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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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GoshAnneGorilla · 17/10/2013 17:11

Avery - so not only does the author not only know her own mind, but you think she's a liar to boot?

This thread is beyond parody.

peacefuloptimist · 17/10/2013 17:14

I have the impression that, in general, the members of the Muslim community prefer to stay apart from western society.

Of course this is not true SDTG. With all respect you mentioned earlier that you do not have any muslim female friends (you didnt mention men) so what are basing this impression on? Do you live near a muslim community or is it based on what you see in the news.

I cant speak for all muslims but I would say for myself I feel very disheartened about the general turn in attitude towards muslims in this country. I have invested a lot of myself in to integrating in to this society but now I feel as if my efforts were misplaced as I am now being told that I will never be accepted unless I give up my religion. I know people will immediately jump to say I am exaggerating but think about how you would feel if your community were constantly bombarded with negative press coverage in the way muslims are. Muslims are attacked and criticised about everything they do from fasting in Ramadhan, to eating halal meat, to how they dress, to how they bring up their children, to where they choose to live etc etc. Its exhausting so I understand why some people might feel like they prefer to shield themselves away. I have never been blessed enough to live in an area that is predominately muslim though so Im always in the line of fire. This thread has also opened my eyes to the amount of under cover surveillance of muslims (in this case niqabis) that goes on. Im going to be much more careful to control my face when Im in public. Grin

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humphryscorner · 17/10/2013 17:17

eurochick all religion is an attempt at brainwashing in my view. correct.

We have discovered how life began, yet educated people still choose to believe the old men in the clouds made us.

Religion is man mad for control and dominance.

religion actually causes nothing but death, pain and suffering.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 17/10/2013 17:18

*30rock

nicename · 17/10/2013 17:18

My reading of it is that both sexes dress modestly - and that's not just flashing ther flesh, bling is also frowned upon - and that men ought to avert their gaze.

It does not tell women that they ought to be unseen and unheard.

I believe covering the face goes back to being in a dry, hot climate where your poor face will be sandblasted (see how the desert men cover their hair and faces against the sun, heat and sand?), and a time when women were seen as spoils of war (as it has been worldwide since the year dot). It would have been a sensible precaution there and then.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/10/2013 17:20

GoshAnne - I think my feeling is that the more devout the Muslims, the less they want to interact or make friends outside their community. I also have got the impression (drawn from a variety of sources) that non-muslim people who live in largely muslim areas feel a sense of separation and exclusion.

As i have said, I am happy to be proved wrong.

peacefuloptimist · 17/10/2013 17:21

Annie you wouldnt believe how much quicker it is to get ready in the morning when you dont have to sort out your hair.

nicename · 17/10/2013 17:22

I use dry shampoo myself.

humphryscorner · 17/10/2013 17:23

My reading of it is that both sexes dress modestly - and that's not just flashing ther flesh, bling is also frowned upon - and that men ought to avert their gaze.

That is not true wrt men for where I live. In fact its the complete opposite, yet the women still dress modestly.

lazysleepymummy · 17/10/2013 17:31

Phone, text, email etc are ways to communicate when face-to-face is impossible or not cost effective. It doesn't mean they are equally as good as face-to-face. That's why people tend to do face-to-face interviews and have serious conversations face-to-face. Pure texts can cause so much understanding, which perhaps is why we are typing away on this forum for ages, carefully choosing our words, on something perhaps a face-to-face seminar would take an hour to communicate.

I suppose if you make a big effort to read gestures and body language, perhaps it will compensate for some lost communication. But not everyone will be very good at it - even counselling/psychotherapy professionals need to be trained to read body language better. And neither will everyone want to make an effort. It's human nature to talk to the person we find easiest to talk to.

I'm not trying to make the case of communication the biggest issue. I don't have any strong opinions on either side, but I just think the whole denial of any barrier to communication is a bit silly, it actually undermines the argument for niqabis for me.

lazysleepymummy · 17/10/2013 17:32

*misunderstanding

nicename · 17/10/2013 17:37

'My reading', as in, what it's supposed to be.

The actuality is sadly far from this. Men still oggle, grope, make filthy sexual comments/jokes, abuse and rape women. Stats aren't great to compare cuntries or communities as women don't really report assault as much in countries where they have to cover.

peacefuloptimist · 17/10/2013 17:42

SDTG you know what some people may feel like that others like many of my friends will feel as if they are British through and through. We are not a monolithic community who think and feel the same way about everything. You know what though I think would be interesting. To do a comparison of who interacts more with others: muslims living in the UK or British citizens living in muslim countries. I have heard stories (and met people) who have lived in the Middle East for 20+ years who cant speak Arabic. Isnt that a bit hypocritical that muslims are expected to change themselves to fit in when British people living in the middle east are happy to take their significant tax free salaries and contribute nothing to where they live. (Lets get this fire started!)

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/10/2013 17:50

Well, it would be hypocritical if I believed that (and if others believe this, yes, they are hypocrites), but I have always believed it would be my responsibility as an incomer, to make the effort to fit in. I learned this from my parents, when we moved to a tiny, remote Shropshire village, and they made a point of integrating into the community - and they were told later on that people in the village were afraid they'd be the Big Noises from the Big City, out to show the villagers how much they could teach the village, and they were pleasantly surprised.

If I go abroad on holiday, I want to learn a bit of the language, eat local food, and respect their customs. If I moved abroad, I would make every effort to fit in.

olathelawyer05 · 17/10/2013 17:54

eurochick - "ola all religion is an attempt at brainwashing in my view."

....So are most 'isms' I tend to find....

BackOnlyBriefly · 17/10/2013 18:10

GoshAnneGorilla. I had thought of it as the whole thing, but you dismissed a posters comment as odd because you said "Niqab sits on the face, so I have no idea how it affects hearing"

Now you are saying that it does cover the ears, but that is not a problem for you.

Just wanted to clarify that in case someone thought you were right the first time.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/10/2013 18:14

I thought she said niqab covers the face and the hijab covers the hair. I am not sire what the robe that covers everything but the eyes is called - I had thought that was the niqab, but it appears I am wrong.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/10/2013 18:19

Note to self - google first. The burka is the full length robe. Apologies.

alemci · 17/10/2013 18:52

Isn't what is in your heart and how you conduct yourself more important than outward appearance and how you help others in the wider community?

alemci · 17/10/2013 18:56

I'm sorry that you have been treated badly by non Muslims Peace when you are out and about.

innoparticularorder · 17/10/2013 19:07

The OP mentioned that she wears the niqab as an act of worship which brings her closer to God.

It's a PERSONAL thing between her & God who am I to say she shouldn't do that. She can worship her God in any way she wishes.

I've read this thread with a heavy heart, why can't people live and let live. If she had wrote she is oppressed and is forced to wear it, then I would understand posters rightly expressing their concern, but by all accounts she is making a free choice and is totally at peace with it.

PrincessFlirtyPants · 17/10/2013 19:40

I have many Muslim friends who choose to wear the hijab, I have many Muslim friends who choose not to. I don't have any friends who choose to wear the burka or the niqab.

I do not find that Muslims choose to separate themselves from society.

The only attitude I dislike is the 'us' and 'them' attitude by those on this thread who are trying to promote integration.

I find it disappointing that posters who have asked questions to help them understand be told that they are attacking Islamic women. Ignorance breeds intolerance.

GoshAnneGorilla · 17/10/2013 19:43

In no - thanks for that.

It's odd, I think if she wrote that she was oppressed and having a grim life, people would be happier to read it, some seem to find the thought of a happy niqabi very unpleasant.

SDT - Most UK Muslims are British, not incomers.

ICameOnTheJitney · 17/10/2013 19:58

People who are unhappy about them are the people who feel that they come from a period of time when women were chattels. That is a very valid argument....closer to God or not....they are a hang back from a past time when women had no rights.

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