About to move in with my daughter & son-in-law

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I'm 53yrs and not coped well after divorce,to the long drawn out final point of not being able to afford to find a place to live by myself.
My daughter & son-in-law are having to use thier spare room to let me stay for a couple of months meanwhile hopefully I can sort something out.

I'm really concerned about not getting under thier feet and them having to adapt thier usual routine because of me.
My son-in-law has an 8yr old daughter who stays with them alternate weeks at a time.
Plus my daughter is almost 12weeks with her first pregnancy.

I work part-time

It's Friday today
I move in this Sunday evening
My son helped me pack some belongings yesterday
I haven't done anything much today.
Feeling all sorts of emotions

So sorry you are in this position. Your concern about your daughter and her family does you credit.
Can you sit down with her when you get settled and just have a frank conversation? Ask her how things work - little things like who has first ( or last) shower ? Where the pinch points are? How would she like you to help?
perhaps even set on a code word or phrase between you, where you know you need to back off / give them some space. Make light of it now, so you are not building up resentments later.
All the best OP.

Dear Timeforachange
I am so glad to have read your wise words.
Sincerely grateful that you took the time to read and reply.
I can absolutely do this and will make it my priority .
Thankyou again