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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/10/2013 20:10

GoshAnne - I was answering peacefuloptimist's question about why people expect Muslims to integrate into UK society when many UK expats living in Muslim countries make no attempts to integrate. I was saying what I would do as a UK expat living in any other country, Muslim or otherwise. I was not commenting on Muslims living in the UK.

fuzzywuzzy · 17/10/2013 20:16

Most Muslim women in niqab are English speaking, many are very educated actually.

Niqab and hijab does not affect hearing (how weird), depending on the style of the niqab you can wear different types to prevent your peripheral vision being affected if you drive.

Who says what I wear prevents me from integrating into society, unless there's a law that everyone must wear dungarees and flipflops, sartorial styles and choice vary widely all over the UK, I don't see people objecting to the African women dressed to the nines on a Saturday morning going to church in their traditional dress, or saris I see loads of women wearing those, or the dress of the Ultra Orthodox Jewish community who actually do tend to keep to themselves, but a head scarf or a face veil is us Muslim women not integrating into society.

The OP is a molecular geneticist, I wonder how many British people have already benefitted from her expertise and if that is not 'integrating' then I don't want to be part of this integrated British person who appears to be one single body who dresses thinks and behaves exactly the same.

ICameOnTheJitney · 17/10/2013 20:47

Fuzzy the Op's profession is neither here nor there. It has NOTHING to do with her choice of dress. And the African women you mention don't hide their faces.

This is what makes it hard for people to accept...the fact that faces are hidden. WHY?

QueenoftheSarf · 17/10/2013 20:52

I think you'll find that people do not object to head coverings. It's the whole face covering with a slit for the eyes that's the issue.

I think you'll find that encouraging women to wear shapeless, cover-all clothes, such as long macs down to the ground, and a full face covering when outside of the home stems from not wanting to arouse men sexually. Men of course, are allowed to carry on as they please. No one dictates to them what's "modest".

Islam is an inherently patriarchal religion where men make the rules and women abide by them. If the men have somehow managed to hoodwink some women into thinking that they're actually in control, then you've got to hand it to them, they're cleverer than you think. Wink

fuzzywuzzy · 17/10/2013 21:04

She has explained why she chooses to wear a face veil, she has answered why.

fuzzywuzzy · 17/10/2013 21:10

When Muslim women say it's their choice and they have chosen to practice their religion in a way they find best for themselves, it's because the of menz, cos you know a Muslim woman who makes a conscious choice to cover herself is too stupid/brain washed whatevah to make a choice.

And actually her job has everything to do with this thread, she is integrated into British society, she is making a huge positive contribution to society, I doubt many 'british' people would be able to say the same and without having to face the daily prejuicide and hatred she must face.

QueenoftheSarf · 17/10/2013 21:22

I'd imagine she's chosen her career based on what she was interested in and wanted to do fuzzywuzzy, rather than being guided by altruism as you appear to be suggesting.

PrincessFlirtyPants · 17/10/2013 21:33

she is making a huge positive contribution to society, I doubt many 'british' people would be able to say the same and without having to face the daily prejuicide and hatred she must face.

What makes you think British people don't make a positive contribution to society?

ICameOnTheJitney · 17/10/2013 21:34

fuzzy no she never. She gave no explanation at all. She DID say she felt it was more holy because his wives did or somesuch thing...but I don't think imitating the dress of a woman or women who lived eons ago is sensible considering the world is a different place.

Why not just imitate the women's actions? If they were especially holy.

alemci · 17/10/2013 21:36

exactly jinty. heart and actions not appearance.

innoparticularorder · 17/10/2013 21:48

Are we reading the same OP??

She did explain why she wears the niqab, as an act of worship, it brings her closer to God and because the wives of the prophet wore them and they are her role models. You may not want to accept her reasons because you find them ridiculous but she has definitely stated why.

innoparticularorder · 17/10/2013 21:50

And who are you to decide how she follows her role models??

fuzzywuzzy · 17/10/2013 21:51

Princess I'm answering the accusations on this thread that she's not integrating into society due to her dress, and I said 'many' British people not every single one.

Jitney, well you don't understand or accept her explanation, but she has explained why she dresses as she does, that is her reason and her reply to why. You may not find it acceptable but that is her reason for wearnig the niqab.

Queen, or maybe she was motivated by the thought of giving back to society and pleasing her God, maybe her motives for bieng in this field are entirely altruistic.

fuzzywuzzy · 17/10/2013 21:53

For us as Muslims, it is heart, actions and appearance. For us every part of our lives are dedicated to worshipping God. Islam is not our way of life it is our lives.

PrincessFlirtyPants · 17/10/2013 21:54

No, I understand that fuzzy I'm just a bit surprised.

Why would you think many British people do not positively contribute to society? Who are the many who do not positively contribute? I would agree some may not, but many? I think 'many' is an exaggeration. And an unfair one at that.

sonlypuppyfat · 17/10/2013 21:57

Christians say that Jesus sets us free. Free from the trappings of only eating certain things or having to dress a certain way.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 17/10/2013 22:10

^It's funny how so many Muslim women seem to suddenly want to feel closer to Allah since September 11th and the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq...Sorry to be so cynical but these face veils were never seen in our countries except in the last 10 years (although they have existed in Islamic countries for generations) which leads me to believe that the niqab and other extremes of Islamic dress are political, not religious, statements. Women who wear them in Western countries are the very opposite of modest piety. They are doing it for reasons of social statement, attention-seeking and rebelling against the idea of integration with Western values. As other posters have pointed out a lot of the niqab wearers are young second or third generation immigrants or converts to Islam.
The author's professions of deep religious piety don't convince me in the slightest. She has the right to dress how she wishes of course but don't insult our intelligence by pretending your motives are innocent of any political or social statement.^

How was this pile of poo post left to stand and my response deleted...

PrincessFlirtyPants · 17/10/2013 22:12

Colder I have no idea what you said but I agree that the above post is ridiculous & offensive.

GoshAnneGorilla · 17/10/2013 22:15

Colder - considering the general tenor of the thread, I'm surprised minority opinions are getting deleted. I'd love to know what you said Smile

alemci · 17/10/2013 22:18

thanks Fuzzy, that is nicely expressed. tbh christianity isnt that different but god is concerned with having a pure heart but not outside appearance.

GoshAnneGorilla · 17/10/2013 22:19

I wish mind readers such as the poster who "knows" the true reasons women wear niqab, would use such great powers for the wider good of society, rather then just on the clothing choices some women make.

joanofarchitrave · 17/10/2013 22:34

Realistically we will all get used to niqab-wearing as it gets more common. We would probably have had similar conversations about the hijab a few decades ago. Like all the posters I have read, I have no interest in banning it (and i think that poor chap who keeps getting slung in jail for hiking naked should lead to a change in the law there too).

I am interested in how Deaf people manage in a culture where niqab is more common, but as many people speak in a way which is difficult to lipread whether or not their faces are covered, presumably a Deaf person would just ask the niqab-wearer to lift their veil to show their mouths while speaking; it could even be a useful visual cue to the Deaf person that the other person was talking to them.

I don't like the nun's veil being used as a comparison. The nun's veil is now a symbolic piece of clothing chosen by a truly tiny minority of adult women (not even all nuns) to signify a specific way of life; it is not suggested by anyone that it is appropriate for all females just because they are female. It's also true that the veil has had different symbolism, political role and importance in all sorts of periods, including times when it was normal dress for all women, and others when it was politically highly charged in much the same way as the niqab is now, and for similar reasons.

There was a case some years ago of a schoolgirl wanting to wear I think a jilbab, denied her in the end AFAIR by the courts. I would be extremely concerned about girls under 16 wearing the niqab; I think it should be an adult's choice. I have seen footage of a British school where the girls all put on a niqab as soon as a man entered the classroom. That I think is much more problematic than an adult wearing it. I would like to know whether the OP has thought about what she would suggest or provide for a daughter to wear, and why. By that statement I'm not suggesting that she hasn't, I'd just be interested to know what her conclusions were.

ICameOnTheJitney · 17/10/2013 23:03

A garment cannot bring anyone closer to God. Thoughts, deeds and prayer...a different matter.

innoparticularorder · 17/10/2013 23:15

If someone says they feel closer to God by wearing a certain garment then they own those feelings it's not for you to dispute it. Imvho.

fuzzywuzzy · 17/10/2013 23:22

Jitney, that's your personal opinion.