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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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Venushasrisen · 18/10/2013 15:08

The OP makes a good argument and I’m sure is a delightful person. But…….. I’m sure I could read a well argued view in favour of lap dancing and be convinced by that individual’s view. However, over all is wearing the niqab or lapdancing a good thing I want to support? no in both cases.

We are told that Britain is an open and friendly country, welcoming to incomers over many years. The truth is not quite the case. Compared to many countries we are welcoming but Jews were ostracized in the late 19thC and I can remember lots of antagonism over the Ugandan Asians arriving in the 70s and there are many other instances. In fact I suspect politicians keep using this spin to stop us complaining more than we do about immigration.

If you look around the world at Moslem countries they seem to be in turmoil, and what is the problem? Religion, or the Muslim religion to be more accurate, Sunnis against Shias, Muslims against Christians, strict dictatorships with their own form of Islam in the guise of kindoms such as Saudi Arabia. The last thing Britain needs is to import beliefs or angry inidviduals or traditions from these places. We have religious clashes still in N Ireland, we don’t need more.

The OP quotes, as do many, true religious beliefs of Muslims, these sound like quotes from the New Testament, promoting kindness and consideration to others, but when what we actually see is the terrible violence happening between or by Muslims (Kenyan mall siege a recent example) the interpretation it seems is up to the individual. Suicide bombers are all too real unfortunately. When we see women not allowed to drive or be allowed to travel unescorted we are, or at least I am, exasperated. It seems a throwback to some medieval attitude, before education. True, here in the UK, nuns, church ministers, bishops wear long robes but not in everyday life, probably due to the practicalities of it they gave that up long ago. How sensible, how reasonable.

To get to the point, I am British and I am discomfited and saddened that my lifestyle and traditions are not acceptable to many of the people who settle here, that it is not their choice. I worry that our reasonably fair-minded Britain (fair-minded in comparison to many countries) is disappearing under a tide of cultures which do not fit easily with our own, nor do they fit easily with each other. The wearing of the niqab is an example of this as is the seating of school girls at the back of the class, these seem to portend the way we are going. Though the latter may have been changed due to outside pressure but I’m sure there will be other similar issues in the future. We have a democracy, good education, freedom to drive our own cars, it seems madness to step back in time to ancient customs or ideas.

No doubt I will be lambasted as a racist, and probably my non-politically correct post deleted, so be it. I have lived in the Middle East and North Africa and other parts of the world, and the local people I met there were warm, welcoming and a pleasure to be with but I did follow their customs so as be accepted.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 15:09

I am not questioning the education level or intelligence of the niquab wearing women.

just stating that they would be highly unemployable.

slug · 18/10/2013 15:14

To be fair though Venus, different sects of Christianity are just as bad at infighting as any Muslim. You only have to look at Northern Island to see that.

martinedwards · 18/10/2013 15:31

I can understand how women want to wear the veil because they always have.

in the same way as I want to wear clothes covering my genitalia because I always have.

I disagree totally with the racist scumbags, but I did hear someone recently asking "what's the difference?" between a woman in a veil and an IRA terrorist in a ski mask.....

both have their faces fully obscured, and that COULD be disturbing for some people.

it made me stop and think......

GoshAnneGorilla · 18/10/2013 15:32

Gauri - so you're calling the O.P a liar? Good to know.

Venus - the British values argument is a very dubious argument, particularly when most Muslims in the UK are British and identify themselves as such. One would argue that who gets to decide which values are British and who doesn't.

It also ignores that many Muslims in the U.K are here following colonialism. so the idea that they need to perpetually grateful to the British public and not "offend" then by displaying non-British ways, is rather unpleasant.

As for current political and terrorist issues, this has far more to do with political instability, economic issues and other issues then it does with religion. So it's unfair to point the finger at Muslims for that.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 15:47

Yes. The OP could be stretching the truth to get her point across.

Tell me, which high paying employer would employ a women wearing a full face covering.

I agree by passport these niquab wearing women may be British.

Ignore the argument that these women are only doing this to feel close to God.

Practically, no matter how welcoming the British public may be, how will this women actually assimilate or contribute. Even if willing to?! 80Percent of communication is via body language/facial expressions. How is she going to communicate?!

Are the French bigoted as they banned the scarf?!

We are not even talking about the scarf. We are talking about something that economically developing moderate Islamic countries do not tolerate.

GoshAnneGorilla · 18/10/2013 15:50

Martin - that's easy, one is a terrorist, dressed for harming people, the other is a woman going about her daily business. HTH.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 18/10/2013 15:51

If these women are so cowed and unable to live their lives ... why are you so threatened and scared by them?

If your children saw a man in a wheel chair and shouted robot would you also be pissed off he didn't apologise?

My deleted comment above was similar to your regarding British values not being a set of laws that everyone follows. Except for the EDL and BNP of course, they seem to think they have the "British Values" copyright.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 18/10/2013 15:52

Do none of you leave your house on Halloween? Or go skiing? DO you really get that worried by random Muslim women attacking you, why? Has i happened before?

Muslim women ARE MUCH MUCH more likely to be attacked themselves by racist than the other way around.

peacefuloptimist · 18/10/2013 15:54

SDTG if you are interested in reading about the life of the Prophet Muhammed PBUH your best bet is to read a book rather than go on a website which will only ever give you snapshots of different incidences in his life rather then a comprehensive overview.

Martin Lings, "Muhammad: His Life Based on the Earliest Sources" is the best biography on Prophet Muhammad written in English Language.

Karen Armstrong's book Muhammad: A biography of the Prophet is also apparently good though I have not read it. But I have read Martin Lings one which I thoroughly enjoyed.

Another good source to find out about the Prophet Muhammed pbuh is the audio collection The Life of Prophet Muhammed PBUH by Hamza Yusuf which is amazing but might be more appropriate for muslims. Its based on Martin Lings work but with commentary from Hamza Yusuf.

If you dont have time though I will pm you some websites that would be quite authoritative and accurate.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 18/10/2013 15:54

Tell me, which high paying employer would employ a women wearing a full face covering.

All of them that don't want to get done for race or sex discrimination? Confused is this a trick question?

Gauri · 18/10/2013 15:58

Colder, yes, I agree, that Muslim women are more likely to be attacked. Therefore, why stand out even more?

Why give the impression of being 'different'?!

When I go abroad, I try to blend in with the locals. In India, I wear the shalwar kameez. In Brazil, I may wear a bikini on the beach but not beyond. In Africa, I cover my light brown hair to blend in and not stand out.

So why would one want to wear an outfit that looks threatening to a majority of people and claim others are bigoted as they are not accepting me!?

GoshAnneGorilla · 18/10/2013 16:04

Colder - such peculiar dichotomies:

They are downtrodden but they scare/intimidate me.

And

They are oppressed so I want to force them to dress in a manner I find acceptable.

Odd.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 18/10/2013 16:09

Colder, yes, I agree, that Muslim women are more likely to be attacked. Therefore, why stand out even more?

Absolutely lets make them change rather than stop creating an atmosphere that allows for racism and victim blaming where the victim can't wear the fucking clothes she wants because some cunt will rip it off them or attack them

A pregnant women had the shit kicked out of her and lost her baby not because she was wearing the niqab but because cowardly racists cunts found her. Theyd have not liked her more if she had "just" been foreign and not wearing the "scary dress"

She told her attackers she was pregnant so they would stop and have some mercy and they started kicking her in the belly.

ColderThanAWitchsTitty · 18/10/2013 16:11

Rape apologist think a woman can't go out in a short skirt or expect rape.

Racists think a woman can't go out in a niqab or they should expect attack.

What can women wear if they dont want to be abused?

Gauri · 18/10/2013 16:14

Colder, I do not know about the incident you refer to. Did this happen recently?

How dreadful.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 16:16

I agree we need to create an atmosphere of peace and assimilation, cultural acceptance. But how is that going to happen when you cannot even see the persons face? Or the person does not trust you enough to show their face?

peacefuloptimist · 18/10/2013 16:19

Those of you who keep saying the wearing of niqab is political are starting to sound a bit self-obsessed and paranoid. Yeah they are dressing in a way that is going to make them more likely to be attacked or discriminated against just to annoy you. Please get over yourself.

You know what I also never noticed before Sept 11th. All these articles banging on about muslims needing to try harder to integrate in to Britain. I never heard of a single person calling for halal meat to be banned until after Sept 11th. Must be political too then right.

Also Gauri not everyones be all and end all is to work for a high paying employer. What is high paying by the way? Im sure a lot of people wouldnt fit in to that group. Are they all the scum of the earth to you too or is it just niqabis. By the way your benefits comment is way off. I know at least five niqabis (probably met more then that though) none of whom are on benefits.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 16:24

No, iam not saying racist have a right to attack if you wear a niquab.

Why don't we let naked ramblers ramble everywhere? Why is nudity threatening? If a person was walking stark naked on the uk high street, and say, they want to be treated just like the majority of people, what would you think?

Different is threatening. In any culture. It's human nature.

Nakedness has a vulnerability to it. But face covering is threatening. Like dacoits, bank robbers, people who have something yo hide. It's against human nature. To not accept this in a country where a majority wear clothes or a majority do not hide faces is about rebelling or not conforming to the rules of society you live in.

Venushasrisen · 18/10/2013 16:29

Venus - the British values argument is a very dubious argument, particularly when most Muslims in the UK are British and identify themselves as such. One would argue that who gets to decide which values are British and who doesn't

It seems to be second generational Muslims who are choosing the niqab, it is described here as an individual merely exercising their rights but obviously there are wider implications, how will your daughter behave, surely she will be much more inclined to choose the niqab for herself, perhaps go a step further and insist on only attending a single sex school with female teachers. Whilst the daughters of British Muslims are donning the niqab and embracing more rigid Islamic traditions what are their sons doing?

Viviennemary · 18/10/2013 16:29

Personally I don't want a bank cashier, checkout assistant, child's teacher or anyone else I have to deal with to be wearing a face covering whether it be a niqab or a balaclava or motorbike helmet. Personally I think they should be banned in all public places.

alemci · 18/10/2013 16:30

I do agree that it is better to try to fit in if you feel uncomfortable. This outfit doesn't allow this and makes you look 'other'. Why not just wear the hijab and be done with it and try and assimilate. Your face won't be sandblasted in GB unless you go near a building site :)

I am sure God is more interested in what you do for others than if you are wearing a black dress and covering your face stopping you interacting and making others around you feel uncomfortable which is what happens.

I would never hurt another human being and I am sorry for that poor women who encountered those horrible men.

Someone said upthread about Western women having medieval attitudes. In what way?

nicename · 18/10/2013 16:34

Oddly enough, I just passed a man in the street wearing a shalwar kameez. Definately a man (with a wig).

Clothes are odd, they really are. He just really rammed that home to me.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 16:35

What type of example is the niquab wearing mother setting to her male and female children?

What sort of economic spiral is she creating for her family and future generations by limiting her social circle and economic reach?

swallowedAfly · 18/10/2013 16:37

goshanne: "Swallowed - to be precise, it is not a religious obligation, but it is an optional religious act/practice. Like doing extra fasts or extra prayers."

no - it's nothing like extra fasts or prayers which is about being more pious and actually is also done privately re: if people see you doing it and making a song and dance of it it means nothing.

to compare the two is to return to the idea that women who are veiled are more pious. and to ignore the difference in doing something private between you and god to please god and doing something very, very public and visible is silly i think.

it is nothing like extra fasts or prayers. it is a purely cultural practice, nothing religious to it.