DD unhappy at uni - what should I do?

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DD moved in to her college on Sunday and is very unhappy and says she wants to come home. It is still Freshers Week and classes start on Monday.

Her confidence and interest in her subject, that she applied for over a year ago, has fallen. She wasn't well-taught in the final year of school, and instead of getting the top grade that she expected she got the equivalent of B, which was still enough to have her place confirmed.

She could have taken a gap year and re-applied for a different subject, possibly re-sitting one or two exams to improve her grade, but didn't want to.

She says that she doesn't like it at Durham and wants to come home. She isn't looking forward to classes on Monday. I am sure that she could do her subject if she wanted to, but it doesn't seem like she wants to. On the phone, she sounds lethargic, disinterested and unhappy. What should I do?

Just caught up with your update Duck . Sending you lots of wishes for a recuperative year for your Dd and the rest of you all. Hopefully some time and space will give you all a chance to think about what is right for her for next year.

For those who asked earlier Dd is ok, had an emergency trip home with a nasty bug that we thought was glandular fever but thankfully was just a rather tenacious fresher's flu. She's enjoying it very much but finding the non-stop"being sociable" quite hard going; she mentioned today about coming home again this weekend. I'm more than happy with that but it's a bit of a trip ,and not a cheap one last minute , just for a day and a half.

tantalisingduck Sorry to hear about your DD, I hope it's not too long before she feels better. It must all seem a bit overwhelming for you all at the moment.

It's good to hear that the tutors, college and her GP have all been supportive.

tantalisingduck the comments on the other thread titled Rustication apply equally to your DD, and might be helpful. Poor her and poor you. All the very best of luck for this year.

Sorry to hear that, Tantalising. It's felt like DS has been clinging on by his finger ends and I keep wondering whether he'd be better to call this a practice run and try again another year. Hope your DD can start to recover now the decision has been made.

Seriouslyffs: what I meant by Student Support is that DS has been making use of the drop-in student counselling service in the Palatine Centre and the Disability Support services across the corridor in the same building. Actually I'm not sure which ones he went to when very distressed, but whoever it was, they were helpful!

He's been told that if he feels overwhelmed he should contact anyone on the staff - college, department, whatever - and they will find someone who does know how to help.