounds very boring for your dd. You and her should go off and do stuff. Try a watersport, take a bus to a nearby town, go on a boat trip, whatever you fancy!

Holidays are there to relax after working hard every other day.

But I couldn’t just lie by the pool, sunbathe and sleep all day.

I’d book some excursions by yourself and see some of the culture that country has to offer.

i think I get where you’re coming from OP. Once you’re home and discussing the next holiday have a chat about what might work best for everyone

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How dare he and teen DC enjoy themselves on holiday doing what they want to do.
Go and find something you want to do, and do it!