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Current Oxford/Cambridge students support/chat continued (2)

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Panicmode1 · 29/10/2023 11:46

The other thread is nearly full so I took the liberty of starting a new one...

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Malbecfan · 21/05/2024 21:17

Thanks all.

@Karolinska have you name-changed again? I can't keep up!

DD made it to Paris by bus. She has done that trip previously and used the tunnel but last night was a ferry and she was most put out to be woken up and told to get off the coach for the crossing. Then they got stuck in awful traffic. She spent the day in Paris and is now en route to Seoul (yes, I am a saddo tracking her flight).

Juja · 21/05/2024 22:15

@sytron What fun - I'm off to Bumps as well on Friday and Saturday- comfy shoes so you can run up and down the tow path. Depends which college as to which side of the river you'll be. DC1 is on boat house island and DC2 boats from Univ. So lots of walking. It's pretty casual unless you are going to a smart alumni lunch

Do look up the blades colours so you can pick out who is who: https://ourcs.co.uk/media/filer_public/df/b6/dfb640d8-8cc3-4e33-bcd1-f367e7577704/ourcs_blade_colours.pdf

Wednesday Starting order - will change each day: https://ourcs.co.uk/media/filer_public/56/af/56af0237-8713-464b-99d3-d2bb753bf57e/e24sta.pdf

https://ourcs.co.uk/media/filer_public/56/af/56af0237-8713-464b-99d3-d2bb753bf57e/e24sta.pdf

HoneyMobster · 22/05/2024 05:41

How funny that a number of us will be in Oxford for the rowing. Without outing ourselves we could declare Divisions?

DS1 is in Div 3. DD is in Div 2. I'm sure there are competitors here!

DS2 is pleased to see his siblings rowing. He's had a very successful season and is back from
Princeton in two weeks.

HoneyMobster · 22/05/2024 06:07

Scrap that. DD is Div 5!

whiteroseredrose · 22/05/2024 07:16

DD is in the middle of 3rd year exams (4 year course) but has said that she will be coming home briefly for her 21st which is wonderful. DS will be coming back too so the whole clan will be together.

Can I ask for help with ideas for a 21st present??

My parents are buying her a watch and she already has some good jewellery from them too.

DD has no idea and neither do we. DS had tech but she isn't really interested in that.

Suggestions would be gratefully received.

HewasH2O · 22/05/2024 08:11

@whiteroseredrose Slightly out of the ordinary, but DD had some pieces of Le Creuset from her grandparents. We gave her a painting.

I've been popping back to see how those who had a 4 year degree compared to DD's 3 years are doing. DD goes back most weekends as her BF is a medic. He'll be coxing this weekend, but she has a tennis match & won't be on the riverbank.

So pleased that DD never has to face the intensity of finals again. She's determined to never sit an exam again, so that's ruled out careers in law and accountancy! Very best wishes to @mutterphore 's pair too.

Karolinska · 22/05/2024 09:03

Not the same group HoneyMobster, just checked. Starts quite a bit later.

Karolinska · 22/05/2024 09:05

I gave DD4 some pearl earrings that my mother had given me. She's worn them to all the smart events at Oxford since then.

whiteroseredrose · 22/05/2024 09:47

Thank you for the suggestions.

She already has pearls, again from my parents, but the Le Creuset is a great idea. They will certainly last a lifetime and she loves their mugs and egg cups.

I will suggest it.

mutterphore · 22/05/2024 10:12

Thanks for your good wishes @HewasH2O and glad to hear your DD is enjoying life.

Very good luck to all those with DCs sitting exams this summer, especially the finalists. I hope they can all still fully relish all the extracurricular activities on offer too, like May Balls.

Here's an update on my graduate sons - DS1 (Cambridge) and DS2 (Oxford), for those who 'know' us on this long running thread:

DS1 and DS2 have had a very intense, post-Oxbridge year, doing the law conversion course, applying for Vac Schemes and TCs and studying for their law conversion exams. The competition to get a law TC in the city seems massively harder than getting into Oxbridge and I'm really proud of them both for continuing to have the stamina to keep applying to so many firms. The research involved for each firm takes days.

Both have had to relinquish a hard-earned Vac Scheme (most of which had 4 stages to pass through to the Vac Scheme point), as they clashed with another firm's Vac Scheme offer. This is so disheartening but seems to be par for the course.

Both, by coincidence, were doing a Vac Scheme - at different firms - right in the run up to the final set of law conversion exams, so didn't get time for revision, except on long daily train journeys to and from London each day. Each had several 12 hour working days, including the commute time but were undaunted. They don't at all mind the idea of very long working hours but are just desperate to get a training contract.

However, they've only just reached the next stage of what looks to be a very long process, which is getting through to the TC assessment days for their respective firms. One of these doesn't even take place until early next year! The chances of actually securing a TC are still only about 1% to 3%, after jumping through all these hurdles of interviews. DS2 (Oxford grad) has four Vac Schemes this summer and DS1 (Cambridge grad) has one.

No one on the Vac Scheme DS2 did last summer got a TC from his cohort. Firms also seem now to have set quotas of demographics for who they'll accept for a TC and this possibly works against DS1 and DS2. Being an Oxbridge grad. and male, has no advantage and may have a slight disadvantage. They'll just keep on trying and working very hard to achieve their goals.

Having them living back at home is great for me but less so for them and DS2 particularly misses life at Oxford, which suited him very well. I really wish both had applied for Masters at O and C just to give them a bit more time at university. Being in the Covid cohort and missing out so much, especially in their first years, with a whole term done from home and various restrictions during term-time, neither enjoyed as much of what was on offer as they'd have wished.

It's lovely to hear therefore on this thread about those doing a 4 year course or going on to do a Masters as well and I hope that your student DCs are making the most of life at Oxbridge. I know that some have DCs who aren't enjoying things and feel really overworked and I hope life improves for them.

Those of you who started out on this thread with me but who no longer post, I particularly wish you well and hope your DCs are thriving. I do think that the twenties isn't an easy stage of life for young people, especially nowadays and all we as parents can do is keep on encouraging and supporting them as best we can.

Karolinska · 22/05/2024 10:20

It's always good to hear how your boys are doing mutterphore. If it's a crumb of comfort, every single one of the DCs' friends who were as tenacious as yours ended up with a very good TC. Some just seem to have an easier ride in, for whatever reason. Four vac schemes is definitely impressive and I hope that DC1 likes the firm that he's going to - hopefully they'll both bag a TC that appeals to them off the back of this summer.

PettsWoodParadise · 22/05/2024 10:30

Not to everyone’s taste or leanings and definitely not cheap but but DD loves her lifetime membership of The National Trust (as does her father as she gets to take a guest for free) if you are going to buy it then getting it when young means you get the most out of it.

ofteninaspin · 22/05/2024 10:49

Lovely to read of updates and best of luck to exam takers whether academic or professional.

DS is almost a year on from graduation and eight months into his banking grad scheme. He is enjoying his job and working in the City and starts his employer funded Master’s degree in September. He misses college life but has been back to Cambridge frequently to visit his fourth year girlfriend and friends doing Master’s degrees. He is bringing his girlfriend to stay with us for the first time next weekend which I am very excited about.

DD is almost two years on from graduation. She spent a year in Cambridge as a science writer for the UN environment programme and is now in London, working for a global engineering consultancy as an assistant environmental consultant. She shares a very cool flat off the Portobello Road with her long term boyfriend (also a consultant) and she is happily socialising with Oxford friends and watching and doing a lot of ballet.

WetWednes · 22/05/2024 11:23

Popping back on to wish all the finalists’ parents well. Have name changed but old hands will remember me with DD1 ex O, DS1 at C and DD2 at O. I am hoping to be there on Saturday for eights. Should we have a secret handshake?!

I’ve been in Oxford lots recently for musical events for DD2. It was absolutely dreamy last week with gorgeous weather, students wandering round in sub fusc, and a lovely recital by my girl.

Karolinska · 22/05/2024 14:13

WetWednes of course I remember you and all the DC. How is DS1? I do hope things are much better. I would love to be there for eights - sadly not. I hope the sun shines again by then.

Teriyakieverything · 22/05/2024 20:42

All the best of luck to the DCs taking exams, especially the finalists.

Great to hear updates of life after Oxbridge, sounds like they are thriving.

sytron · 23/05/2024 15:47

@whiteroseredrose
National Trust membership was going to be my suggestion, for a 21st birthday, so snap @PettsWoodParadise I have YHA life membership, and i always think of my family when I stay there. NT membership is even better, because you appreciate it more as you get older i think. It's not a cheap gift though!

I am learning about the rules of the bumps but am still totally baffled. I think I will also be on boathouse island. I am going to wear a red dress with white spots, looking confused most likely, if anyone wants to say hello!

PermanentTemporary · 23/05/2024 17:59

This thread does make me feel huge sympathy for my parents, who watched me do well until graduation on a hoghly conventional path, and then had to watch me footling around without a clue for about 15 years, earning progressively less and less and apparently unable to achieve basics such as staying in a job for more than 3 years or taking any work that wasnt a pay cut from the last one... Soz. Anyway, if ds becomes equally unmoored, it will be payback time. He's a very different character though. I'm hugely impressed by all the youth forging meaningful ways forward, whatever that looks like.

pepperaunt · 23/05/2024 18:32

D’s had her first exam today (3rd year Earth Sciences Cambridge). She said everyone found it difficult. Still waiting on a grade for last summer’s research project (one third of final grade). Staying on for a masters.

sytron · 23/05/2024 18:35

@pepperaunt that sounds a very stressful situation. lets hope they all get what they have worked for.

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Karolinska · 25/05/2024 08:55

DS1 - an Oxford medic now registrar - hasn't done a PhD but of those of his friends who have all did theirs after completing the clinical years (plus). I would tend to think there's a reason for this. If your DS has had the suggestion made then I'm sure he could return later to do one if he still wanted to. If DS1 had asked me the same question I would have said stay mainstream, where there's no obvious benefit in career terms (in completing a PhD early) and certainly some disadvantages socially.

Oxonc3 · 25/05/2024 18:02

On way back from summer eights- such a lovely day. Div IV for my DS. Good luck to the finalists. One of DS’s friends mentioned a sibling attending a formal - cue much consternation from DS’s siblings about where their invitation was!

Panicmode1 · 27/05/2024 18:50

Qu re Cambridge May bumps...we have a table booked at The Plough for Sat lunchtime..how likely are we to be able to park in the pub car park..and if impossible, what would parking at Cambridge North train station and walking back be like??

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Juja · 27/05/2024 21:18

Sorry not to have seen anyone at Bumps - we managed to see DC1 & DC2 row in Div 2 and 3 - both sandwich boats. Rowed over three days and bumped one day. DC1 only rowed Fr & Sat as busy with finals.

Saturday was glorious with Pimms and Ice cream and sunshine. A good antidote to daily visits to father in law in a local hospice who is though being wonderfully looked after and just keen to 'move on' as he puts it.

DC1 third exam had gone much better than the first two so he was more chipper than the depressed phone call on Wednesday... He had one today then only two more and its over - three weeks of chilling out in the Oxford summer...

DC2 has Prelims in 8th and 9th week and is fitting in a visit to a May Ball at Cambridge in the middle. She claims it is all possible...

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