'She' (i.e me) wasn't referring to you specifically, @poetryandwine , I was talking generally. And how I should have phrased it, to be pedantic and fully accurate, was "someone who comes across as thinking they understand fully and knows best".
Because usually we don't know what someone actually knows, we are going on perception. And as I said before, those of us with ND and children with ND pick up a sense of who these people tend to be.
Part of someone thinking they know more than they do about neurodiversity is that they are not open to the fact that there is a lot that they don't know, and to be led by the person with ND.
Ironically I note that your past posts focus more on you being right, and endorsed by others, rather than on how to make things better for neurodiverse students. You are interested in that, but you're agreeing with the academics that it's about the OP's daughter adjusting to things.
You've praised @WickDittington for giving the academic versus parent view, but at no point have you mentioned my viewpoint about how you were all missing how the OP's daughter would have expectations and would get stuck on 48 hours being given as a time frame, even though it won't take nearly as long. This is despite me being the only self-declared person on the thread with one of the same conditions as the OP. You've all- The Academics - ignored my points, including about how the university could better manage expectations for ND students (if I didn't already). I find that bemusing, and offensive. It suggests you do think you know best. You poetry have also since made a few snarky comments about autistic people and whether you come across as an expert, which isn't very nice and inclusive, is it?
I was the first person on here (to mirror language you've used about yourself) to say that the OP's DD should go to disability services not just about whether she can get this changed but to help her with adjusting to it. Because she will need help. She was told one thing, and has now got something she doesn't expect. Maybe she should have, I don't know if that was made clear enough to her.
I am on the fence as to whether this is unfair - because it's based on expectations for me and how clearly it was made to the OP's daughter that she may get a clash. I have never said she should have mitigations. But I completely understand how this has thrown her.
You never answered my question poetry about whether you are still working as an academic. I know that in 2021 you were saying you were a former 'lecturer' and STEM admissions tutor at a RG university. I think that you are not currently working in academia, but that as well as helping people, you get pleasure from the validation posting on here as an expert gives you. I hope that continues to bring you joy 