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Preparing for Uni in 2015 continues...

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Chillywhippet · 13/09/2015 12:20

New thread

Old one here with loads of info

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/2408327-Preparing-for-Uni-in-2015

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PUGaLUGS · 17/09/2015 11:53

Have texted him... Tentatively asking if his new bank card has arrived that I sent him. No response as yet. Sent the text at 10.30am, am assuming he is still in bed!

Quietlygoingmad67 · 17/09/2015 12:38

OHGOODNESS!! Just spoken to DD who has rec her timetable - 5 hours a week!! Thsts it's!! All on Tuesday and Wednesday and she mentioned about coming home for LONGGGG weekends - I've said if you do they regularly then you may as well live at home it's costing £192 rent plus food plus travel a week to be there!!!

circular · 17/09/2015 12:57

DDs is only 6 or 7 hours Quietly. Presume that's Humanitie/Arts too?

Love the kitten. Our cats keep trying to get in the holdalls, but think they are too big to remain in unnoticed.

Bagpuss555 · 17/09/2015 13:12

Wow quiet so basically 2 day week! Bet it would work out cheaper living at Travelodge for 2 days than having to pay whole weeks rent, plus would get housekeeping and maybe cooked brekky. Hopefully this only first semester they may change it next termConfused

mrsrhodgilbert · 17/09/2015 13:40

Dd1, going into year 3 only has to be there on Mondays up until Christmas. Her decision to commute from home is going to really pay off this year it seems. I'm sure other things will crop up but basically she has lectures/seminars one day a week. I'm very glad we're not paying accommodation for her too.

Katymac · 17/09/2015 13:57

Eeek! 5 hours

Just counted DD's 41.5 contact hours Shock

LapsedPacifist · 17/09/2015 15:18

((Hugs)) / Manly Back-Slaps (delete as appropriate) for all who have just said goodbye or are preparing to do so.

I've forked out for a Freshers Pass (£80 Shock ) just to make things easier for DS. He says his 3 (female) flat-mates have them and intend to attend every single possible event Hmm. Am quite disappointed the pass is for mostly club nights and parties. Presumably more low-key events will be organised by Hall JCRs for those who don't want to face the prospect of getting home pissed at 2.00am in a strange town. Which is a useful life-skill, think on.. Ds isn't much of a drinker, but has witnessed enough crying, vomiting and falling over youthful high spirits at the very few parties he's attended to be aware of the pitfalls and consequences. Have given him The Talk about looking out for pissed mates who might be vulnerable.

Weepy and stupid at work this morning. Lovely elderly volunteer enquired after DS, who has been working with us since last October. He told me how his generation's rite of passage was National Service, not university, and how that was the first time he'd seen young men cry from homesickness. But they made all made friends too! Everyone is being so kind - many of my fellow workers have grandchildren at uni so have been through it themselves, and they're all very fond of DS.

AugustRose · 17/09/2015 15:21

Hi can I ask a question about arrival times please. For those of you who have already dropped your DC off, how long did you stay? Or those who are going this weekend how long do you plan to stay?

We only have a 30 minutes window to park and get DS things into his room but we were planning on parking nearby and then taking him for something to eat before we leave.

Thanks.

Horsemad · 17/09/2015 15:25

Lapsed, I'm feeling very emotional this afternoon Sad
Am currently at school waiting for DS2 and I am feeling quite fragile.

Horsemad · 17/09/2015 15:27

August, we have 15 mins then have to move to a different halls car park.

LapsedPacifist · 17/09/2015 15:32

Judging by the worries about Fresher's Week shared by so many of our non-party-animal DCs, the Student's Union is missing a trick. There are some quieter activities on offer (I know this varies enormously between universities) but they are mostly selling an image of full-on clubbing and non-stop partying which is very daunting for less out-going kids and creates unecessary anxiety about fitting in.

LapsedPacifist · 17/09/2015 15:33

Oh Horsemad, it's horrid isn't it. So sorry your feeling down too. Flowers

Horsemad · 17/09/2015 15:47

Thanks Lapsed. I've been all 'stiff upper lip' for weeks but am very tired and just feel overwrought. Haven't slept well for a while which must contribute to how I feel.

mrsrhodgilbert · 17/09/2015 15:48

I think it's really disappointing that the Students Union can't come up with anything more original than endless club nights. There is obviously a demand for a change.

Dd is very sociable, happy to have a few drinks but has only been properly drunk once and she hated feeling ill and knew she was vulnerable. It really scared her. It was the day of the AS results last summer, they started drinking in the afternoon. I was very glad to be able to collect her and bring her safely home ( and hold her hair while she threw up). No words were needed, she learnt her lesson.

I got drunk plenty of times as a student, but not to the point of oblivion, which seems to be the goal now.

Bagpuss555 · 17/09/2015 15:54

august we arrived at DD accomodation for 1pm, could only park on street for 1hour. So parked at NCP after. Un packed then took DD to the Slug and lettuce for a bite to eat. Had a explore of the city, finding banks, local supermarkets and looking at which bus stops DD can use as she can only catch certain buses with her bus pass. We stopped till 9pmish, DH took hours trying to get DD laptop to work wirelessly with printer. Good luck hope it all goes to plan.
horsemadFlowers me too. I got too much time on my hands. Im missing dd already. Well my shopping bill is definatley alot cheaper without her.

Bagpuss555 · 17/09/2015 16:00

Mrs H totally agree. I bet the people that live locally near uni hate fresher's week. There's so much fresher's antic posted on YouTube from different uni's its frightening what they put themselves into.

PUGaLUGS · 17/09/2015 16:12

for those that need them x

We literally had to move our
car as soon as it was unloaded August. We then moved to a nearby 4hr car park.

I have spoken to DS via Whatsapp. I asked if he was missing us and he said yes. I asked if he wanted me to ring him and he said no he will be fine . He said they don't have any going out plans as yet for the weekend and are just taking each day as it comes.

Am not sure what contact time he has although I do know he starts at 12 noon on a Monday and has all day Friday off.

Bag my shopping bill this week is cheaper too!

MossAgate · 17/09/2015 16:14

My dd still here at the moment so am trying to reign back the spending. All I can say is Imelda Marcos you have competition.

I think universities are starting to cotton onto the massive demand for non drinking events.

LapsedPacifist · 17/09/2015 17:08

This thread has been such a support for us. Have been able to reassure DS that many of the parents here say their DCs have the same anxieties about making friends, homesickness etc.

PUGaLUGS: 'My DS is more of a gamer. Never goes out drinking or socialising etc, dislikes sport. Very shy, quiet and sensitive.

I have one of those too Smile. I am pretty sure mine is up for some new experiences and lots of fun though, in the right company!

bigbluebus · 17/09/2015 17:10

Mossagate One of DS's friends posted on FB that one of his flat mates (a girl, I think) had brough 35 pairs of shoes.
I'm Shock at those whose DCs only have 6 hrs contact time. What are they actually gettting for their £9000. DS has got 19 hours contact time, which covers every morning starting at 9.00 and finishes early afternoon with session until 5.00pm.
His SU is also running lots of sightseeing trips (although not all in Freshers week) which don't all involve alcohol.

Fairenuff · 17/09/2015 17:28

I think some courses require more contact time and others need more reading/research time so it really depends on what they're doing.

I'm worrying now that I haven't spent very much Grin (not really).

Dd didn't seem to need much. She's taking her duvet and clothes, we bought a few bits for her ensuite but not that much for the kitchen, just the basics. She plans on asking someone if she can share their kettle/toaster before buying her own. She's taking two large towels and two small ones, from our cupboard.

She is also another one who doesn't drink much. One glass of alcohol will do, then she's onto the soft drinks. She's happy to socialise with others who do drink but not keen on clubs because you can't actually talk to anyone there so she'd rather go to the pub or stay in.

AugustRose · 17/09/2015 18:46

Thanks for your replies, we will have to move to another car park once we have unpacked and will stay for a few hours to have a look round. We are pretty much all packed and ready to go.

DS likes a drink but hasn't bought any freshers tickets as he isn't into clubbing and partying, he prefers a quiet pub. I think his SU has some events that don't involve being as drunk as possible and he's talked to a few people on the uni FB groups who he is going to meet up with to have a different kind of get to know you/night out.

HMF1 · 17/09/2015 18:57

Ratherbeonthepiste is your DD doing physics at Edinburgh? We dropped DS 1 at his student flat on Saturday he is doing physics at Edinburgh, we are only a couple of hours away& I visit Edinburgh for work & socially fairly often so hoping I will get to see him now and again, he tested earlier to say that he had met his tutor this morning & was going to the societies fair this afternoon, no mention of a pub crawl although he had said he would join the physics soc. Hope your daughter enjoys Edinburgh & her course.

Decorhate · 17/09/2015 20:45

carriemac we don't go till Saturday. I'm guessing it's later because we got stiffed with the catered accommodation & meals won't be provided till Sun evening. Let me know how parking is? Dd is aware that there are a couple of other medics in her halls - hopefully they will all link up.

I think nervousness is hitting now. I honestly could not have done it at that age. Whoever said about 17 year olds at Scottish unis - 17 was the norm when I went too & in fact one of my friends was only 16! He did live at home though.

beaucoupdemojo · 17/09/2015 20:46

PUG, I am glad you have spoken to your ds and he is okay.

I have enouraged my ds to go out tonight on a social for his subject. I saidvto give it a fair go and he might have fun. Hevhas had some meetings to do with his subject and is quite excited about the course.

I keep telling him that he will eventually feel comfortable there, even though it feels strange right now.