Early days at uni 2017

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How is everyone settling in?

DD starts on Wednesday.

Have a lovely time stop

Have a lovely holiday!

I am feeling a bit as last few days with ds. He's now worrying that no one will like him, that everyone will know each other already, that he doesn't know the procedure etc etc.

Also feeling a bit down that as there are no grandparents no one is bothered about ds. My parents would have been so thrilled for him. To be honest I don't know about mil. She'd probably have been droning on about a neighbour's grandson who went to York in 2006 as it seemed any neighbour's distant relatives' goings on trumped anything that we did...

Also, spoke to dsis yesterday and she didn't ask about ds at all. I purposefully said nothing and ds wasn't mentioned even though I heard all about her dcs. Pah.

Thanks Errol - DS has decided to take a spare laptop too in case of further issues! Very sensible.

We are paying £6500 for a decent-sized room with a small double and ensuite. The block is only two years old so hopefully still in good shape! DS is quite a private sort of person and was really keen for his own bathroom, and I didn't blame him remembering the block of basins in my first year hall (a converted barracks) with everyone cleaning teeth in rows in the morning . . . . .

LadyinCement last two days with DS here too and he is feeling the same; what if no-one wants to be friends with him, what if everyone in his flat just wants to go clubbing all the time, what if, what if . . . . he is a terrible worrier. I hope once he gets there it'll be fine but the waiting is a bit nerve-wracking now, especially as loads of people have gone already. How sad that your in-laws are so uninterested. Their loss, but not easy for you.

Oh, forgot to add have a wonderful holiday Stop! envy

Should have been envy

And still wasn't. . . . got it! Will stop posting now!

Is anyone else going though DSA Assessment?

DSA has been approved for DSA due to his dyslexia and had his assessment this week.

Does anyone know how the software , equipment etc is provided? I need to get him a new laptop and he is being recommended one, but do they give a contribution or an actual laptop?

DD has her assessment on Friday, so I am interested as well. Her brother has managed to repair her very old laptop, but she will need a new one. We are delaying till we know what she is being advised/offered.

Her (private) school were hot on support and so she was able to try out all sorts of voice recognition stuff. To be honest, other than the use of a laptop, the main thing has been to have recognition for her slow processing speeds, the odd mismatch between class and exam performance, and extra time in exams. That said, the specialist eye test apparently threw up some interesting results, suggesting things to try.

Ds1 did not want boice recognition stuff

We were told that he could have a basic workhorse laptop, perfectly good for uni work

We didnt do that as i wanted to get him a (probably not even better...just more expensive ) laptop

But he got a recording thing to record lectures and some revision/foowchart softwear, the training and sudent support of 1 hour a week

Boice????

Voice

Oooh yes and he should get extra time in exams

Foowchart?????

Bloody hell

Sudent????

Right

I'm not rereading my posts again

the uni have said extra time in exams on the basis of his post 16 assessment that was sent onto him - but as this didn't specifically recommend a writer and a scribe for exams they haven't given that. I'm trying to get the recommendation changed as he has always had a writer and scribe.

He always gets me to proof read his course work for him - I see that continuing for the uni years - so we have set up a google drive for him and me to access.

Happy hols stop - fabulous!

Glad your DS got back to you Rufus. Its hard to step back, isnt it? But Im enjoyjng us not taking our mobiles tp bed incase we have to pick up a drunk DD from a club or whatever in the middle of the night!

We are in contact a lot, but thats normal for us - always text during the day/night even before uni!

Good news about laptops and holidays.

DD says "everyone is lovely" at uni .

We got a text at bedtime saying "thanks for everything you've done over the last 18 years ".

In the fresher bingo, do I get extra points for helium balloons? We had the recommended door stop and extra ID photos and mattress topper, which were all used, so thanks for that. I'd have never thought of them.

Hooray, DH has found the collection of pre-induction hob pans, from which DD has made a small selection. She just asked for advice on packing clothes...she's been doing that for herself for years.

Rufus, are you sure your DS and mine aren't the same person? My DS is due home in a few hours for speech night but is going straight back again tonight and getting into the city centre around 11.30pm, meeting up with friends in a club there (no-one goes out before 11 I'm told). He is bringing his washing with him so that will be tight to turn around before he heads back! Also he hasn't thought through what to do with the clean washing in the club, has he???

Ono he's made all those plans. You should be proud. I have an image of him at the club, laundry bag in hand.

DD's room. Note soft toy and alcohol!

It wouldn't surprise me if the club cloakroom accepted the laundry without a second thought if it is an SU club, as long as he remembered to take it home after.

So DS messaged me that there was a rumour going around that someone had died on campus. We thought it might have just been an urban myth. But no. It's true. A girl was found dead after her first night in her halls of residence. Only 18. Can't believe it. How absolutely devastating for her family. Sorry to post such a ghastly thing.

OMG tobee how awful

It's every parent's worst nightmare.

Omg tobee that's awful & puts it all into perspective

I felt ok just before I wrote that post. But writing it I had a physical reaction. I wasn’t sure if I should write it. But I don’t know. Just shocking. Naming our worst fears I guess. For us anyway.