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Guest post: Sandi Toksvig - "The time is right for the Women's Equality Party"

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MumsnetGuestPosts · 06/11/2015 17:49

I'm rather old fashioned in my beliefs. I always thought that when Parliament passed a law, people were supposed to take notice. So how is it that 45 years ago an Equal Pay Act was introduced, and yet no one has really acted to make sure we get it? When I mentioned the gender pay gap to the environment minister, Liz Truss, she said "It's smaller than it's ever been." It's at 19%. How big was it before?

Much of the world baffles me. How does the UK tolerate the fact that so many women because they are women still live in poverty, suffer harassment and violence, and abandon careers they enjoy because of the exorbitant costs of childcare? I've come to the sad conclusion that in its current form our political system can't be trusted to deal with any of this. There are twice as many men as women in the House of Commons, and they seem to spend most of their time shouting and jeering at one another. Frankly, like many of you, I'm embarrassed by it. Seven months ago, in conversation with my friend Catherine Mayer, I realised it was time for us to take matters into our own hands.

So in March 2015 we founded the Women's Equality Party, a new political force that (we hoped) would unite people of all genders, ages, backgrounds, ethnicities, beliefs and experiences in the shared determination to see women enjoy the same rights and opportunities as men. It would be something new. Non-partisan. Attracting people from the left, from the right, from the centre. People who have had enough of waiting for equality. I have to say even at my most ambitious and optimistic, I could not have predicted the flood of support that soon washed over us. Within seven months WE have more than 50,000 members and supporters, ably led by Sophie Walker, 65 branches across the country and will be standing candidates in the spring elections.

This is not some dreamy group wistfully hoping for change. Late last month, just six months after that initial conversation, I found myself sitting in a hall packed with cheering activists and supporters, clutching a book of wonderfully pragmatic policy proposals. Policies developed through close consultation with experts and our members, and representing the experiences and concerns of thousands of women and men across the country.

WE heard from mothers who want to go back to work but can't, because of crippling childcare costs, and because so few workplaces have actually embraced flexible working.

WE heard from mothers who choose to stay at home, but feel dismissed by society for doing so because, despite its immense value, caring labour is still not recognised, respected and supported.

WE heard from fathers who desperately want to share the joys and responsibilities of parenthood, but are stigmatised for wanting to balance work and home life.

All these experiences reinforced our awareness that care is not taken seriously in our society, nor are the people who care.

WE want to change that.

That's why we propose a dramatic overhaul of parental leave policy. We would guarantee both parents six weeks of non-transferable leave on 90% pay, with an additional 10 months of shared parental leave at statutory pay. This policy would, of course, encompass same-sex couples and adoptive parents, while single parents would be entitled to nominate a second caregiver.

Once this period of leave has passed, WE believe that families should immediately have access to affordable, high-quality childcare. The educational benefits of childcare are clearest in the first 15 hours a week, so those hours should be entirely state funded, with the rest payable at one pound per hour by parents.

These policies are good for women, who have greater freedom to balance work and home life (which will, of course, mean different things to different people). But they're also excellent for men who, for too long, have been excluded from participating fully in family life because care is seen as unmanly, and paternity leave as unprofessional.

Of course, all of our policies require a blend of legislative and cultural change. The reason the Equal Pay Act still isn't working properly is because back in 1970 we changed the law without changing the way people think.

And that's where education comes in.

Many people think equality in education has already been achieved, since girls consistently outperform boys academically. But education is about more than grades, it's about learning how to live, and work, and build relationships. And at present, our children are learning to live according to ludicrous, outdated notions of 'masculine' and 'feminine' behaviour.

So WE want more diverse role models for both boys and girls, starting with encouraging more men to enter primary school teaching and other caring roles. And WE want careers guidance that pays no heed to gender when helping young people to map their futures. And WE want proper, honest sex and relationships education to finally become a reality.

It all sounds very obvious and straightforward, doesn't it? Sadly, enacting these policies will be a lot harder than formulating them. And that's why WE need you. Join us, share your ideas. The time is right for this movement, and WE want you to be part of it.

Photo: Fiona Hanson

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kua · 11/11/2015 19:51

I'm also very disappointed with their response. Just another party trying to use a USP but ending up being the same as all others.

ArcheryAnnie · 11/11/2015 20:07

I'd have thought that a supposedly feminist party started by a lesbian

I hear you, QueenStronba. That's basically the grail of political parties, and it's committed to putting us all last from the start.

Who'd of thought we'd be here, eh?

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 11/11/2015 20:11

Well, if they come touting for votes here again I think it's pretty clear what reaction they'll get. They're not interested in us. Listening to women? Sure, just like Owen Jones.

QueenStromba · 11/11/2015 20:13

I'm really upset that they're fucking it up. If it fails then nobody else is going to try for a long time, if it doesn't fail then nobody will ever start an actual feminist party and we'll be stuck with a 'feminist' party that puts men's feelings over women's safety.

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 11/11/2015 20:15

Well, more people could tweet...

QueenStromba · 11/11/2015 20:17

I tweeted earlier with #transwomenequalityparty.

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 11/11/2015 20:30

Just favourited you & replied, Stromba.

HamaTime · 11/11/2015 20:33

I'm really upset that they're fucking it up. If it fails then nobody else is going to try for a long time, if it doesn't fail then nobody will ever start an actual feminist party and we'll be stuck with a 'feminist' party that puts men's feelings over women's safety

This, exactly.

howtorebuild · 11/11/2015 20:42

I didn't like their ideas on women into full time work and all children into flames time state care anyway, there is nothing wrong with being a SAHM or being brought up by your own parents.

howtorebuild · 11/11/2015 20:43

Full-time* child care.

HairyLittleCarrot · 11/11/2015 20:51

I'm a bit miffed that they've nabbed a name for their party that shouldn't be theirs.

I want to vote for a Women's Equality Party. If there ever actually is one. But now any future party that actually does want to defend the rights of women will have to pick another name.

QueenStromba · 11/11/2015 21:00

Sophie Walker is apparently trying to remember her MN password - hopefully that means we'll get a proper answer soon.

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 11/11/2015 21:01

Sophie Walker has just tweeted to say she'll be here in a minute.

soph36 · 11/11/2015 21:03

Hello everyone, I'm here

soph36 · 11/11/2015 21:04

I'm sorry you feel as though we haven't been listening. We are listening. I'm here. What question can I answer first?

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 11/11/2015 21:05

Hello,Sophie. Thank you for talking to us. Have you read the thread and do you know what we're angry about?

QueenStromba · 11/11/2015 21:05

I think we all want to know if WEP stands by retweeting the Tara Hudson petition.

SeekEveryEveryKnownHidingPlace · 11/11/2015 21:06

Well presumably if it's a mistaken feeling people had that WEP wasn't listening but you were, you've read the actual thread, right?

soph36 · 11/11/2015 21:09

Yes, I've read the thread. I read it earlier today and spoke to our comms person about it which is why we responded with our stance on trans which is in our policy document. I'm sorry you thought it looked like a cut and paste and not personal enough. I hope being on here I can assure you that we're not bots who don't care. Our trans stance is that we support the right of all to define their sex or gender or to reject gendered divisions as they choose.

ArcheryAnnie · 11/11/2015 21:09

Hello Sophie - I am glad you are here. Have you read the thread? Because it's a good place to start. There is (or at least there was) a lot of goodwill towards the WEP, but a combination of dumping-and-running, and the support for Tara Hudson going to a women's prison have really made that goodwill leak away.

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 11/11/2015 21:10

Does that mean that you stand by supporting Tara Hudson's move to a women's prison? A violent criminal with 8 previous convictions who enjoys bringing out a "seven-inch surprise"?

HairyLittleCarrot · 11/11/2015 21:11

Hi Sophie, welcome.
If by chance you haven't read read the thread in its entirety (and the other similar threads referred to) I think many of us would be really happy for you to say so, and then take your time to do that and digest the crux of the problem. A kneejerk reaction or soundbite wouldn't be a great response, given how much background has gone into forming the views expressed here.

QueenStromba · 11/11/2015 21:12

Alrighty then, good luck with Netmums.

DeoGratias · 11/11/2015 21:13

I just read the guest post and thought it all sounds great. As a feminst and full time working mother of 5 it is high time we had an equality party. I certainly support this:
"That's why we propose a dramatic overhaul of parental leave policy. We would guarantee both parents six weeks of non-transferable leave on 90% pay, with an additional 10 months of shared parental leave at statutory pay. This policy would, of course, encompass same-sex couples and adoptive parents, while single parents would be entitled to nominate a second caregiver."

The current system almost forces women into gendered roles who are married to a man immediately as they receive greater maternity rights than the fathers do which entrenches women at home and removes real choice from couples.

Having given my children books showing women doctors and the like over 20 years ago of course my daughters are successful high earners. My favourite toy as a child was a pen knifer. My nicest purchasei n the last 10 years my island in Panama. Women don't have to be in a feminine mode. The fact I like money and power and high pay is not male it's being human and I am sick of being regarded as different or other because I don't conform to some norm. We have sons and daughters and we all have more in common than differences.

Keep up the good work.

Now policies other than relating to equality are harder to agree on. I am a capitalist feminist, a free market libertarian and there is a huge lot of feminists out there who are socialists wanting dull domest work elevated to the level of some kind of higher calling. You will never square that circle so keep out of it as much as possible as it's a danger area.

kua · 11/11/2015 21:13

I second Empress's question