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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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GoshAnneGorilla · 17/10/2013 23:34

Joan - not sure it's necessarily becoming more common, more discussed, yes. I've heard numbers are dropping due to it wearers feeling unsafe/being attacked. Also women may go through periods of wearing niqab, certainly in the UK, so it's not necessarily worn for all a woman's life.

As for school girls wearing niqab, my initial reaction is one of discomfort, as IMHO, niqab is a very big and therefore a grown up decision, on the other hand, providing the girl in question completed her education, there shouldn't be any impact if she decides to later change her mind and not wear niqab.

LaLaLeni · 18/10/2013 04:56

Could I ask if those here who wear hijab/niqab etc always feel comfortable uncovering in women only settings, or are there ever considerations that women can be aroused by other women and therefore modesty is negated? If the women are strangers whose sexual orientation is unknown (or even if they're not strangers but equally might be gay etc).

This is a genuine question rather than any sort of judgement, it's never mentioned in the debate (or maybe it is but I just haven't seen it).

Apologies if I've worded this dreadfully.

neiljames77 · 18/10/2013 05:49

Having read all that about Mohammed, he appears to be a medieval Russell Brand.

KaseyM · 18/10/2013 07:07

I think we should discuss what men wear.

neiljames77 · 18/10/2013 07:56

Islamic men or men in general?

peacefuloptimist · 18/10/2013 09:46

Do you think a person can come to grips with christianity or understand christians without finding out about Jesus Christ? And do you think that it is advisable if you want to understand Jesus Christ that you seek out information about him from somebody like Richard Dawkins or Sam Harris?

You will never understand Islam and you will never understand muslims unless you read about the life of the Prophet Muhammed PBUH (his whole life not just the bits you like to glamourise and manipulate to make a vicious point). Right now we are not even speaking about the same person. When I read the comments made by non-muslims on this thread about him its actually absolutely unrecognisable. I will repeat again what I said earlier that WikiIslam link is a complete load of garbage. Even basic things like the number of wives he had they have got wrong. Seek out knowledge from people who actually know his life story, either muslim sources or Western intellectuals who have actually studied Islam and his life and know what they are talking about and not those who are politicians.

joanofarchitrave · 18/10/2013 10:03

'more common' - I suppose I'm working from the point that I first met someone wearing a niqab in 1994 when I was working in a private hospital that often treated women from Arabic countries. I'd never seen one in real life before that. I now sometimes see women on the street wearing one - still pretty occasionally, but certainly more commonly than I did in the 90s.

camilamoran · 18/10/2013 11:27

The hijab and niqab are completely different I think. Only a swivel-eyed racist would object to hijab. But covering your face arouses disquiet among a very wide section of the community.

GoshAnneGorilla · 18/10/2013 12:14

Camila - plenty of people would object to the hijab sadly. I do feel that increased anti-niqab sentiment, increases anti- hijab and anti-Muslim sentiment generally.

I also have to add that one of the Mums at the school gate today was a niqab wearer. We said hello and it was fine.

A slight woman holding her child's school bag is neither sinister, nor scary. I could tell she smiled at me (as I did her) because her eyes crinkled at the corners as people's do when they smile.

I do wonder how many of those complaining about communication barriers have spoken to any niqab wearing women. I think the reality is not as fraught as people imagine.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/10/2013 12:31

Peacefuloptimist - could you perhaps suggest some sources that you consider to be reliable? I know I can google, but as a non-Muslim, who doesn't know a lot about the subject, I don't think I could easily distinguish the reliable sites from the dodgy ones.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 12:53

joining this thread a little late... some things I would like to say may already be said above:

  1. in muslim countries like Malaysia, UAE, Indonesia, why do I see less women with the full face coverings? infact, hardly. and if I do, most are tourists from Pakistan and or Saudi.
  2. islam as I understand it teaches modesty. it does not say cover your head so that you come across as threating to others.
  3. possibly, during the time of Islam being formed, women may have covered their faces to protext against the hot sun. no sunblock, so to keep good skin, it makes sense. no? why is the face covering needed now? Wink
  4. why does the muslim world look upon SA for guidence when there are more advanced, liberal, successfull, muslim countries around? in Indonesia for example, women have freedom compared to SA, but still they can happily practice islam...
Gauri · 18/10/2013 12:59

sorry about the typos.

Just an incident I would like to mention.

I was in a store recently with my dcs. we were in the toy section and a lady wearing a full head to toe black blanket type thing walked it. my kids ran to me scared. calling the lady darth wader. I thought she should apologies for scaring my children. instead she raised her face covering to give me a dirty look.
go figure.

ChildrensStoriesNet · 18/10/2013 12:59

Re: quoteunquote Thu 17-Oct-13 13:55:47 - "some children find it terrifying"

YES, horses too apparently, they don't like being unable to see your face and can be spooked and gallop off if they can't.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/10/2013 13:05

Did you explain to your children that the lady was wearing a long robe because of her devotion to her religion, and that she was no threat to them at all?

It is a shame they were scared, but I imagine she was quite upset too, at being likened to Darth Vader! She might have been expecting an apology from you.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 13:09

why should I apologies? she was the one who looked like a threat. the children were being honest. I agree with the poster who said that this is a political statement.

ChildrensStoriesNet · 18/10/2013 13:18

Re: SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius Fri 18-Oct-13 13:05:52 - "It is a shame they were scared"

Yes, I was scared too once in Sainsburys, looking down while shopping by chance I noticed a black pair of men's shoes under the outfit, quickly looking up no clues from the covered face, a bulge in the middle too, I moved away real quick, then thinking should I tell someone and looking back the stranger had gone just as quick.

This happened just after 7/7 when many were on edge.

GoshAnneGorilla · 18/10/2013 13:19

Generally it is rude for your children to pass loud comment upon strangers (this has been hashed out many times on Mumsnet).

Who told you that Muslims look to Saudia Arabia for guidance? Muslims are very diverse and far from monolithic.Generally, the Saudi approach to Islam is viewed as A Bad Thing by most Muslims I've met.

Yes, niqab is a minority practice, that's what the OP said, that's what every Muslim on this thread has said.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 13:29

I should have said, why do British muslims from pakistan look to saudi for guidence when there are more successful muslim societies thriving around the world and still practicing islam? I.e., in Indonesia, most women work, are educated, hold high posts in offices and best of all, dont wear a face covering. they wear a scarf and the clothing although covers them from head to toe, they wear make up, and very stylish modest clothes. why do an increasing amount of muslims in the uk feel they need to cover their faces to feel close to god?!

most muslim Iranians, Iraqis, Egyptians, Somalis etc I have met in my extensive travels around the muslim world, do NOT cover their faces.

coffeeinbed · 18/10/2013 13:32

Gauri, that was very rude of your children.
You wanted her to apologise? Hmm

Whatever someone thinks of the niqab/burka is their business, and I don't like people covering their faces, but I would never comment on it.

Gauri · 18/10/2013 13:34

I thought Islam was monolithic! Hmm

my dcs ran to mw to tell me they just saw darth wader (4 and 6 age). The lady overheard.

I looked at her to apologise but when our eyes met, she gave me a dirty look.

if that is not threatning, what is.

I sure sure these women who wear head to toe coverings in the UK know how they come across. so still why do it? to make a political statement.

defuse · 18/10/2013 13:36

Gauri, as you state, it is a minority of women who wear the niqab. Why then, pick on such a minority group of women for choosing to wear what they want to wear? What is it to do with anyone if someone chooses to cover their face in order to feel closer to their Lord?

Gauri · 18/10/2013 13:38

I disagree with the statement that 'whatever other think of the niquab is their business'.

if muslims call western women loose and judge because our daughters may wear shorts, why cant we judge them?! its human nature. neither is correct.

the only thing I object to is why is there an increase in muslim women wearing this medieval dress in the UK?

fuzzywuzzy · 18/10/2013 13:39

Women tend to wear whatever's comfortable unde their robes, men's shoes or womens brogues with flat heels or trainers or stilettos. It's none of anyone's business.

Gauri she lifted her veil to show your children she was normal looking under it, you sound hostile & I suppose you didn't smile at her so why would she attempt to speak to someone who clearly was not prepared to behave in a kindly manner? If certainly not speak directly to someone's children when the parent looks like they are hostile to me, that's just asking for abuse.

GoshAnneGorilla · 18/10/2013 13:43

Gauri you are confusing the terms monolith with monotheism.

The lady was entitled to give you a dirty look as your children were rude. Children loudly commenting about strangers is rude. No exceptions (unless the children have SN that make adherence to such rules difficult).

fuzzywuzzy · 18/10/2013 13:44

Haiti I don't give a tats arse what anyone is wearing, would not personally bother me if people chose to swing down the streets Nekkid frankly, it's a flimsy & transparent justification to excersise your own islamophobia by stating we think your dress is 'loose' i don't & none of the women I know think it either, in fact hang out on s&b threads to really hear what your average non Muslim woman thinks of current female dress trends.