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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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crunchybargalore · 18/10/2013 17:03

Peaceful - I would expect the uni to look past the niqab - however honestly how would teach with a niqab.

It must be incredibly restrictive.

IHaveA · 18/10/2013 17:08

I find niqabs very unfriendly and very old fashioned.

I am an athiest and I don't understand why religious people think any God would care about what they wear as long as it's reasonably modest. Do displays of loyalty and faith always have to be so public. Covering every bit of your body just seems a bizarre and extreme thing to do in the 21st century.

If I was wanting to feel closer to God I don't see why wearing something so outdated would help. Surely, your relationship with God should be more about what's in your head.

I admit that I don't like skimpy tarty clothes either.

Btw I would never assume anything about someone who was wearing a niqab, I would treat them exactly the same as everyone else. I do find it unusual for someone wearing the niqab to be friendly back to me but I suspect that is because they get accustomed to people not being as open and friendly with them. IYSWIM

Gauri · 18/10/2013 17:11

Peaceful optimist.

When I was at university, there was a student who was very Islamic.

He was about to complete his PhD. I was to share his lab. As soon as he found out I was to use the same lab, he made our lecturer get him another lab. He was asking the lecturer to whet the interviews he was being asked to attend lest there be a women.

Isn't he limiting his choice or economic height/options? As a best case?

How impractical is that in the uk. Don't want to sound like, 'why don't u go back to where you/your grandparents came from but', he would have been better working in SA.

We need to empower Muslim women. They are not at a stage yet where empower means wear a niquab. They first need to attain equal value in their own society before they can deploy 'it's a free society' card

GoshAnneGorilla · 18/10/2013 17:13

Swallowed - you need to stop lecturing Muslim women about their own religion.

Niqab wearing is classed as a sunnah act, something that is voluntary. This is the religious definition of how the act of wearing niqab is viewed. Extra prayers and fasts on certain days are also classed as Sunnah.

This is opposed to fard (obligatory) actions such as the five daily prayers, fasting Ramadan and wearing hijab.

Wearing niqab is an Islamic practice, that it may be more or less popular in certain countries does not change this, nor does it turn it into a solely cultural practice.

You concerns about niqab wearing being bad for Muslim women is not shared by the majority of Muslim women on thread. In fact we have told you of the corrosive effect anti-niqab sentiment has on Muslim women as a whole.

Or do you know what Muslim want better then we ourselves do? How liberating that is for us!

crunchybargalore · 18/10/2013 17:14

Honestly where do niqab wearers who live in the UK get their bit d?

Gauri. - what country did you do your phd in?

Gauri · 18/10/2013 17:17

Uk. In fact in London.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 17:17

Uk. In fact in London.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 18/10/2013 17:19

swalowed sorry, that was me about the wheel chair, I said wheelchair because it loosk different it could have easily have been emo/goth/punk/

no one should have to apologise for looking different.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 17:20

A person in a wheelchair does not have an option.

A person wearing a niquab is choosing to look different.

fikel · 18/10/2013 17:21

In Iran they wear the hijab by the way!! Do we really know what the majority of these women feel wearing the Niqab, by its nature it is oppressive and acts as a natural barrier to communication. I would find it impossible to strike up a lighthearted conversation with a lady wearing one, if we were in a queue or a waiting room for example. This I perceive as a potential worry, as far as integration is concerned and also makes me wonder if behind the full veil, the lady is happy, healthy and has the support network should she need help

crunchybargalore · 18/10/2013 17:22

Wow I am ah coked about the uni.

I meant to say where do niqab wearers in the UK get their vitamin d from?

crunchybargalore · 18/10/2013 17:23

Sorry I am shocked about uni ... Silly keyboard.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 18/10/2013 17:24

I just don't understand why people have such strong feelings on such a very tiny minority of women, if we are going to worry about the effect it has on other women why not start with the majority of women in the west who dress in ways that are "lettin their sisters down"

if I don't shave, I'm a hairy freak.. women who do shave are letting me down by making my natural body hair a culturally unacceptable thing to have.

I don't see half as many people worried about what they do everyday that lets the side down. It's only minorities we get out underoos in a twist over.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 18/10/2013 17:26

SO you think goths should apologise for choosing to look different Gauri? Fat people should apologise because your kids shout fatty at them?

Just teach your kids some manners. How about that, it's super easy to see what you can do yourself to change an awkward situation

MistressIggi · 18/10/2013 17:27

Is wearing hijab really obligatory? I'd always thought it was just a general modesty rule, I didn't know a veil was specified. (Genuine question)

Gauri · 18/10/2013 17:30

Fikle, exactly. The niquab wearing is only popular in SA, Afghanistan and some Parts of the Pakistani/Bangladeshi communities in the UK.

Further, you will not find financially and socially well off communities in the uk promoting the niquab.

Most other Islamic countries promote equal education and rights for women (per Islamic tradition). This means a moderate approach in everything they practice. They may wear the scarf but do not hide face. I.e., Egypt, Indonesia, Malaysia, Somalia, Iran, Iraq, UAE.

alemci · 18/10/2013 17:30

I worked with a deaf student and it was vital she could see my face and that of the teacher.

She could not help being deaf but the person wearing the Niqab doesn't need to wear it and I think it is slightly selfish.

Wouldn't God look more favourably on the latter for removing the face part of the veil so the student could lip read. That is helping other people and putting them before yourself.

Just don't understand.

SocksinBoots · 18/10/2013 17:38

Can I ask a question to the niqab wearing posters please?

I would like to know how you feel about your general interaction in public and how it takes place. Do people stop you to ask directions, natter about the weather, make a point of saying hello if you pass in the street everyday etc?

If they do, is their interaction welcome or not?

If they don't, does it upset you? Would you like people to engage you more?

TIA (no agenda, just curious)

crunchybargalore · 18/10/2013 17:41

I would also like to know if weares have young children and do they try pull off the garment?

And do you be in public?

Also who suggested to you at you should wear it?

crunchybargalore · 18/10/2013 17:41

I meant do you bf in public?

QueenoftheSarf · 18/10/2013 17:48

Fuzzywuzzy, if she was motivated to become a geneticist by her wish to please her God, that is an entirely opposite motivation to altruism. Indeed, it is entirely selfish. Most religious people wish to show devotion to god solely in order to ensure they get to heaven. Any acts carried out to demonstrate devotion are therefore motivated purely by self preservation. If some benefit to others results, that's purely incidental. It's not the overarching motivation.

True altruism is demonstrated by people who do things when there is nothing in it for them. The definition of altruism is actually "willingness to do things that bring advantages to others, even if it results in disadvantage for yourself"

nicename · 18/10/2013 17:49

In Iran they wear the hijab by the way!

They wear headscarves (minimum) because they are forced by law to do so. Mostly the minute they are out of Persian air space they come off. Just watch them coming through customs in a flash of colour, fashion and loveliness. I do love my relies.

Pre-revolution it would have been (some of the) old ladies who wore black (no faces covered) or those viwed as 'peasants'. They would have been teased for dressing like an old Arab (which we know Persians are definately not).

I have some very religious types in my family. Theologians even. The men give me a friendly hug/squeeze my arm. (Late) great grandpa would kiss my cheek and tell me off for eating too many sweets (which he used to bring me!). Aunty was a senior lecturer at a (mixed) uni in the old days, another was a musician... All pretty normal stuff really.

None of the woman wears a scarf outside of a muslim country. The thinking is (as a very wise and very religious great grandma used to say) 'you cover so that you don't stand out - why cover to stand out?'.

When I go to a mosque I wear pretty much what I'd wear going into the Vatican I guess - covered knees to elbow, no bare shoulders/clevage and scarf on my head.

We all struggle with moral decisions sometimes. If a woman decides that her path - in her heart of hearts (no force, no politics, no eff you) - lies in dressing in clothing which origiated from the ME then fine. It doesn't make her worse for it and certainly doesn't make her better.

As the bible says - you are judged by words, thoughts and deeds (not a scrap of cloth).

NCISaddict · 18/10/2013 17:58

What a brilliant and eloquent post nicename obviously written from an in depth knowledge of Islam. It makes perfect sense.

PrincessFlirtyPants · 18/10/2013 18:00

Gosh, I have to say that there seems to be an unhealthy obsession with Islam at the minute.

"Ah, look how they are dressed. What if they are a terrorist!"
"My children are scared of them"

Wow, it's honestly like I have been transported back to the 1950's. why is everyone so scared? The fear of the unknown?

I do find it funny that some people insinuate that Islamic women do not want to integrate with society, have you ever tried to integrate with Islam? Maybe, get to know some Muslim people and then make your mind up?

I know a lot of Muslims, in a number of workplaces I have been the only non-Muslim. I have only ever had 1 bad experience out about 100 and he was just a nasty person. Lets get some perspective.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 18:05

No one is scared of Islamic people. A niquab is scary as it covers the face.

That is NOT being anti Islamic.

It is not being islamaphobic. We are not even saying the niquab wearing person is a bad person. Just that the outfit they are wearing means they cannot fully engage in society in the UK nor develop to their full potential economically