Hi
No one on here knows me, but I gave birth at 29 weeks to twins. they were in scbu for 8 weeks, so still came home before they were 'due'. I think everything that i was feeling as I read the post has been said, so it's gonna sound like old news now but....
My boys were 'fine', just tiny and sleepy, so yes i just watched them, changed bums and did kangeroo care as much as i could. I could have left them for a weeks holiday at anytime, but didn't WANT to. Then at 4 weeks, I got a chest infection and couldn't go to see them for a WHOLE week! Every day my DH would go do the feeds and come home with pictures, they changed so much in that week i was actually scared i wouldn't love them when i went back! It was the worst week of my life.
THEN one of my boys just stopped breathing and had to be resuscitated and put back in an incubator. this happened in the middle of the night and the staff didn't tell me til the morning (i was at home). Even those few hours when i wasn't there have killed me ever since, if i had been on holiday when this happened, god, it's unimaginable. He is now 2 and a half and fine, but it will stay with me forever. Especially as another mum of premmie twins WAS there at the time and saw the whole thing.
Anyway my point is, I FELT like i needed a holiday the entire time they were in there, who wouldn't, it's draining (and I kinda got one)....BUT to actually go....no never......everyday is an achievement for a premmie, at two weeks old they met each other for the first time, that was unreal....one did try and eat the other but hey!
Oh and the milk thing, he will go through what you have expressed no probs, mine did, i couldn't keep up with demand in the end.
I not gonna be bitchy, or rude, just say i think it is unwise as you simply DO NOT know what will happen and yes if anything bad does happen, your DH will be there, but surely DH will need you too for support. A sick child is the worst possible stress and to go through it alone is awful. As soon as i found out how ill my little one had got, my dh left work and spent all afternoon at his bedside with me because i needed him.
Anyway, enough preaching.....i won't do the pleasantarys, of enjoy your holiday blah blah, because i don't mean it....I say, PLEASE think about this and if necessary send your kids for a holiday with grandparents and just dedicate your time to your little one, because once he's home he will be competing with your other kids for attention and by the looks of it he will lose everytime.