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Guest post: "Girls still think getting sweaty isn't for them"

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MumsnetGuestPosts · 15/06/2016 11:04

We're about to embark on another glorious summer of sport, but for much of the population the exploits of Jessica Ennis-Hill in Brazil and the England men's team in France will have little impact on our everyday lives.

We know why, we've all seen the headlines: girls and women are not doing enough sport or exercise. Despite the increased visibility of female sporting role models, we're in the middle of an obesity crisis in this country and it's women and girls who are most at risk. Only 12% of 14-year-old girls do enough exercise, meanwhile one third of girls aged 12-15 in England are deemed overweight or obese. The estimated impact on the nation as a whole is startling: physical inactivity costs the UK economy £7.4bn a year.

The question is - why do so many women and girls have such a dysfunctional relationship with sport? While women's sport is more visible than ever (though still not visible enough, accounting for just 2% of all sports coverage in newspapers in 2013), why are we still getting it so wrong at grassroots level?

As someone who consistently bunked PE lessons throughout secondary school, now I'm a mum I find myself thinking a lot about how to make sure my daughter's relationship with sport and physical activity is a more positive one. Because although the policies are changing – such as the FA raising the age limit for girls and boys to play football together to 18 years – the culture is not.

I came across far too many depressing stories while researching for Eat Sweat Play. Like the mum who told me her eight-year-old daughter hates playing football in PE lessons because the boys refuse to pass to the girls and so they end up standing around getting cold and bored. Or the bright young football coach who told me that England women's success at the World Cup last year brought girls to his Under-10s football coaching sessions, but no matter how good they are the boys still won't accept them. Meanwhile, on my local parenting message board, mums lament that their five-year-old daughters cannot join a football session because the boys taking part are already so advanced the girls would be sidelined before they even start.

These examples are significant because they refute the common assumption that the problems for girls and sport begin at puberty. While periods and boobs are a barrier for girls taking up sport, or continuing to be active, the roots of the thing are much deeper.

With my own daughter I've watched how from a very early age a myriad of factors gave her the message that sport and being physically strong is for boys, while dolls and domestics are for girls. Comments from parents, images and slogans on kids' clothing, stories in books, programmes on TV…it's an anti-sport cultural assault that ensures young girls know that getting sweaty, muscular or powerful is not for them.

And so, in the summer of 2013 before she had even turned two years old, it was fascinating how she reacted to seeing England women on the TV at the European Championships. For the first time ever my daughter sat staring at the match, all those ponytails bobbing up and down the pitch. Girls! Like her! Playing sport! It was the first time she properly concentrated on a game of football.

Thank goodness then that Tracey Crouch, sports minister, has slashed the national sports strategy age target – from 14 years old to five – in an attempt to engage children as they start school. Because if we expect future generations of adults to do 150 minutes of exercise a week to stay healthy, then we've got to engender the habit in our kids first.

But while schools and sports coverage all play their part, arguably the most important role models of all are parents. Running down the street together, kicking a ball in the park, cycling, swimming, talking about sport and exercise, finding women's sport to watch on TV, or in the local area – all give girls the message that sport is for them. But with 75% of women telling Sport England that while they would like to play sport, fear of judgement stops them from having a go.

We've got to break the cycle somewhere though, and if children see their mums doing sport and exercise, they will likely follow in their footsteps. And who knows where that could take them. Laura Trott might never have won two Olympic gold medals had her mum not taken up cycling to lose weight.

And perhaps, similarly, Laura Trott's mum might never have taken up cycling if she didn't have children to be a role model for. That's the beauty of parenting. Sometimes our children motivate us to confront our biggest fears, even if it's a lifetime of PE dodging, in order to make a change for good.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 16/06/2016 20:37

barney I'm glad you are walking. Definitely give weight training a try - I'm very unsporty too and enjoy a body pump class.

The Olympics was meant to improve the nations physical activity, so it's great that you are inspired but it doesn't seem to have changed much for the general population.

powershowerforanhour · 16/06/2016 20:49

Except cycling. Sales of lycra shorts seem to have shot up in the past ten years or so since British cyclists started winning things . True there seem to be a lot more men than women on the roads but more of both compared to a few years ago.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 16/06/2016 21:18

But on a thread about what demotivates girls from competing and participating in sports? I'm going to discuss this. Because it's very relevant

It has been relevant for about the last 12 months. School girls have had little interest in sport since, I'd guess, PE first became compulsory.

GeekLove · 16/06/2016 21:21

I think a sportswoman and an athelete is anyone who wants to see what their body can do and is prepared to push themselves. Whether it's aiming for a sub hour 10k or a 110kg deadlift PB your should not do yourself down. Be an athlete!

nannybeach · 18/06/2016 08:36

Its not just schools, who are to blame, I collected my Grandkids from school this week, and EVERY single parent was on their mobile phone, you see the Mums walking down the streets with kids in prams/pushchairs/walking, Mummy is on the phone, not interacting with the children at all, not encouraging any kind of physical activity. I hated PE at school in the 60s, I had periods, boobs etc. at 11, we had communial showers, my friends didnt develope till they were 15/16, they laughed at my body, wanted to know why I took so long in the toilet. Probably a lot of it was also, it was a lesson, something you HAD to do, but growing up in the 50s 60s, there was no phones,TVs or cars, so even making a phone call was a walk into the village where I lived. We often walked the 3 miles each way to school, play was outside,climbing trees,roller skating, running. I still had a ration book, have seen this was meant to be the best diet, for health and certainly do not remember anyone being overweight.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 18/06/2016 14:04

I agree with you re changing life styles.

I got absolutely flamed by a poster on here on a previous sport thread about how my loathing of sport = no activity/lack of fitness. This completely ignored the fact I had said I lived in the countryside and had a long walk or cycle ride every day just to get to school and the same at weekends for weekend job.

I also remember the luxury of buying a chilled can of coke from the local cafe in my early teens. This was a once a week treat. This had nothing to do with whether you could afford it , it just wasn't an everyday thing. And I'm a lot younger than you if you remember rationing

DeathpunchDoris · 18/06/2016 18:29

If your daughters like football, there are plenty of girls football clubs out there in the UK. It is incredibly popular and very successful at both grass roots and RTC level. I disagree that girls aren't into sport - I know plenty for whom it is their life!

lljkk · 18/06/2016 23:10

DH is rarely off his phone but has a local reputation as a Strava God. Be careful with the stereotypes.

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