Our DC are nearly all officially students now (going to university 2019/20) - seizing the moment, spending, socialising, societies and studying!

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Brilliant thanks mrklaw

DD had a flat that was only 4 & that was poor socially. DS2 has 10 in his flat & I have to say the communal area is fabulous - an island with room for them all to sit at once & 2 sofas with a low table. Hopefully they won't scurry away to eat in their rooms. I may never know as he's not responding to messages!

mrclaw we are in Scotland and SAAS sent my DD a form to amend bank account details for the student loan to be paid into.

We are also in the position that the accommodation costs far exceed the loan payment. She’s had the first double loan payment paid into her account and we shall get her to amend the bank details when we next see her so that subsequent payments come directly to us. We have paid the first instalment up to Christmas. Her halls are catered so living costs will be lowish. I’ve said to see how the first few weeks go and then we will settle on a weekly living allowance taking into account the initial double payment.

We left payments going to DS as I think it’s a requirement of the student account he opened. That’s fine for now - it’ll force him to actually message us at least three times a year to let us know it’s transferred :D

What a shame about the weather! DD went without a coat with a hood or an umbrella.

Swansea Bay on Saturday and yesterday.

Lol. Dd has neither. She has a hoodie, and a warm but not waterproof coat, despite me reminding her again and again before she went. I'm going up at the weekend with a rescue package.

My DD is with Santander (for the Railcard and 3% interest!) and the requirement is simply £500 per academic term to be paid in. My thinking was I don’t want too much money sloshing around her account as the loan payments and accommodation instalments don’t match up at all. The first instalment up to Christmas had to be paid prior to matriculation.

We’ve had nightly texts or facetime up to now so contact is definitely not an issue in our house!

DD’s halls building has a building group chat which has been great for asking if anyone would like to pop to town/register with GP/come to pre-drinks/come to D&D evening/go to pizza thing. It makes it easy to see what is happening and to find people to go with.

There is a mixture of freshers and final years in DD’s flat and the final year students said on first day to meet at 6pm in kitchen for a hello meet up.

Sorry that’s not much help for people whose DC are not having many opportunities to connect with people. The building group chat is hosted by the accommodation service fb page for all the halls so that could be fed back to other unis? No help at all for those who just don’t do social media.

@CointreauVersial - reading old posts I missed. DC1's friend missed her Oxbridge place by one ma after a remark. Did your DC get where they wanted to in the end?

Dd's first maintenance loan is pending in her account apparently. Can i get her to transfer the money to me, then I pay the university the full amount? First payment is about 1300 and her accommodation is 2000, so I need to pay the rest

Ds said he'll let us know when to transfer money to him,it's in 3 irregular payments first one is £1,300 iirc.

Ds took at least 5 jackets,he won't have got wet this morning

Could not get DS to take his waterproof jacket idiot boy.

Dd took two waterproofs. She's Welsh - is ingrained

It should be ingrained in the English too, based on today's very, very heavy rain.

DS has finally replied to some texts (he was out, apparently ). He says he got drenched last night (he did take a waterproof but I don't imagine it went clubbing with him)

How long for no contact before you reach out with a simple ‘whats up?’ Only three days in so feels too soon so might wait until weekend?

I'd be worried and annoyed if no contact for three days after arriving. I'm sure that will happen as everything settles down, but not at first.

I guess it depends on your kid but I’d probably wait a week before sending a text .

I'd have sent a 'how's it going' text by now, but then DD is sending us a blow by blow account of her life right now I don't think it hurts to check in, but then I'm clearly a helicopter parent

Highlight of today is DD attending a lunch for people with social anxiety where no-one else showed up..... you couldn't make it up

Raptor - lol

I guess it should be what is comfortable for child and parents. It could be that they're thinking: "I shouldn't phone/text home yet because it could look lame/needy." It is a bit weird to go from having them around all the time to going 'cold turkey' contact wise, particularly in this 'connected' age in which we live. When I was a student it was usual to just do one phone-call home a week (plus potentially a letter) but they were different times.

Must did your DS enjoy clubbing?

My DD went to a nightclub last night. A first for her. Enjoyed it but sent a message when back saying her ears were ringing and she thinks she prefers a pub but overall had a good time. She did get drenched. She needs to buy umbrella ☔️

Chilly it was only his second or third time (young in the year). No information about whether he enjoyed it!

raptor 🤣🤣

My dd is also vlogging her experiences on the family chat group

Quite looking forward to a lull in communication tbh

Raptor bless her. Was there a member of staff there? Anyone to talk to?