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Mozhe IS NOT going back to work next week after all......

818 replies

mozhe · 16/07/2007 13:36

.....no, have decided to delay it by a week or so......Mr Mozhe is on 'incubator watching' duties....P-in-L's are manning the home front,( and DSsX3...), with nice new aupair....and Mozhe,Nanny and DTs are off to St Barts,( in lovely Carribean...),for a week's sun/swim/chill out !!
Any one been before ? Any pointers ? Off first thing tomorrow......

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eleusis · 16/07/2007 21:29

There is some really vile stuff on this thread and none of it is posted under the name Mozhe. It has been a bitof a running joke, really, that she and Xenia run back to work and no one can comprehend it. So, here she has posted in a very light hearted fashion hey look guys I'm not going back after all. And up rose the depths of Hell to condemn her qualifications as a mother. FFS, behave yourselves.

Some people of course have said hey it's not for me I think your crazy but it's your choice. And I am not referring to those posts. I tend to agree with you. I probably wouldn't go more than a mile from that hospital. But,then I'm not Mozhe.

HonoriaGlossop · 16/07/2007 21:43

Yes Hula Mozhe's motivation must have alot to do with attention seeking; the situation she's describing is very unusual indeed and she knows mumsnet and I'm sure knew very well indeed how this thread would develop.

Mozhe, I wish you a good holiday and from my heart I wish that you are lucky and that nothing goes wrong with your baby while you are gone. I understand that this is a choice you make consistent with your style of parenting but I think any parent would regret not being around should something go seriously wrong. The baby's father is there and as you say you would not go otherwise, however in the worst case scenario would his presence make up for you not being there?

As I say statistically I'm sure luck is on your side and I sincerely wish that all goes well. But not a choice that many people could make.

emkana · 16/07/2007 21:48

I agree with cod that it's the tone that is rather shocking.

Ds wasn't in SCBU, but he had to spend five days on the paediatric ward when he was less than a week old.

To be perfectly honest, I didn't really want to be there. I was in shock, and my overwhelming feeling was that I wanted to be with my dd's. I was so worried about their reaction to the situation, and I was missing them desperately.

Nevertheless I stayed with ds the whole time, because I felt it was my duty as his mother to do this, and I'm glad I did. I certainly couldn't have gone this far away.

binkleandflip · 16/07/2007 21:50

The tone was purposely very flippant and provocative, I felt.

Bubble99 · 16/07/2007 21:52

If this is for real, mozhe, then I think you may be in shock or some kind of post-partum thing.

My DS3 was in a SCBU after his twin died during labour. TBH, I was in such a state, I almost forgot that he even existed and had to be gently cajoled by the MWs to go and see him after 12 hours.

So, is this some kind of a 'denial' thing? Because I think you must know that to leave a newborn, well or otherwise, is not a good thing to do.

If this is a wind-up, then it is a particularly cruel one...

HonoriaGlossop · 16/07/2007 21:55

that's my point, binkle.

Tis the mental health professionals who often have the most...ahem...interesting psychological make-up.

i can say that only cos I work kind of in this area but am not what would be classed as a MH professional.

sweetkitty · 16/07/2007 22:05

at this thread

Was going to stay away but sod it here's my opinion - I personally could never leave a premmie baby to jet off to the other side of the world. I probably am too attached to my DC's I've never left them overnight or for more than half a day.

We aren't going on holiday this year because having an 18mo and a 3yo to us it wouldn't be a holiday having to look after them in a strange country. So to me having a rest would not be taking 2 14 mo twins on holiday.

Whether it's true or not I think the "Look at me I've 5 kids, a brilliant career, loads of hired help, can jet off to St Barts on a private plane 2 weeks after my baby is born" just smacks of someone trying too hard. I'm sure there are people like this they just get on and do it and don't come on mumsnet to broadcast it.

Walnutshell · 16/07/2007 22:11

Maybe it's the lure of the little following crowd of admirers that can't be resisted, sweetkitty?

Or just bollocks.

mummylin2495 · 16/07/2007 22:30

I find it very strange that a mum who dosent seem to have the normal maternal bond to her little newborn would even think of having six children.Maybe its me thats odd !

Tortington · 16/07/2007 22:31

maybe its becuase all newborns are ugly?

LoonyLyraLovegood · 16/07/2007 22:32

Well said, sweetkitty.

LoonyLyraLovegood · 16/07/2007 22:32

custardo, my newborns were gorgeous

JeremyVile · 16/07/2007 22:34

Lots of people dont have the 'normal maternal bond' and go on to be fabulous, loving mothers.

Tortington · 16/07/2007 22:35

nope all ugly

HermionesPatronus · 16/07/2007 22:36

she is not too loving to her older boys - they gat to say home with gran
just the girls on waterskis

Quattrocento · 16/07/2007 22:37

custy you are both right. All newborns are ugly to the disinterested observer. To the besotted parents though, they're something else.

Loshad · 16/07/2007 22:38

HG - too true, very rare you meet a sane psychiatrist, my DH is one, but most of the others i know are barking.

JeremyVile · 16/07/2007 22:38

So are you condemning anyone who might go on holiday, leaving their dcs with gps as unloving?

Or just Mozhe?

Beachcomber · 16/07/2007 22:40

If this isn't a wind up then what strikes me is that if someone posted saying that they were planning on leaving a healthy fullterm newborn in order to take a completely unneccesary holiday, loads of us would think that was bonkers.

To say that a prem baby won't miss the mother is heartless, misinformed and a total disrespect of this poor baby.

HermionesPatronus · 16/07/2007 22:40

they have been through a tough time too
dad at hosp 24/7
twins with mum on beach
'us left here with nan?' hmmmmmmm

Bubble99 · 16/07/2007 22:41

Tsk,tsk,Custy!

You protest too much.

We all know that you have a part-time modelling career and that your last job was as the gurning 'mommy' on the Pampers 'Bibby-Babby-Arse-like-The-Sahara-it's-so-dry.'

Nappy campaign.

Tortington · 16/07/2007 22:43

i went on holiday for two weeks leaving my 3 children under 3 with their dad.

i am not maternal no there then. i don't like babies and they are all ugly so you can stick your schtick up yer arse.

Walnutshell · 16/07/2007 22:43

"Lots of people dont have the 'normal maternal bond' and go on to be fabulous, loving mothers."

Simplistic! Irrelevant!

Tortington · 16/07/2007 22:44

sorry bubble none of my last post was intended for you.

hope you are lobbying for an outside area at the xmas doo?

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