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Student finance and support for autistic DS starting university as a mature student

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Pleasedontdothat · 29/08/2026 13:34

Ds is 26 and has just applied through clearing for uni starting this academic year. He is autistic and suffered from debilitating depression for several years. He couldn’t cope with school sixth form and dropped out halfway through, he tried doing a BTEC the following year and only managed a few weeks. He had a couple of placements sorted out by the local authority’s SEN department, did get a job which was ring fenced for young adults with ASD but at the time still couldn’t cope. We persuaded him to move home and eventually he agreed (things usually took a long time to percolate through his brain..) only for his dad to die unexpectedly the day after he moved back which sent him into a further tailspin of depression. It’s taken a while but he has gradually been getting better and last month he completed an Access to HE course. This week he said he wanted to apply for uni this year through clearing and he’s been offered a place doing the course he wants at a relatively local university. It’s come as a bit of a shock as he always used to take ages to make decisions. Could someone talk me through what he needs to do regarding student loans - am I right in thinking that he’ll be classed as independent so my income won’t be taken into account? He’s been living at home and claiming UC - he was allowed to continue claiming during his access course but presumably that will change once he starts uni? He’s not sure yet if he’ll live at home and commute in or try to get student accommodation (but is not keen on living with a load of teenagers so would need to be somewhere catering for mature students). I’m immensely proud of him for getting this far but I’m very aware of how fragile his mental state has been for much of the last decade so I’m also feeling quite worried. I know that he’s 26 and therefore an adult but he has always been several years behind his peers socially and emotionally.

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Hapagirl48 · 29/08/2026 14:51

I don't have advice on your specific situation but please contact his uni's disablility services ASAP. They will be able to talk you through this, help with Disabled Student Allowance and with accommodation. My DD is autistic but went straight from school so different from your DS. The disability services were invaluable.

Soontobe60 · 29/08/2026 15:18

Hapagirl48 · 29/08/2026 14:51

I don't have advice on your specific situation but please contact his uni's disablility services ASAP. They will be able to talk you through this, help with Disabled Student Allowance and with accommodation. My DD is autistic but went straight from school so different from your DS. The disability services were invaluable.

I would be very surprised if the services speak to anyone other than the student, especially if that student is 26!

Hapagirl48 · 29/08/2026 15:57

Soontobe60 · 29/08/2026 15:18

I would be very surprised if the services speak to anyone other than the student, especially if that student is 26!

They will with person’s consent but by “you” I meant OP or her son. Sorry that wasn't clear.

Iwantacampervan · 29/08/2026 16:57

Over 25s are classed by student finance as being independent and they will not look at your income, only that of the student.

AelinAG · 30/08/2026 13:56

He’s classed as independent so your income isn’t applicable for his finance. He should apply for it today as he’s very late in cycle for it. he should apply for DSA as part of it.

He should also contact disability services at his uni to get a support plan set up. If he’d like to, he can give you as a nominated contact so you can contact them on his behalf.

If I could offer some advice, I’d encourage him to stay at home. It’s a big transition and he hasn’t had a lot of lead in.

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