DS had big wobble on his first full day of Freshers' today, after getting an email setting some complex work from one of his tutors. (They thought they would not have anything set until near the end of the week and no other subjects have so far). He was diagnosed with fairly severe dyspraxia in his gap year (having got into Oxford in last year of school with deferred place, so it is not something he declared in advance). He has been in touch with student support and his support plan is nearly finalised, but he is not sure tutors have yet been informed, and he is a bit frantic about the issues with getting hold of ebook versions of all his reading. I'm sure his tutors will be helpful when he informs them, but we had hoped the disabilities service would have let them know in advance of term.
His other wobble was suddenly deciding that he didn't want to go to the fancy dress bop but would stay in his room and catch up with his reading. As an introvert, he has found the non-stop admin meetings and socialising too much. I agreed that of course he didn't need to go, but it would probably be pretty low-stakes and not the sort of drunken orgy he was imagining. Mid-conversation he suddenly announced he would try it, and texted a few hours later to say that he was enjoying it and very glad he went. We spoke later and he had met a girl doing one of his subjects (he is doing a joint degree) with whom he bonded about shyness and lack of interest in socialising! So first crisis averted - he is also much more calm about the work issue having discovered that everyone else is very anxious about it too.
Today has been tremendously stressful as we also went to the haematology clinic to hear results of scans trying to determine what sort of brain tumour DH has. The booking nurse had told us it was 'very good news' but it is not as clear cut as that - no sign of cancer but also no diagnosis, so now we are into territory of taking him off steroids, seeing if it regrows, scanning in six weeks, biopsying if it has regrown, then starting chemo. If it is something else, treatment for that; if it doesn't re-grow, repeated scans longer term. He also gave some really scary stats about total cure rates for if it is lymphoma moved to the brain. But on the positive side, it is nowhere else in his body. I'm not sure why the consultation threw me so much: it is basically what we already knew. We are not burdening DS with the 'what if' aspects of this yet, as he has enough to think about and we really have no clear news.