Uni offers and private school

[Mydogiscuter]

My DD attended a grammar school until sixth form when she was offered a significant academic and sports scholarship for a local private school, primarily because she plays sport at an elite level and also got all 7-9 grades at GCSE.

Our postcode falls in a deprived area and there is no way DD would have gone to the Private School without the scholarship. Will this be considered within her application?

Agree.

mumsneedwine I'm aware that saying 'Oxbridge heavy first post' sounds arsey but tbh I'm wary of compromising my DC's right to privacy. I'm genuinely surprised that your DD doesn't mind you making it so clear where her deanery is and which training pathway she's going to be on. The same with Needmoresleep where her DD's deanery is all but mentioned in every post. Perhaps your DC don't care but mine would. But then - possibly only a few posters like me with DC in the same profession can spot it. Maybe I'm overthinking it. So: intentionally vague but not intended to be arsey. And perhaps posters clear it with their DC first. I'm aware of just how small a world it is though, so possibly I'm overly careful.

If you know where my DDs deanery is you have been stalking me again. Weirdly I mess things around to keep things vague, so unless you’ve been asking around again, you have no clue thankfully. And I know yours is in central London as you mention it all the time, but genuinely don’t care.
Leave our kids personal details alone. It makes you look like a pretty nasty person every time.

mumsneedwine absurd. I can think of few things less interesting than 'stalking' a random poster on MN 😂You just often pop every time I'm on one of the few threads I post on or read - mostly medical threads - and you do post rather a lot. All good.

You may not realise you've done it but you have actually made it astonishingly clear where your DD is - I think hence my carefully worded alert. (Well, I thought carefully worded). I'm not clear I've ever said 'Central' London for mine either but I'll let that pass, even though strictly speaking the counsel do as you would be done by is good: I have no intention of mentioning any details about any other poster or their DC, as you've just done. Hence not mentioning specific GCSE results for Needmoresleep's DD, despite them having been posted about previously and despite an entirely unjustified comment about my own DD (being irked by private school kids). I happen to know your DD's area extremely well, and the hospitals in it. A family member (not a DC) was considering choosing the same deanery until very recently. It's a small world. If I was to say why I knew the deanery, that would be a pointer to the geographical area, which is precisely why I haven't said. Dates of training pathways being notified etc and exams/ no exams is quite niche, but again, worth being cautious.

Anyhow, I was really just explaining why I used the arsey term 'Oxbridge heavy first post'. I also mix things up a bit too though, especially if emailed by any other posters who I'm wary of - sometimes it's necessary to put distance between one's own life and people who live too nearly through MN. Fortunately for me, it hasn't happened too often.

mumsneedwine I was explaining my use of a particular term. I'm 100% not the bully here, as the various posts illustrate. But you are less discreet than you think and as I say, do as you would be done by: please stop introducing my own DC when I haven't done so. I've also made it clear that I'm not going to be indiscreet about where anyone else's DC is or what they're doing, unless their parent is completely free with the info (which would be unusual).

Yes of course I know that. Some pathways need it, some don't, some are run through, some are not and offers are announced at different times. That's exactly what I mean: those who know the system can easily put two and two together. So that was why I flagged caution. I'm not sure I see the same consideration coming my way though. I feel you should respect my privacy in the same way that I've respected yours.

Enough said I think.

It’s back. Not engaging anymore but MN monitoring for personal info. Again. Sorry everyone else, this happens all the time.

Good luck with Uni offers. WP does its job and mostly gets it right. PS this little guy is called Jeremy.

He / Him?

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I self deleted 😂

But mumsneedwine don't worry I really won't be giving anything away. I'm really quite seriously principled.

I feel like I'm in a fever dream - wtf is going on?! Anyway, OP, I wouldn't worry too much about contextual offers- they are highly variable, don't always make sense, and seem to unlock MN demons. My dd was fully state schooled, on FSM, had bad health problems in the run up to exams, didn't have a stable home life and had one parent permanently sectioned: only a couple of her offers were contextual (and one of those was from dear old Bristol, who seems to hand them out like smarties).

She'd had a tough year and it was v nice to have a little leeway, but tbh one grade lower (the most common contextual offer) isn't that big a deal, and she had to write a long essay for the access course straight after A levels finished - which she had to pass or have the contextual offer revoked. She did kind of wonder whether she'd have been better ff not having the contextual offer and having back that lost fortnight lying in the park with her friends!

So given all that, it always strikes me as odd to hear them discussed by people on here as though they're some kind of resource your child may find beneficial, like the Duke of Edinburgh scheme. You say you're in a low income area but not whether you yourself are low income (by which I mean FSM, not unable to afford the private school without a bursary). If not, just move away from what is not for you and focus on the things your dd really needs, like working out whether maths is for her. Good luck to her for whatever comes next.

Ketzele the thread went west when the point you make was made at an earlier stage. Essentially a general point about people seeking advantage which was never intended for them and which, arguably, it's unconscionable for them to claim.

Exeter has a postcode finder where you can tell if your postcode is on the list. Our area says "You may be eligible for a contextual offer because you live in an area with low participation in higher education and/or considered an area of high deprivation".

And Bristol has a list of aspiring schools.