Can this ever happen?

[mrsshearsagain]

I would like to request that my y3 dd no longer participates in numeracy at school, due to her needs not being met, dd is a few years ahead in this area, which is why I think school don't see it as an issue however this is still not close and she is beginning to have severe confidence issues and is turning off, underperforming and making careless mistakes, I'm interested in if this is able to happen? i.e is it legal etc?
Thanks

I'm not sure withdrawing her from numeracy lessons is the answer!?!? How about meeting with her teacher and ensuring she is given work that challenges her?

Waves to Mrs Shears

I think it sounds like flexi schooling and I think the school would resist this. If nothing else, it would look like they could not meet DDs needs and they are never going to admit that. Imagine how that would look to Ofsted!

I had something similar with DS. DS was reading thick chapter books for fun at home and the school were sending home books without even stories in them. He got upset and would only read them after tantrums. For a while, he even stopped reading for fun. I spoke to the teacher and she said that he had read all the books in the school . I said that I would provide books from home/library and she asked if I wanted to take him out of reading. I think she meant the reading scheme, but he had never been on that anyway. I made it clear I just wanted her to provide appropriate books and if necessary he could get them from a higher level classroom.

The school then provided the right books, but I had already resolved that if I had to take responsibility for his reading, then I might as well take responsibility for all his education and at that point we looked at other schools.

It might be legal but it doesn't sound like a great idea unless you have a really solid plan behind it. Assuming You want her to return to conventional education for secondary, then you'd need to teach her the basics in a systematic way, following the National Curiculum up to (probably) level 6 SATS in order for her to join in top set maths classes when she starts secondary school. Do you think you could do that?

I think you need a long meeting with the teacher. If your daughter is making careless mistakes the school might not think she is that good at maths. Part of being good at mathematics is being accurate and I would be more concerned about a child who constantly got everything right and wasn't being challenged.
However, if you think that she is very good and together you have assessment information to prove it then you need to talk to the school about finding some extension work, such as Nrich website, problem solving books etc.
I really would try to keep the school on your side to give your daughter the best chance.