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JuliaMumsnet · 09/06/2021 17:07

Stephanie Hilborne

CEO at Women in Sport

Earlier this year, Women in Sport released first a report on the impact of the pandemic on teenage girls' sports and exercise and later launched a campaign on the menopause and sports. We asked CEO Stephanie Hilborne to tell us more about these issues and Women in Sport more widely:

"When someone says the word "sport" what’s the first thing you think of?

For me, it is gazing longingly out of the window at the netball courts during French class. But our charity Women in Sport knows that for many women the opposite is true. "Sport" brings back horrible memories of school. Whether it was being forced to wear “gym knickers” or a leotard when you were on a period or never getting picked for the team because you weren’t “sporty”.

And yet the word sport means “being carried away from stress and responsibility”. It’s about having fun. I don’t know many women who would reject the idea of less responsibility and more freedom.

Now think about exercise. What do you first think about when someone says the word “exercise”? Many women we talk to wince because they think they should be doing more of it. For others, serious exercise conjures up pain and suffering. But when we actually get around to going out for a brisk walk or even a run, we feel great. Our bodies release endorphins when we exercise, which is the healthiest way to get high.

Women in Sport has been looking into the lives of teenage girls and women during the last year and finding out how lockdown has affected women’s experiences of, and views on, exercise and sport. Before the pandemic, Sport England statistics showed that the gap was closing but women were still slightly less active than men overall.

The biggest gender gap was in team sport – with 25% fewer girls than boys involved in teams and paltry opportunities for girls at school. That’s why the closure of schools affected boys’ sports the worst.

Why should we care about team sport? Because being in joint endeavour, in a team, trying to win while having fun brings lifelong benefits. If more girls had positive experiences of team sport at school, more women would enter the workplace and wider society trained to lead, to take risks, and to be resilient if they lose.

So, what did we find out about girls in lockdown? During the pandemic, the Government put exercise front and centre as one of the few ways we were able to leave our homes. This opportunity has released some girls into new worlds. We talked to teenage girls going for walks outside with friends for the first time, and 82% of girls said they would put more effort into being active when life returned to normal. Teenage girls we spoke to recognised the value of exercise for their physical and mental health, some for the very first time. They may not know that research shows a positive impact of outdoor sport on body image, but they are feeling it.

Then we spoke to the women. We know that women have borne the brunt of pandemic redundancies and that home-schooling has exposed ongoing stereotypes and gender inequalities in the home. The women we spoke to were time deprived. 32% of women said they could not prioritise exercise during lockdown as they had too much to do for others. But on the positive side, the crisis has led people to reappraise. People have been resetting their priorities and there is more motivation to exercise than there used to be. 85% of women in our research said they would either put more effort into being fit and active or would keep up being active after lockdown.

Our recent new research into women around the menopause showed that this too can prompt reappraisal. So, the double whammy of an unprecedented pandemic and an unprecedented change in hormones seems to be triggering a bit of a revolution amongst midlife women.

One of the most fascinating insights we gleaned even before the pandemic was how much teenage girls cherished time alone with their mum or mother figures in their lives. They saw such relationships as ‘safe spaces’ without fear of judgement. Lockdown has exaggerated this feeling and girls have appreciated time being active outside, in nature, in a safe context without toxic commentary from peers.

Last year we launched our #TimeTogether campaign based on our understanding that midlife women and teenage girls both face unique physical challenges and pressures, and that they want to support one another. Women and girls also know they ought to be more active, but many find it hard to act on that. So, we’re inspiring women and girls to team up, to get active and have fun together outside. As we go back to some normality post lockdown, this special relationship may well help overcome shared concerns about loss of fitness or being in large groups.

The pandemic has led to a growing intolerance of inequality, whether racial, economic, or gender inequality. At Women in Sport, we’ve been intolerant of this for a long time. We know that less wealthy women from certain diverse backgrounds are the least active of all. How wrong is this, that society is denying these girls and women joy and health?

The pandemic exposed underlying inequalities in society across the board, and elite sport was no exception. In August 2020 a BBC survey of elite British sportswomen showed 86% earnt less than £30k from sport, and 60% less than £10k and one in five believed they may have to give up their sport due to the crisis to focus on having a normal job. At the same time women’s sport all but disappeared from our screens. The women’s football Euros were pushed back to 2022 to make way for the men’s Euros to be played in 2021. The Women’s Six Nations was never completed, the 2020 Netball Super League, Football Women’s Super League and Championship were all cancelled. In contrast, the top three tiers of men’s football continued their 2019-20 season; the men’s Premiership Rugby 2019-20 season restarted in August, the men’s Six Nations was completed.

So it is hardly surprising that half as many girls as boys dreamt about reaching the top of sport (30% cf 60%) in a survey we ran with Sports Direct in March 2021. We should not be denying our girls the chance to dream.

We want to redefine the relationship that many girls and women have with sport and exercise. This should be about fun, and we have a right to fun at every time in our lives. Yes, we could be drawing joy from sport, even as teenagers when everywhere you look people are commenting on your appearance; and even in mid-life when that pressure cooker of responsibility means our own needs come last. We want the legacy of the pandemic to be a break down in negative gender stereotypes and the emergence of a new normal in which all women and girls can experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport."

EDIT: Stephanie will be coming back onto the thread at 11am on Thursday 17th June to answer your questions.

Guest post: “All women and girls should be able to experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport”
Guest post: “All women and girls should be able to experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport”
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Grellbunt · 12/06/2021 13:00

"Used to be male"

= Still is male, but now presents with a feminine gender identity.

Grellbunt · 12/06/2021 13:02

I don't mean that snippily, by the way. I'm just keen to ensure accuracy. The word "male" refers to biological sex which will never change. What changes is "gender" which is a legal fiction. Language matters, especially in this context.

Polkadots2021 · 12/06/2021 15:31

I agree with the sentiment but so many women and girls hate sport and hate the usual troupe of sports wheeled out for PE (when you said gazing out at the netball court during French I can see you're one of the lucky ones that loved orthodox school sports).

I've trained women for so many years in a gym and loads fall in pure love with weights when they're really introduced to them properly later in life, or love recreational swimming or martial arts or charity fitness events. Or a bunch of stuff you'd never see in school. The problem I have is that this team netball playing school sport ethos is so miserable for a lot of people so they don't think of themselves as sporty - but really are. Minority sports don't get a look in and that's where a lot of girls would shine and find their passion.

MoonlightApple · 12/06/2021 15:46

All the coverage of women’s sport on BBC news is either abuse of girls (gymnasts, swimmers etc) or about how transgender women are allowed to miraculously beat women at sport (Olympics, Paralympics, etc). Hardly inspiring.

QioiioiioQ · 12/06/2021 16:29

when you said gazing out at the netball court during French
same here, and surprised that the OP thinks that others will identify with her!

QioiioiioQ · 12/06/2021 16:34

'netball' just the word, cant stand it, ridiculous activity designed to humiliate the majority of participants, anything associated with team sports now-URGHH
love being fit and strong, detest team games

Sometimesfraught82 · 12/06/2021 16:37

@Reachersloveinterest

Sometimesfraught82 My university had male and female netball teams, the social team was mixed.
That’s brilliant!
Sometimesfraught82 · 12/06/2021 16:39

Sorry posted too soon.

Brilliant that came together socially. I found sports socialising has been quite divided gender wise

Sometimesfraught82 · 12/06/2021 16:46

@Reachersloveinterest

Sometimesfraught82 My university had male and female netball teams, the social team was mixed.
But the info re your skills would have been made by women.

Both genders precluding you from the social side and non competitive sports because of a seclusion taken by the female team.

carolinesbaby · 12/06/2021 16:46

Yes but they still thought I was too rubbish and sent me away

Sometimesfraught82 · 12/06/2021 16:49

@Reachersloveinterest

Yes but they still thought I was too rubbish and sent me away
Sorry you had A rough time Unfortunately university level does tend to be fiercely competitive, and very high level often. And by that stage - “everyone’s a winner” mentality from primary has well and truly gone out the window!
Mintjulia · 12/06/2021 16:56

Stephanie, I'm glad you enjoy sport, that's great for you. But sport, especially school sport is a source of enduring misery and humiliation for probably half the population.

Enforced school sport is the reason half the population do no exercise, one of the reasons our obesity levels are so high.

I hated every second of school sport. I was made to feel useless and stupid twice a week for 14 years. It was relentless. The last day of the 6th form, I threw my trainers on the bonfire and didn't buy another pair until I was 48. I haven't ever been back to a gym.

School sport is responsible for my 10yo, after year6 sports day, saying in all seriousness 'Mummy, if you ever try to make me do sports day again, I'm going to kill myself'.Another child's life made a misery. I was relieved when Covid came because last year's sports day was cancelled and the issue didn't arise. Sports day this year is in July. I'm praying for another lockdown! That's how bad it is.

So while you enjoy sport, understand that people like you ruin childhood for so many others. Can I respectfully suggest that you stop interfering. We don't need more sport. We don't need more Jolly Hockeysticks enthusiasts like you! We need more understanding that children are all different and sport DOES NOT suit everyone.

Please, just stop.

Sometimesfraught82 · 12/06/2021 16:59

@Mintjulia

Stephanie, I'm glad you enjoy sport, that's great for you. But sport, especially school sport is a source of enduring misery and humiliation for probably half the population.

Enforced school sport is the reason half the population do no exercise, one of the reasons our obesity levels are so high.

I hated every second of school sport. I was made to feel useless and stupid twice a week for 14 years. It was relentless. The last day of the 6th form, I threw my trainers on the bonfire and didn't buy another pair until I was 48. I haven't ever been back to a gym.

School sport is responsible for my 10yo, after year6 sports day, saying in all seriousness 'Mummy, if you ever try to make me do sports day again, I'm going to kill myself'.Another child's life made a misery. I was relieved when Covid came because last year's sports day was cancelled and the issue didn't arise. Sports day this year is in July. I'm praying for another lockdown! That's how bad it is.

So while you enjoy sport, understand that people like you ruin childhood for so many others. Can I respectfully suggest that you stop interfering. We don't need more sport. We don't need more Jolly Hockeysticks enthusiasts like you! We need more understanding that children are all different and sport DOES NOT suit everyone.

Please, just stop.

Loads of subjects I didn’t enjoy Booody hell I despised maths. Hated it.
LateAtTate · 12/06/2021 17:21

@Polkadots2021 well said
Also sports and exercise are not the same thing.
We would do well to encourage exercise
But nothing extra to be gained from ‘organised team sport’ from a public health and life enhancement perspective

QioiioiioQ · 12/06/2021 17:58

But OP thinks girls need to learn to enjoy team sports so that they can develop the leadership skills that men have.
I think? Have I got that right OP?

carolinesbaby · 12/06/2021 18:23

sometimesfraught82 I'm sorry but I'm not quite sure what point you are trying to make.

Mintjulia · 12/06/2021 18:31

It feels like OP enjoys team sports so feels the need to evangelise and persuade others to her way of thinking. It doesn't seem to have occurred to her that others do not and never will have the same experience. Many people (male and female) do not enjoy competition, they find it pointless and a source of unhelpful comparison and bullying.

People differ physically and do not all get a burst of endorphins but OP seems unaware of that. This whole campaign seems yet another initiative to tell those of us who aren't sporty that we're wrong, inadequate or failing. When will they scrap the competitiveness and encourage people to exercise on their own in private if that is their preference.

Binglebong · 12/06/2021 22:42

When I was at school PE wise I was seen as lazy (I am but wasn't then!) . I said it hurt to do these sports and was told off. Turns out I'm hypermobile so yes, the pain and lack of coordination were genuine. They could have been eased with supportive exercises but rather than the teachers showing them (would have helped others too) or even just feeding back that I had problems, I was criticised, mocked and made to run extra laps. Hardly surprising I'm not a fan of PE and exercise.

Before all this used to do gymnastics after school. We were on benefits and I have no idea how mum managed it, she couldn't after a year. If you really want to fer childrenintwrested give some kind of vouchers that can be spent on exercise they enjoy, be it football they also get in school, gymnastics they don't or learning the flying trapeze! Stop trying to make them one size fits all.

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 12/06/2021 23:01

My daughter is top of the league in her year 12s but we've experienced not being able to play on a pitch on a saturday as its being saved for the boys teams on sunday which didn't happen anyway because of bed weather! Unbelievable! Thats just the tip of the iceberg and what message does that send to girls and women's teams? :( Message received and understood: Girls sports are still considered second to the boys,

ArcheryAnnie · 12/06/2021 23:57

I feel like sort has passed me by. I was a nerdy, dumpy kid, and am now still nerdy and dumpy, but also a lot older and a bit disabled.

However, in my dotage, I would really like to do Tai Chi. I am attracted to it because it's slow, and because Commander Worf did it....

Can I find a women's class anywhere near me in one of the biggest cities on earth? Can I fuck.

ArcheryAnnie · 12/06/2021 23:57

*sport, obvs, not sort.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 12/06/2021 23:58

First of all the title is ridiculous. Not all women enjoy sports,or get joy,endorphins or whatever from it. Why should they ALL enjoy sports?

Do you expect ALL men enjoy sports?

Should they have the opportunity to enjoy it, if they so choose? Thats a completely different question, and of course they should. Whatever form that may take though, it doesn't have to be competitive/team sports.

There should be,especially for girls, more choices. Safe choices/spaces. No pressure to be the best,win,move to the next level,show off etc. Just exercising or doing a sport for the fun of it.

snowqu33n · 13/06/2021 00:59

I am interested that the OP perceives men doing better in the workplace as being due to skills they have learned, whether from team sports or not.

Sometimesfraught82 · 13/06/2021 05:27

Clearly so passionate about it

That 7 pages in, 5 days after posting - the OP hasn’t bothered to drop back in for 5 mins to engage.

HopeValley · 13/06/2021 06:39

@Callingallbutterflies

From reading the thread I can see I am in a minority when I say that I loved PE at school. All of it, hockey, netball, volley ball, tennis, full contact rugby, gymnastics, Scottish dancing, trampolining, athletics and even cross country on a cold wintry day. I swam outside of high school and did Duke of Edinburgh expeditions etc. I had two really great PE teachers though and we were separate from the boys, which makes a huge difference as then boys don't dominate. I continued to play competitive hockey until pregnant with my oldest daughter, I could not find the time for training, travelling or risk injury, as my husband worked abroad. I still play tennis when I can. However family, work and the rest of life stuff are my priorities and my love of sport and my own personal fitness has been pushed further and further down the list so I am now unfit and feeling too old to do anything. The pandemic has made this worse.

If you want to reduce inequalities about access to sport for women and girls then the breadth of sport offered at school needs to be wide and girls need space away from boys. Schools should not feel the need to mix PE classes ALL the time. My daughters' high school is actually pretty good. They offer creative PE and my team sports hating youngest is actually thinking of creative PE as an option as she likes dancing, gym, rhythmic and yoga. It is all girls that take this class so that appeals to her too!

There needs to be more government support for swimming to be offered by schools and more subsidies for families on lower income to access sport. Including private gyms, clubs etc. The cost of girls going to dancing, gymnastics, swim clubs and other team sports clubs can be high. A bursary or grant programme that pays some of these fees could be considered.

I have one daughter who loves team sports but it's devoted to swimming. The other is a dancer. I am lucky enough to be able to afford the fees. Other less fortunate girls need to be supported.

This is all grass roots stuff though. To be inspired to take up a sport girls also need to see women's sports being taken seriously and fairly at a competitive level. This means keeping women's sports female, being paid properly, fair TV coverage etc.

Last point... There has to be safeguarding against abuse at every level. The relationship with a coach can be a close one. Girls need to be safe from predation and exploitation.

Agree with this post completely (and the reference to Scottish country dancing made me laugh - excruciatingly embarrassing in early secondary school when you had to pick a partner, but the highlight of the week for most people by the time we were in S5. One of the best things about the Scottish school experience Grin)

I also agree with the poster who said there are no avenues to play competitively if you aren't the very best. Most things finished at primary level too - I was into gymnastics and just accepted when I finished primary school I'd stop because that's the age the club went up to.

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