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2017 seems so long ago, now .....

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Xenia · 13/05/2022 16:34

Continuation of our previous thread.

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bigTillyMint · 27/07/2022 11:05

@Xenia, well done to your boys! Can I ask how the gf got her weeks work experience please?

Xenia · 27/07/2022 15:39

I haven't asked her actually. She just finished the Legal Practice Course and the year before the law conversion course - GDL so has done a lot of law; she also has very high grades and the law firm specialises in the area of law in a sense that was her first (not law) degree. It seems a very good fit so I really do hope she convinces them to take her on as a paralegal or even trainee solicitor. It is a 5 partner specialist commercial firm so probably a bit more flexible in terms of their work experience schemes than the bigger firms. I would imagine she just contacted them by email. She has no family connections to law. (Whereas it is no secret my twins are my trainee solicitors until 2024 and that clearly through my having given birth to them! and there are definitely life long downsides in having to explain you trained at your mother's tiny firm)

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ErrolTheDragon · 27/07/2022 15:43

More congratulations!

Haffdonga · 27/07/2022 20:08

Many congratulations to @Xenia 's young men, to @RedHelenB 's dd and @Malbecfan 's dd!!

And congratulations too to @Stopyourhavering64 's ds for finding his first grown up home of his own. Good luck to him with the driving test. DS1 had to book tests twice because the car broke down in his first and he found it almost impossible to book another test. The test booking system seems to be completely broken with no availability of tests at all ever! In the end ds paid one of those find you a test apps and immediately found a test at the local centre in the next week. lt felt gruelling to pay for something that should be free but it was worth it (and only about £20).

bigTillyMint · 28/07/2022 03:47

Aha - thanks @Xenia!

RedHelenB · 28/07/2022 09:16

Thanks everybody for your kind words it was a lovely degree ceremony, less "grand" than dd2s at Liverpool. Shattered from a week + of celebrating .

Xenia · 28/07/2022 13:18

We used the driving test apps (before covid) for a quick retest after a failure and they were very good.

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Horsemad · 08/08/2022 23:56

@RedHelenB , so sorry I missed you @'ing me. I'm glad to hear you enjoyed your DD1's graduation. Many congrats to her and you too. 🎓
I also can't believe your DD2 is about to do her Masters, where's the time gone?!

Sorry to hear about your DDog @ErrolTheDragon. They leave such a huge gap. 😟

DS has finished working and is about to go off travelling to Europe for a couple of months, meeting up with friends.
After that, who knows...?

RedHelenB · 09/08/2022 06:43

Last day on holiday, then a days rest before going to sort dd1s accommodation. She's meeting her new boss and colleagues for lunch too and I'll have my first taste of the Wirral Dd2 has changed what she's doing for her masters as apparently the scholarship committee have "seen her potential " and want her to carry on fir a funded PhD possibly.
@horsemad, your ds sounds as though he's doing exactly what a young graduate should be doing, seeing the world.

RedHelenB · 09/08/2022 06:46

bigTillyMint · 09/07/2022 13:32

Good luck to those wanting rentals in London - it’s dog-eat-dog here apparently, people being gazumped and prices ever increasing.

Hence why my two are in no rush to move out 😩

Have you considered having lodgers?

bigTillyMint · 09/08/2022 07:03

@RedHelenB, no space for lodgers with both DD and DS living at home, never mind friends visiting!
And the Wirral?! What will you be doing there? I lived in the Wirral from 3-18!

Horsemad · 09/08/2022 07:16

The Wirral is lovely! 🙂

You're right about DS @RedHelenB but I worry because he doesn't seem to know what he wants to do long term...

I guess I need to be patient - not a trait I'm blessed with!

bigTillyMint · 09/08/2022 09:56

@Horsemad, you’ve been? Not a place many people visit!
And I think travelling is a great way to widen perspectives (we are big on travelling!) - no big rush to get a job, they’ll be working till they are 70.

RedHelenB · 09/08/2022 10:30

bigTillyMint · 09/08/2022 07:03

@RedHelenB, no space for lodgers with both DD and DS living at home, never mind friends visiting!
And the Wirral?! What will you be doing there? I lived in the Wirral from 3-18!

Dd1s dental practice is based there so we're doing a road trip and reccy. Seems odd that I finally have a child with a " professional job".

bigTillyMint · 09/08/2022 10:42

Aha! Is it in the naice bit @RedHelenB?!

Horsemad · 09/08/2022 13:16

bigTillyMint · 09/08/2022 09:56

@Horsemad, you’ve been? Not a place many people visit!
And I think travelling is a great way to widen perspectives (we are big on travelling!) - no big rush to get a job, they’ll be working till they are 70.

@bigTillyMint

I used to live across from the Wirral, (both sides at different times 🙂).

I used to like Parkgate but haven't been for years, so no idea what it's like now.

Yep travelling isn't a bad thing; to be honest I'm just surprised he's doing it, as he rarely wanted to do trips abroad when in school! 🤣

bigTillyMint · 09/08/2022 13:20

@Horsemad Parkgate hasn’t changed in years. Get along to Nicholls for an ice cream!

Horsemad · 09/08/2022 13:33

@bigTillyMint Haha, I may get the opportunity in the not too distant future! 🙂

We used to go to a place on the Wirral called the Pancake Kitchen. Can't remember exactly whereabouts, would have been mid 80s. There and 'What's Cooking' - do you remember them? 🙂

bigTillyMint · 09/08/2022 13:51

You’re going back in time there! They were top places to go. The Pancake Kitchen (which was in West Kirby) must have closed down mid to late 80s? What’s Cooking was still going when the kids were small - in 2004+, maybe longer, also in West Kirby, plus Heswall and the Albert Dock IIRC 😃

ErrolTheDragon · 09/08/2022 14:54

The Wirral is a longish day trip for us. Ness botanic gardens are nice, there's an rspb reserve with lots of egrets and spoonbills. And Hilbre island is an unexpected treasure so close as the seabird flies to Liverpool - take binoculars for seal spotting.Smile

Horsemad · 09/08/2022 17:38

There was a What's Cooking in Chester too, used to go regularly to that one. 👍🏻

Hilbre Island - never been but DH has said he'd like to go, so we'll probably end up there at some point. 🙂

Needmoresleep · 10/08/2022 08:32

Wow, lots of news. Congratulations on the passing law exams, graduations, and finding jobs and property.

My mum came from Wigan though my cousin grew up on the Wirral. She was from a sprawling mine/mill family but went to Oxford, picked up a Southern accent and left it all behind. I used to like our (very) occasional visits. Every terraced house in one mining village seemed to be occupied by relatives, so lots of sweets. I am still in touch with my godmother's sister. My last link.

DH and DD are going up to Manchester this weekend to see Bournemouth slaughtered by City. (His forecast 5:0.) I declined so have a weekend alone.

Otherwise we are still in student mode. The piles of stuff from both flat and placement were in our living room but have been moved to DDs bedroom. DD passed her exams but still has a year left of elective and placement. She is going out to see her brother, and will then be in London for two months in a research lab. One of her friends is having to pay (an extortionate amount) for an elective at a London hospital and will be staying. She is from the rural south west so London should be interesting. Ditto DS should return for a couple of longish trips as his PhD supervisor is on sabbatical in London, and he will bring one of his course mates (Latin American?) to stay as they too don't want to change supervisor at this stage and the supervisor has been kind enough to agree.

Next is F1/F2 which seems fiendishly complicated and a bit of a lottery. It is all done on points. DD had a disappointing result in one exam (she got a better mark in her mock which she sat in January before revising), so is not going to be able to compete for the most competitive places. She is thinking of choosing one of the more unpopular deaneries in the hope then that she gets first choice of hospital and speciality. Working out the options and tactics is likely to take most of the rest of the summer.

DH needs to go back to the office in September. We have been really lucky to have had use of my mother's flat near the beach, but will almost certainly need to sell when the current mortgage rates end. My project has been to sort out the block management so that Directors and the management company have the ability and will to stop water coming in via the roof, balconies, gutters and just about everywhere else. Quite a disparate group with very different priorities. One guy, who quite possibly is the richest of us all, seemed determined to continue to block any expenditure. I think I have won that battle which effectively has landed me with the task on meeting drain people, and gutter people, and roof people. It would be unfair to expect the management company to deal with the politics. One random problem is that seagulls take shellfish onto the roof and crack the shells which fall into the guttering. Something the original architect did not allow for. I am learning a lot.

Haffdonga · 10/08/2022 22:41

We're back to our quiet boring young person-free house at the moment but ds came home to host a party for all his uni and his local friends last weekend. This was a long overdue 'rollover' party thanks to a couple of cancelled new years and birthdays. I'd met some of ds's uni friends but it was lovely to meet them all together. Several friends were just about to start their new F1 jobs as real doctors - and were understandably very nervous! Dh and I went out for the night and left them to it but apparently it went well and home and uni friends gelled well. (We're still finding glasses in flower beds and random strange objects under beds but no damage done.)

@Needmoresleep ds is also trying to work out his best options in the F1 lottery. He'd like to go to London but realises how competitive this is. But did you know that actually their exam scores only count for about 15% of the total overall ranking? Whereas 50% of their ranking is based on SJT scores. It seems massively weighted to pot luck! DS has done pretty well in exams but feels very unconfident about SJTs (he's an over-thinker). Your dd could find the SJT strengthens her position. What a system!

bigTillyMint · 11/08/2022 02:21

I am blown away by the number of you who have actually been to the Wirral 😲😃
@Horsemad, I’d forgotten that one! They were before their time, and even at the end the DC loved going there when we were up to visit!

Xenia · 11/08/2022 14:09

I did my law school post grad year in Chester in the days when you could only do it in three places all run by the College of Law/Law Society - London, Guildford or Chester. My children and grandchildren would not exist but for Chester - where I met my future husband so it was a very seminal place for me.

It is good to hear everyone's news. We are 5 years on from 2017 starting university and the twins have now moved to the last 2 years of being trainee solicitors. I think their school friend who studied dentistry (his father is a dentist too) whom they saw last night may still be in his studying phase and my twins went for their NHS dental check up this week and had hair cuts today. The working as my trainee solicitor is going fine and they have some compulsory courses in October (just a minor Professional Skills course for potential solicitors just 12 days in total between Oct - Dec. One set of grandchidlren made it abroad on holiday and other very little one remains incredibly cute - I took her to the park recently whilst her mother had a law job interview and she got it - first one applied for and did so well. We went to my older son's house in Oxfordshire at the weekend for the day and had a lovely walk - he is near that White Horse of 3000 years ago so we had a walk up there and on the Ridgeway too and a nice meal out. I had not been to his house since March 2020 (he bought it in 2019) and it is a really lovely little Bellway new detached house, still in very good condition and not had snagging issues you associate with new builds. He seems very happy (he is the one child who is NOT a lawyer).

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