@mondaytosunday - I am not “shocked” about Durham - just said, amongst DD’s wider friendship group, Durham seems more popular than either Oxford or Cambridge, despite the fact that most will likely make the grades for Oxbridge and on the face of it, would have been the typical Oxbridge types when we went in the late 90s. Top grades, high achievers in other areas too, sociable, but probably more all rounders than just experts in one field. DD could have done A level English, History and a Language or A level Maths, Further Maths, Physics, Chemistry. She is equally good at verbal and non verbal reasoning, equally good at Maths and English, languages/music and science. Further on into employment, I am going to assume that being well rounded in communication and mathematical skills will be a good, not a bad thing.
I am just querying why some of these girls do not want to apply, despite grammar school suggesting it. If the reality on the ground is that you can only get a graduate job if you also have time to work on the side and doing too many essays and uni work at uni actively gets in the way of that (potentially if you do have to also work through some of the holidays academically), then perhaps, unless you are aiming for academia, then they are making the right decision to go somewhere else. So that is all I am questioning.