Heading towards 4th year or post grad/jobs

[Xenia]

Continuation of the previous thread for those of us with children who are just finishing their 3rd year at university (so either "graduating" in 2020 or going into year 4 in Autumn 2020)..........

My twins' degree results will be out in late July. Good luck to everyone else waiting for finals results.

We have horse clippers in the house, DS2 & does a reasonable job on clipping dhorse , but DS1 won’t let him near his hair.

Gosh, this is usually a fairly gentle thread. I wonder what was deleted.

It was a student asking for people to contribute to her research. Nothing too sinister!

Needs verification first I think

Ah, nothing exciting then. Next excitement here will be getting degree results for my twins (and others on the thread who have not had them yet). Mine have had a few school friends over here (who are from pretty safe careful families so I am okay abut it from a covid 19 point of view although have my usual objections that people always come here and why don't they spend equal amounts rather than zero amounts of time with those other families). Today was a long walk, hen they played scrabble (it was monopoly last night) and then crochet on my very bumpy lawn as it is covered in gorgeous purple wild flowers for some reason this year so I didn't have have the heart to mow it for 2 weeks as the bees are so keen on it.

Congratulations to all those whose DC have achieved such amazing results. @goodbyestranger brilliant news for DS 4. Please pass on my best wishes to him. Which college will DS3 be at? He is welcome to look up my DD if her likes.

DD1 also got a first this year, but never planned to graduate this summer. She wants to do the integrated masters so is hoping to go back to Cambridge in September. She did a literature review in the winter and her supervisor has asked her to collaborate with someone who did one on the same subject as he wants them to publish their work jointly. This has kept her busy for the last couple of weeks. In between times she has done a brilliant job of weeding our jungle of a garden. She is a bit fed up that her summer plans in Germany have fallen through but is making the best of it. She will be 21 next week so is planning to meet up with some schoolfriends. Her bf is coming to stay next weekend, so she has also been cleaning the house. I've been in school most days so this has been very welcome!

A huge well done to DD1 too Malbecfan - although no surprises! Thanks for the message for DS3, I'll pass it on. He chose a grad college thinking it would be better socially, coming in from outside. Some of the big Oxford colleges have surprisingly little in the way of an MCR from what he's heard, so he didn't want to find the same thing at Cambridge.

DS4 is 21 just a few days after your DD1 Malbecfan. Four of mine are currently home alone and I've put in a request for gardening and cleaning in my absence.... Fingers crossed!

Well done to your DD @Malbecfan!

Wow - where did Malbefan find that child - even cleaning the house! [and congratulations on that real.l,y good result. I am expecting two two ones here so it will be a disaster if one gets a 2/2 - the dissertations would have had to be appalling for that; one might have got a first but I suspect will be just under and that is not a problem. I think he has worked out a first is unlikely].

Where did I go wrong (having just cleaned the kitchen after my sons had their friend over last night and they were eating at 10pm when I went off to bed._) The twins are going to see their brother's house in Oxfordshire for the first time ever today. I saw it in March and it will be very nice for the 3 of them to get together. One is driving my volvo estate for the first time to accommodate a big wooden sunlounger for his brother but he did drive it with me in yesterday and did fine. Automatics are easier even if you are used to gears (and he is on the insurance for the weekend). Let us hope they get back in one piece tonight. A long walk is planned as they all like the countryside BUT is is pouring today but I expect they will be fine. It is very warm.

Thanks everyone. I'm not sure @Xenia. I think that because DH and I are quite messy, she is like our conscience. DD2 is definitely mini-us although since she arrived home from uni in March, her room has been tidy enough to see the carpet - definitely progress!

@goodbye, I expect the gang will get together again. DD1 would like some of them to get together this week and the weather forecast is quite good. We went down to our local beach yesterday so she and DH could have a dip in the sea. It was pretty windy and there was a load of seaweed but they really enjoyed it. I imagine something similar on Thursday.

Well done Malbecfan and to everyone on all the results, lovely to read about how well they are doing.

I don't think mine are too messy but no one is volunteering to do cleaning other than I. I am hoping to rope one into more fence repairing which his twin reluctantly did - all I need is someone to hold the other side of the fence panel when slotting it in and I think his twin is much keener on garden work - always has been and I like it too - change from the office.

Sea swimming is lovely. I think I won't get any this year which is a shame - probably first year ever with none as long as I can remember.
May be I should suggest some sort of short weekend away or holiday for the twins. Their sister and her boyfriend are doing that for a long weekend in the New Forest this weekend. We have been send pictures of lovely deer, horses and long horned cows.

DD doesn't like housework any more than me, and as her job is full time whereas mine is half she's excused. She's been doing some cooking though which is nice - she looked after the dog (who is improving in leaps and bounds, literally!) and cooked while DH and I went out yesterday. Today is lovely and sunny here, so they've gone out for a decent walk while I do some gardening and DDog basks.

Congrats to your DD @Malbecfan. 🙂 And congrats to you for getting a DC who cleans!

I despair of DS in the tidiness stakes; he is truly Mr Messy.
It drives me mad and as we are on one level here, I can't un-see the mess in his room, so have to keep shutting the door.

Glad to hear DDog is improving Errol, was wondering how he was.

Hi all I’m in need of a bit of mumsnet advice.
DD1 will move back to the flat she was in last year which is a university property. There are 3 bedrooms all very different sizes one tiny , one medium ,one large.
She and one other girl are staying on. One new flat mate moving in .
My DD had the tiny room and was looking forward to moving into the big room as agreed. Her coursemate and her flat mate messaged her today to say that her boyfriend is moving work to the same city ( waged ) and she wants him to move in for the year proposing that they share the large room. My daughter was initially a bit miffed to lose out on the room she was about to move into but now thoughts have turned to what the financial arrangements should be. Her flat mate is proposing that her boyfriend will share bills but not make a rent contribution. We think this is not acceptable . Also technically not an acceptable arrangement anyway as it is a university property. Interested in what you all think and how we should proceed.

Are rents adjusted according to size of room?

So he's going to be waged but living rent-free at the expense and convenience of his girlfriend and flatmates? Well, I can think of an MN term which might apply...

As it's a uni property, what happens if they can't come to an arrangement they're all happy with and one drops out?

Rents are all equal.
Been talking to my DD about possibility of having to find alternative accommodation ( and potentially losing a friend ) if an acceptable arrangement cannot be found. This guy has a good job earning 30K plus !!! I suspect they are trying to save a deposit for a property but am not keen on the idea of us subsidizing their endeavors.

Well yes absolutely Errol, he is one. Or the gf is. But going in all guns blazing if the DD is happy enough with flatmate and coursemate could lead to a miserable year. At the very least there has to be a financial benefit to the DD. And there's no reason why the gf and bf can't share the tiny room, actually. But I was wondering about the base line finances first.

Is it actually allowed on the tenancy?

Cross post with ollie.

Yes to the friend thing.

I would suggest DD has medium room and bf pays a quarter share of the rent.

That was pretty much my view Goodbye. Not sure how the university view such things other than I expect it is against the terms of the tenancy agreement. One very quick way for her to lose her friend would be to dob her in to the accomm office.

He should be paying council tax too if he's not a student!