I LOVE my parents-in-law

[Denmark]

Just want to say that my parents-in-law are coming this aafternoon and they will be staying wih us for 10 day. I am looking very much forward to it, since they are absolutely wonderful. And I am sad to read about all the "problems" there are between those two group. I think we have to think we all love the same peolpe, our kids, there grand kids our partner there son/daughter. and we only want the best for they. My partners parents are wonderful, they love the children and they love us, they have the geatest repect for they way we are upbringing the grand-kids, they will give advise if we need it. and the best for me is when the kids those something naughty or is screaming a little bit to loud etc... and my partner is telling them off/complaining, then his mother is they first to tell him " well you were just like that at her/his age" that keeps him quiet and me happy

You are very very lucky, treasure them. They sound wonderful.

What a lovely thread

Hi Denmark

My daughter does not like when the children are naughty and I say "you used to do that". She says I should be sympathising with her. Glad you get on so well with the inlaws.

How lovely to read a positive! Mine are lovely-always supportive and never interfere.
I get so depressed with all the negativity on here.

I applaud denmark for this positive thread. I'd love to be able to contribute positively, but some MILs really aren't so easy to get along with.

Posting on here about those less than positive interactions is probably the best way some people have of diffusing stressed situations and seeking independent advice.

I think we all know that we sometimes contribute to the problems with our inlaws. But sometimes, it takes 2 to tango and the inlaws, being older and wiser, are prone to take the lead (in my own case, any way)!!! The posting of issues about them is sometimes my way of assessing a situation to see if I really am being unreasonable (as I know sometimes I am!)

I hope you get lots more people on here celebrating their inlaws. It'll give me hope for when my dd gets married

I hadn't realised when I replied yesterday that the thread was started in February!! I have just noticed now.
This means that two of us have lovely in-laws and 4 people think it is a nice thread.
Do we conclude that parents of girls are lovely people and parents of boys are not?

YES!!!

Oh...hang on a minute. That doesn't work with my mum who:-

(a) had 5 girls & a boy and is considered a great MIL by her SILs but not so good by her DIL and (b) she was not a great mother in many ways. But that's a different thread altogether!!

I just think that mums and sons have a special bond and often (tho not always, thankfully) the wives they choose don't seem good enough. Or perhaps it's just a jealousy thing on the part of both the dils & the mils.

Every time dh goes to see his aged father, he comes back with flowers that Grandpa has sent to me. And pocket money for the dc. So much so, that any mention of Grandpa prompts ds to ask "any pocket money?" hopefully. Aren't kids mercenary?

My PILs are lovely too. Actually sometimes they are too lovely. I have felt before now as if I ought to take up smoking and drinking whisky from a bottle in a brown paper bag.

They see only the good in anyone.

It can be exhausting.

But I love them and wouldn't have it any other way

My PIL's are also lovely (particularly my mother in law). My MIL thinks she is lucky to have two wonderful D'sIL but we are really lucky to have her!