Does anyone else have a PG preschooler?

[RoboJesus]

Are you worried about them starting school? Considering a tutor? Private? Homeschool? The whole thing seems overwhelming if I'm honest. It feels like this country isn't set up to handle PG tots. The school mine has been offered does have a (i think from what they've said) HG child in reception who they've had to readjust for which is a bit of a relief though.

Your not answering anyone's questions though so how can anyone give you any sort of advice? I'm not being goady or rude, I just don't get what you want from people if you won't engage with them.

My DD was up there as a tot and still is very clever (and wonderful) but she still needed to play with and make friends and have fun.

Other children will catch your little one up OP and it's much easier to maintain PG when you're 3 or 4, wait and see if they are still miles ahead by age 10 then start worrying.

I'm really not. I work with children with a learning disability teaching developmental norms so I know that he's getting these things. I just have a grip i hope

You're not giving us enough information to help you though.

One of my kids was a really early reader and read some quite complicated stuff early on. So in that respect he was gifted. But he actually found spelling quite hard, so though he could read a word he couldn't necessarily spell it, if that makes sense. He found writing quite tricky. The school dealt with him by putting him in a reading group with kids in the year above, but all the rest of his work he did with his peers and still found interesting and challenging. They did a project on space one time and he had read dozens of books about space, so again they hooked him up with another class who were doing a different project.
So there are ways of challenging and engaging smart kids in all types of school setting.
If you can give us some examples of the areas your child is gifted in maybe we can give you some examples from our experience of what can be done or what you could ask of any schools you visit.

Other children will catch your little one up OP and it's much easier to maintain PG when you're 3 or 4, wait and see if they are still miles ahead by age 10 then start worrying

This ^

My boy was clearly way ahead at nursery and when he started school. He's still very clever now but others have caught him up and I would no longer say he's anything exceptional.

All you need to do op is tell us the actual age of your child and then we have something to base answers on.

Children can change very rapidly when tiny as many of us know and then even out as they are in infants/junior school age.

If you really want solid advice then you need to engage.

Still massively intrigued by what actually are the signs of a preschool PG child?

FWIW I was a year ahead at school and didn't really get much out of it. Still at the top of the class but hated playtime/lunchtime/PE etc - couldn't keep up socially with the other kids.

You are clearly having a giraffe OP.

If not, I think a little lie-down and a good think would help you both.

You still haven't defined what you mean by 'PG'. If you mean that your 3-4 year old is already reading and writing a bit, then reception teachers will have come across many similar children, though perhaps only 1-2 in each class. Many children start reception speaking 2-3 languages, due to having mixed parentage- this is normal.

If, on the other hand, your child is currently reading Shakespeare and translating it into ancient Greek, then admittedly they are exceptional and may not be catered to in a normal school.

DH and I were having a conversation last night, I don't actually believe there is such a thing as 'genius', merely individuals who are better able to make certain connections and subsequent logical leaps.

And irrespective, cleverness in itself is no guarantee of either a successful or satisfying life. Intrinsically it is of no more worth than a fine nose or a good turn of speed or the ability to arrange something aesthetically pleasing or to produce magically light pastry.

And a definite precursor to a really fucking shitty and unsatisfying life is a parent who is utterly convinced their child is all but the second coming, a preternaturally extraordinary being who will eclipse all others in their wake.

It's setting them up for a spectacularly terrible time in so many ways

But crack on! You seem to believe your own hype.

OP - I'm genuinely interested in this subject but you are avoiding all questions, why?

I think treating school as an opportunity to learn social skills and teach him at home and on the weekends is the way forward.
What makes you think he is PG?

I just wanted to talk to other parents of PGs that are starting school about it. Fears, hopes, problems, solutions. I have a 4 year old PG about to start school. I didn't want to start a thread that turned in to "how gifted is your child" like it's some sort of competition so I didn't put any other details and I'm not going to. But yes academically dc would be more than capable of starting senior school. If you do not understand that, you don't know a PG and that's fine I get it. I am now looking in to tutors to see if there's one that will fit and exploring homeschooling possiblities, potentially flexischooling

But nobody seems to know what a PG child is. It's not a term I have ever come across. So people want to know what exactly it is that makes your child so gifted, what their talents are as it were. Then people might be able to give you more advice.

Honestly Robo, your four year-old would absolutely not be capable of starting secondary school. No matter how much you believe this, it's emphatically not the case. It's really not.

I am actually quite concerned for your child (and you) if you truly think this to be an unshakable truth, that is in some way inhibiting their development.

And what about the years - literal years - of background knowledge that are needed to understand the context of senior school academic work?

Just let your child live her fucking life. Stop creating issues for her. Fwiw my dad and brother have seriously high iqs but none of the rest of the family give a flying fuck. Bully for them. My dd1 was labelled g and t at primary but I saw it for the load of middle class bullshit it was. Love your kid. Help them enjoy life and achieve stuff and be nice. The end.

Actually Bauble I think you may have a winner on your hands there.

True humour is absolutely connected to innate intelligence. Which is why most AIs fail the Turing test when it comes to laughs.

Great. Where's the nearest gifted and talented future comedians hothousing center for preschoolers?

I think you need to think carefully, when/if there’s a big disparity between a child’s chronological age and their academic ability, what’s in their best interests? What are the pros and cons of the different options.

And yes, as others have said, your own posting style hasn’t exactly made the details of what you’re asking clear, and in my observation of mumsnet, that will get your royally taken the piss out of especially when your topic is ‘my child is so clever, whatever will I doooooo’.

And FWIW OP I was what would have been considered high fucking PG, and yes, I could have sat a maths O level at about the age of 7 (I remember being wheeled out to the junior 4s at the age of five and saying my 17 times tables and then answering a quick-fire maths Q&A that they were asked to challenge me with. I got a chocolate ladybird for my troubles).

But as my father is a professor or maths and nobody was mad in the 70s, other than that and taking a few exams early, it wasn't considered to be a huge and angst-worthy problem. It was just being good at stuff and other than that I had a lovely and completely normal childhood.