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Heading towards year 3 exams (uni 2017)

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Xenia · 05/12/2019 09:23

Continuation of www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/3538808-heading-towards-year-2-exams-uni-2017 as we have reached page 40.

Hard to believe they are all in year 3 now and many will finish university in June 2020.

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Carriemac · 19/01/2020 11:41

DD has had such a bad year I' actually afraid to book a hotel, even though she has a graduation date at oxford already. feels like tempting fate. xenia how lovely that your two will graduate one day apart, try to hire the gown for 24 hours so uoiu get a photo of the two togerther?

Needmoresleep · 19/01/2020 11:52

Carrie, I am so sorry to hear that. I hope things get better. And Xenia, sorry to hear about the burglary.

DD is packing for a six month placement outside Bristol. It's effectively the end of her Bristol student days. London, if she gets it will be a very different student experience and hard work, whilst her final two years will be on placement, largely outside Bristol. I don't think she minds. I think she prefers the vocational bits to the student bits.

Xenia · 19/01/2020 11:55

I am sorry your daughter had a bad year. My older son took 4 years for his 3 year degree, which was not the end of the world and we knew before as he missed a dissertation date so paused from about Jan to Sept in his last year and restarted year 3 in September of the 4th year.

I feel reasonably safe booking for the twins - the one who intends to work and have a gap year specifically asked for another night in the hotel to see his housemate graduate the next day so I think they are very likely to be there and not change plans/be working and the other seems quite certain too (and he starts law school in Sept) but it is still risky as booked the hotel option with no right to cancel (cheaper) so no one had better change their plans now or fail!

I think one may also stay over to the day after both too as his girl friend graduates that day - I suggested he has the double room with his twin anyway so he might as well stay on the extra even if there are no spare tickets for the ceremony for him to attend - presumably her parents etc will be first call on tickets.

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Needmoresleep · 19/01/2020 12:36

Carrie, a friend of DDs took a year out from Oxford. The college did not make it easy, but I understand they were glad they persisted.

willothewispa · 19/01/2020 12:52

Yes I’m wondering about packed hotels...

That's why I made a reservation, we don't have to pay in advance and it's opposite.

We'd have waited but there aren't many inns with stables in the middle of Bristol.

Needmoresleep · 19/01/2020 12:57

And some need for caution.

We stayed in a rather smart city centre hotel when DD was in her first year, wondering why it was so cheap at weekends. DD laughed. It was practically next door to one of Bristol's liveliest nightclubs. Since then we took to booking a bit further out, cheaper and with parking.

bigTillyMint · 19/01/2020 13:35

@Needmoresleep, is your DD inter slaying in London? DDs friend is staying in Bristol. And which hotel was it?! We are thinking of just driving back (no doubt DD will be off out out with her friends) but maybe I should book somewhere!

Needmoresleep · 19/01/2020 13:53

I can’t remember the name. It was on a square right in the centre, so chaos on a Saturday night. My preference now is Ferndale Mews near Stoke Bishop. Easy to access from the motorway and easy to park.

Yes DD wants to intercalate in London. The Bristol options are limited. The problem is that she has to give notice to Bristol before being accepted in London. She could conceivably end up with an unplanned gap year!

bigTillyMint · 19/01/2020 16:24

Ah! Thanks!

ErrolTheDragon · 19/01/2020 17:23

We stayed in one of the Premier Inns to the north of the city - Filton probably - when we went to the Bristol open day. It was quite funny because as we were checking in, half a dozen more sets of parent(s) plus girl arrived.

Xenia · 19/01/2020 20:52

A bit like our supermarket one afternoon - almost every parent had an 11 year old girl with her (the interview or exam had just finished at a local school). It was really sweet - all those girls of almost exactly the same age going into Waitrose after for a treat/bun or whatever they were buying.

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Needmoresleep · 20/01/2020 17:08

The Tiffin test...a highly sought after grammar in SW London. We got on the train in central London clutching an A-Z. We did not need it. At each station the platform was crowded with mothers and boys, who joined a river of more mothers and boys flowing silently towards the school. Then lots of other mums mooching around Bentalls, pick up the boy and a Pizza Express treat. No place for my boy. Ah well, we tried.

It was seriously eerie, like a John Wyndham novel.

Xenia · 21/01/2020 16:29

Yes it felt like that in my local area after the 11+ exam at that school - loads of sweet 11 year old girls when you would not normally see them out and about at that time and all the same age.

Meanwhile at university one of mine has his second and last exam tomorrow (for this term); and the other has an assessment not an exam and he saying he likes the way his course is done - it is a BSc with lots of time for private reading and thinking and ideas and discussion. It is good he likes it. His older brother just arrive today and is playing the trumpet upstairs as in the old days.

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SMaCM · 21/01/2020 20:51

My DD had her short ethics form rejected (expected), but has now had her long ethics application rejected too. Her tutor is going to help her appeal, but she really doesn't want to have to back track and change to another research project. I'm trying to stay positive for her, because her tutor seems hopeful (but then he also assured her that her second application would be accepted).

On a positive note, she's coming home this weekend and she doesn't know we have bought her a car (early 21st birthday present). I can't wait to see her face.

bigTillyMint · 21/01/2020 21:24

Oh gosh @SMaCM, how upsetting re the ethics application. But how lovely re the car - what a lucky girl!

I’m not sure what’s happening with DDs ethics application as she is currently trying to finish summative essays and is pretty stressed - I will ask when the last one has been submitted.
Also she is a bit fed up because her two female housemates are spending a lot of time at their bfs and it’s a bit lonely in the house and she can’t go out much as she’s working hard Sad

Xenia · 22/01/2020 09:26

Lovely present - the car. My twins share my second car - actually this year it is in the name of the one of them who has residents' parking in Bristol so I suppose they have half a car - going to the same university has made that easier and they seem to do it quite amicably.

One of mine has his final January exam today although there will be much rest after that as there will be the dissertations to do etc. 3rd year is probably the busiest for those on 3 year degrees.

It certainly makes a difference if people have a girl friend or boyfriend as it changes the dynamics in a house.

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ioioitsoff · 22/01/2020 09:54

We stayed at the Ibis near the harbour, that was nice and quiet.

ErrolTheDragon · 22/01/2020 15:57

DD called just now, pleased that she's got a decent place in the room ballot for next year, and everything else fine too.

SMaCM · 22/01/2020 16:42

Xenia - she doesn't take her car to uni, so it is an extra family car too.

Carriemac · 23/01/2020 07:35

Good news Errol, a nice room makes a big difference

gingerchaos · 23/01/2020 07:40

Good news Errol, a good room is essential.

Xenia · 23/01/2020 07:56

Glad about the room. One of mine in the ballot for this year got a lovely big room and the other for the second year running probably just about the worst one - luck of the drawer. He did offer to pay another resident more to do a swap but no one was up for that which is fair enough. Sometimes paying less for a small room works too but they didn't want to do it on that basis and anyway it is all finished in June so I am sure he will be fine -his biggest issue is room in total darkness other than the electric light, due to the works outside.

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latedecember1963 · 23/01/2020 08:38

Decent accomodation is so important. I know they are only there in relatively short bursts throughout the year but if you're miserable the time drags.
DS2 seemed very relaxed about accomodation for next year when I messaged him about it last week. Maybe the reality of being back in the UK for his final year hasn't hit home from such a distance away. Not long now until we go to see him. This time next week I'll have done my last day at work. It's beginning to get exciting. I've never been on such a long journey and it feels like quite an adventure! The YR class I work with on Wednesdays want me to send them photos of koalas and kangaroos to the interactive whiteboard.
I wasn't sure what was meant by ethics forms so I googled it. Such a lot to take into consideration. I hope your DCs get it sorted soon as it must be holding up their work.

Needmoresleep · 23/01/2020 08:39

We got DD a car at the start of her second year. Her first year was so grim that even her tutor was surprised she made it through. Having to get up at the crack of dawn to get a bus into town in order to get a bus out to a placement did not help, so we wanted to make things easier.

It's been great. She's able to give lifts to both placements and Lidl, though the overseas student used to wide roads and large
Range Rovers was not impressed by either the tiny car or single track rural lanes, plus get to sports training. And able to get there when her grandmother was dying, and will visit her other grandparents next weekend. We have never bought a car, instead relying on family hand-me-downs, so in a way it was our first car.

She is the reverse though. With parking at £4ph seven days a week and congestion charge at £11.50 she can't bring it home at least not for more than the odd weekend. Who knows where it will spend the summer. Or indeed next year if she returns to London, though I guess then she will be a resident so qualify for discounts. Perhaps grandparents are interested, or have space on the driveway.

Her new room on placement is fine, and they have lots of communal space. One of her friends is sharing with a Muslim girl (they were allocated) who is trying to impose conditions including no male visitors to the flat, no pork etc, so is trying to figure out when she can reasonably assert boundaries. Its difficult. A Muslim friend, who heads a University department in a predominantly Muslim country was over at New Year and was bemused at DDs questions. Was it OK to always be late for a tutor group because you had to pray etc? Non Muslim colleagues where she worked often asked her the same things. There was more flexibility in the religion than some people claimed. I suspect she may soon receive more questions from DD.

Its difficult though, as they face three years of clinical mainly in hospital accommodation then two foundation years. They will want to socialise as a group, cook each other dinner etc, and equally won't want Muslim students forced into separate accommodation. I guess they will just have to figure it out.

latedecember1963 · 23/01/2020 09:13

I suppose out of courtesy they could not have pork/bacon in the flat if they are sharing a fridge and cooking facilities.

However, I don't think it's reasonable to ban male visitors. Because of my upbringing, I was quite prim and proper when I went away to college and it was a real eye opener how some students behaved. However, I wouldn't have dreamt of making any comment to any of them as it was none of my business. In fact in some ways I envied their more relaxed approach to life.
I think it needs to be tactfully pointed out that there has to be give and take, especially if they are going to be together for 3 years.

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