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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 18/10/2013 13:46

I don't think Muslims look to Saudi Arabia for guidance generally, but you must remember that it is the modern-day site of the holy sites of Mecca and Medina; making a pilgrimage there is something every Muslim is supposed to aim for at some point, so it's always going to have a central place in Islam.

There is also the factor that SA is a hugely rich country, and able to widely promote their particular style of Islam - Wahhabi - which is a bit on the fundamentalist side. Just a tad.

defuse · 18/10/2013 13:55

Gauri, how dare you make such a derogatory statement about someone else's choice of dress?

I am a British Pakistani and I have seen very few muslim women say anything derogatory about a western woman - and most of the time they get challenged immediately by the younger muslim women. I have come across many many many more western women saying derogatory things about a muslim woman's choices - look at this thread for instance. I myself have personally had derogatory remarks thrown my way heard unpalatable opinions about muslims - and I do not wear a niqab. And to say that the muslims make medieval choices - you should hear the degrading treatment and medieval opinions that some 'western' enlightened women have to this day.

olathelawyer05 · 18/10/2013 14:07

Gauri - "...the only thing I object to is why is there an increase in muslim women wearing this medieval dress in the UK?"

Why do you object to an 'increase' in the numbers wearing it? Too many of them wearing it for your liking eh? Perhaps a quota system in is order? Seriously, you're a weird one.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 14:08

children aged 4 and 6 were speaking their mind. being honest. yes, I agree this would have been rude if the children were older than 8.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 14:19

I object to it asit threatens me.
I object to it as its a symbol for supression (like it or not).
I object to it as girls like Malala in Pakistan are fighting for the freedom to learn, to be free and in a relatively free country, (UK), women are using it as a political statement.
I object to it as it caused women to have vitamin D deficiency.
I object to it as the women wearing that niqab probably cannot join normal work and therefore is probably is on benifits. (I see ur statements coming to me on this comment).
I object to it because women wearing this claim they are more pious. (yes I have read comments on here disputing this).
I object to it as its not safe. how silly to close iff your periferal vision.
I object to it.

defuse · 18/10/2013 14:23

Gauri - you expected an apology from a that lady who your kids felt frightened by! Says a lot about you.

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nicename · 18/10/2013 14:27

Actually, I'd apologise if I scared someone's kids to be honest. The woman did pull up her veil though, so I'd take that as a friendly sign.

Its no worse than a kid (not me, oh no) yelling 'witch' when they saw a nun when they were about 4.

PoopMonster · 18/10/2013 14:27

Wow Gauri - can I just say at that age I was scared once by a disabled person, and a) I told my mother privately later, not in front of them, and b) she didn't expect them to apologise...we talked about where fear of others comes from etc and how I could deal with it.

Anyway....

Gauri · 18/10/2013 14:27

yes, the quota system sounds good. that way ateast people will not brush all of the Islamic world with one brush.

I dont care for the number of women who wear this as a choice in SA.

but in the UK, when muslims are a minority, when they represent the country they come from or the culture or religion they come from, should you not put forward your best foot?
it seems otherwise to me.

wear the scarf if you want to be modest.

why look threatning and anti social and expect the rest of the society to accomodate your views?

Gauri · 18/10/2013 14:29

defuse, is that your best argument? that I am islamaphobic for not liking the niquab?!Confused Hmm Biscuit Biscuit

defuse · 18/10/2013 14:32

Gauri: which culture/country are you doing massive favours for by putting your best foot in mouth?

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nicename · 18/10/2013 14:33

The niquab/scarf/burka is part the religion. Some muslims think its right, and some don't.

It's like saying 'all Christians wear crosses'. Some believe that the should, some don't think you need to.

It is hard to argue about something that there is no agreement on within the religion.

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 18/10/2013 14:35

Wow, gauri, don't hold back will you?

You've got to be way off with the benefits thing, I will wager substantial sums that niqabis are either in emplyoment (like the OP) or SAHMs (from my highly scientific observation of my fellow Brummies)

SweetSkull · 18/10/2013 14:37

I think Gaudi has killed this discussion.
She is also not representing non Muslim women very well
I'm now hiding the thread.

defuse · 18/10/2013 14:38

Also the point about vitamin D deficiency. Gauri, you are most likely vitamin D deficient yourself - majority of the population in the UK are. You're suggesting niqabis take off their niqab to up their levels - what are you going to take off?

swallowedAfly · 18/10/2013 14:38

it isn't part of the religion - that's not a fair or accurate statement.

it is not a requirement of islam and is a cultural practice.

swallowedAfly · 18/10/2013 14:41

in much the same way as christians wearing crosses is something that is not a religious requirement so not enshrined in law as a right, covering your face is not a requirement of islam so schools for example or other employers can ban it in a way that they couldn't ban a sikh from wearing a turban or a sikh schoolgirl from wearing the bangle.

it's best not to go with misinformation.

those who cover their faces are doing something that is not a requirement of islam but a choice to do so. to imply otherwise suggests that women who don't are somehow not observing their religion.

the requirements are quite simple.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 14:43

I would further add that rightly or wrongly, niquabis are not going to be in a higher paying employment, atleast not in the UK. what profession would employ a women who insists on wearing a face covering all day?! really!
Even while working in Jakarta, my fellow muslims found it strange when rarely they passed a women with a niquab.

Viviennemary · 18/10/2013 14:44

I don't approve of the niqab. And nothing the OP has said has made me change my mind on that. It's one of these things that no matter how hard you try to justify it, cultural, religious it just doesn't wash. I just simply don't think it is a good idea for women to cover their faces and there is no obligation on men to do the same.

GoshAnneGorilla · 18/10/2013 15:00

Gauri - in the actual O.P it states that she works as a scientist.

Swallowed - to be precise, it is not a religious obligation, but it is an optional religious act/practice. Like doing extra fasts or extra prayers.

defuse · 18/10/2013 15:01

I object to it because women wearing this claim they are more pious. (yes I have read comments on here disputing this).

You have been corrected, yet you still hold bigoted views.

"The mind of a bigot is like the pupil of the eye; the more light you pour upon it, the more it will contract."

I would further add that niqabis on this thread can probably spell peripheral better than you - but then again, it is their vision that is obstructed - your views are not at all.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 15:06

gosh, I do not believe she is a scientist. none of the opening arguments in her post are 'objective'. everything she has said is subjective.

being in the engineering/sxientific world myself, I would be surprised if anyone employed a niquab wearing person for any role. specially a high paying role.

this is similar to having a tattkk on your face and seeking white collar employment.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 15:08

sorry for typos. getting used to new phone. And yes, I am dyslexic.