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We've survived the first half term - go us! (starting uni 2017)

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flyingpigsinclover · 26/10/2017 17:29

New thread....we've got to the first half term!

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Haffdonga · 13/11/2017 21:16

Yes Blog . Great achievement by your dd. I hope that getting the assignment done might help remove the 'fear factor' in the future.

RedHelenB · 13/11/2017 22:13

First exam passed so one happy dd!

Horsemad · 13/11/2017 22:18

Great news Helen. DS hasn't had to submit anything yet which I find surprising.

RedHelenB · 13/11/2017 22:28

I wasn't so sure when she told me they made it purposefully hard to shock them into revising!

Horsemad · 13/11/2017 22:30

Aah, she's done well Smile

tobee · 13/11/2017 22:51

I think that these first exams/essays/assignments are very nerve wracking for new students. DS keeps saying he has no idea how he’s done and it’s difficult to no what to say apart from pointless platitudes.

I certainly know what you mean about being on call, blog. On Saturday night, just before 3 am, DS must have seen I was online (I’d been out) and unloaded some worries about stuff. After we’d got through all that, we cheered each other up, as is our wont, by messing around for a bit. Turned out we didn’t stop til nearly 5 am which was ridiculous.

fartyghost · 14/11/2017 04:42

Dd has had an essay and lab report, she must have the results by now but she's not mentioned it and I daren't ask.

Blogwoman · 14/11/2017 08:32

That's good RedHelen!
Tobee I wish you sleep! I guess we should be glad our DC feel able to tell us their worries, but it is exhausting!
Feel like I can breathe today; a bit of respite until the next time!

LadyinCement · 14/11/2017 11:06

Super proud of ds who has had an article published in the university newspaper. Big deal, you might think, but ds is the very last person to push himself forward, and he was umming and aahing about whether to try.

Also flashback to when I was at university and poked my head in the door of the newspaper offices during freshers' week. I can picture it now: trendy people with plastic triangle earrings (big at the time!) sitting in a circle, glancing round at me, glaring and then going back to their meeting. If one person had said, "Come on in," I might have been editor of The Times by now... (or at least the Little Puddlecombe on the Marsh Gazette). As it was I slunk out, cheeks blazing.

My one piece of advice to ds is "Don't be me!"

Horsemad · 14/11/2017 11:18

That's lovely Lady, I hope it inspires him for the future Smile

LadyinCement · 14/11/2017 11:21

I don't think there will be newspapers in the future Sad but perhaps people will be required to write something or other.

Needmoresleep · 14/11/2017 11:30

Cement, how easy it might be to simply give DC the benefit of our experience, but how much nicer to see them achieve things on their own.

And Blog, the fear of the phone call. Easy accessibility has its downsides, and it is wearing. I have had this for a decade from my parents, so to have it from DD as well was too much. (Hence my downloading here.) Luckily we had it during her ski season, which in fairness was seriously tough, so knew what to expect. She settled there, and she has now settled at University. During a conversation last night, her computer pinged with an invitation to someone's birthday party, which delighted her. We got a series of texts on Saturday outlining her disasters in the laundry room, the washing machine failed initially, then someone was dumping her stuff on the floor as she returned, then the dryer failed leaving her with a roomful of wet clothes. But no sympathy this time, only teasing. Even a major party in her flat (security called three times) a week or so ago, was a discussion about the need to choose next year's flatmates carefully. Its still all a bit too new, and the work is ramping up, with masses to learn and exams in January. But parents are slowing being made redundant.

I hope this happens to you. Either that getting this assignment done means subsequent ones will be easier. Or that she decides on a constructive Plan B path. If so, recent problems should only add to her resilience and maturity.

simbobs · 14/11/2017 13:40

Well done to those DC with positive achievements. As my DD tells us nothing I have nothing to contribute, but I really need to speak to her if only she will answer her phone. The dog may have to be put to sleep - not old, just got very suddenly ill. I know this may sound dramatic but I am not sure she will come back here if he goes.

Horsemad · 14/11/2017 15:20

Oh simbobs SadFlowers

HSMMaCM · 14/11/2017 16:00

SimBobs - best wishes to you and the dog.

LittleHo · 14/11/2017 16:05

I hope you get through to her soon simbobs. Also hoping your dog pulls through.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 14/11/2017 16:09

Sorry simbibs

I hope you get to speak to her soon

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 14/11/2017 16:10

simbobs !!!!

Bloody hell...

LadyinCement · 14/11/2017 16:17

Biscuit for the dog - as in a proper biscuit; hope he pulls through

simbobs · 14/11/2017 16:49

Sadly, he didn't make it. We are in shock and still can't get hold of DD.

MorvahRising · 14/11/2017 16:57

So sorry simbobs. Poor dog. Hope you get hold of DD soon.

LadyinCement huge well done to your DS!

Blogwoman · 14/11/2017 17:12

So very sorry simbobs... hope you get hold of your DD Flowers
That’s so good Lady - great for confidence & transferable skills.
Thanks for your reflections & kind words Need. Making me think about whether I have the balance skewed too far towards sympathy & don’t do enough making light of things. Your laundry saga struck a cord - all these ‘small’ things seem to feel big to DD & grind her down. I guess when you’re not in a great state the small things can really matter too.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 14/11/2017 17:14

I'm sorry simbobs x

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 14/11/2017 17:25

simbobs Thanks

Auntpetunia2015 · 14/11/2017 17:30

So sorry simbobs that’s not gonna be an easy conversation.