Ok so first of all very many thanks to sendsummer. A beacon of good sense in a quagmire of self-importance and silliness and a jostling for position as to who can be the biggest know it all on the block and who can be the rudest (to me). I seem to be capable of being polite in the teeth of it all however, but then I really couldn't give a hoot, let alone two.
So, in order (but a shout out to peteneras whose post probably doesn't warrant a reply, other than to acknowledge that yes DS did indeed get 6A* at A2, which was unfortunately only half the number he managed at GCSE so a downwards trajectory. He' probably peaked. But yes to the job and yes to the social life and all the other jazz a young person should do. He managed to scale all that up at Oxford, seems to be juggling well now in London with a full social life, other accolades which might be outing and most importantly happy it seems. And I'm glad that your DS is also doing well and is happy, as I said in my previous post. FYI we don't use phrases such as super duper in our house, my mother being a Scot and my father a Polish refugee).
Indicative it was I who advised you to step back, not you I, if you'd care to read back. And your post was deleted for straying well beyond the guidelines and making things up. Please don't do that again.
Zanda I really really wouldn't mind betting my mortgage on the fact that you haven't been to more SLT meetings at selective schools than me and it sounds very much as though you haven't got experience in the state selective area, merely the independent. The OP has a DC at a state superselective which if I'm correct is higher in the league tables than our own.
mumsneedwine there are no secret calls. I never said secret calls. This distortion of what I said is not sane. How about just acknowledging what Kim said and acting on it? Manners cost nothing.