Oxford is an amazing place to study as it has astonishing libraries, all on hand within yards of the accommodation, and all free to use for the student, excellent tuition, and really good academic training, because the students are required to do a lot more essays than elsewhere, and the essays get marked really quickly, and the tutor groups are very small, so there is no where for a slacker to hide, and in short it is academic heaven, and I really do think that very bright children need that opportunity as they will not get it elsewhere (except of course unless they are doing medicine in London which is quite different).
However, and this is a big however, there is a class divide in Oxford and anyone who says there isn't is either not in touch or telling porkies. It is because the social scene on one level costs serious money. In short, the Oxford Union membership and balls, the law society ball, the formal hall with guest, the college May balls, and the rowing kit, are all very seriously expensive. ( Balls nearly £100 or more just for the ticket: clothing and hairdo separate: formal hall £15 or more just for the ticket without a guest: smart dress separate: The Magdalene College commemoration ball is £150 for one person: DD was offered a ticket but said no)
Even if one pretends that these things are pretentious and unnecessary (whilst actually wishing they were affordable), to go to the student concerts, plays and shows often costs a fiver a time and there are humungus masses of these events.
Thus very early on, by the second fortnight, the freshers are socially divided into the haves and have nots. DD is most fortunate to attend a left wing college where these things matter less, but even at her college this has happened. The haves go to formals, and balls, etc and the have-nots don't. It is as simple as that. One has to allow an extra £700 a term or so for all that if one thinks that DC should engage in such activities.
It is perfectly possible not to go to any balls or formals and have a good time but such a choice seems to be confined to those of lower income group parents. When are the Oxford colleges going to wise up and ban the £100 black tie event? Why cant Oxford students exist in jeans and a t shirt like everyone else?