Come rain or come SHINE, we are always here

[TrillianAstra]

Welcom, welcome to the mumblemumble well, some large number thread for the healthy eating crew.

Shiney is our leader, but all creeds are welcome here, from the -50lbs club (whoop whoop!) to those who would like to lose 50lbs, to those who would fade awya if they lost 50lbs and just want to eat more healthily and/or chat about cock.

Shiney, but I think though you are allowed to "lounge on the sofa or in bed" whenever you feel like it. You do most of the childcare... it is you that has to make sure she gets to and from school, you make sure she is fed and clothed and deal with the illing etc etc. He gets the "good" bits, so I think he should make more of an effort. He needs to accept that he is a grown up and start acting like it.

Shiney, no way would i make her go if she doesnt want to, having to sleep on the sofa is disgraceful, he should have sorted her a bed out long ago!

I would be bloody angry too, and as you say no you can't stop a 15 year old from shagging but you equip with then the knowledge of protection & how not to get pregnant (though I know that quite often it goes in one ear & out the other).

My main factor would be Taya's happiness, if she's not happy being there that answers it really though it's a right bugger for you that you don't get any free time & her dad is to lazy to bother spending any time with her.

I am so not keen on bloody DD1 at the moment . She's only 6.5! Where's this flipping attitude come from!?

Shiney - I don't see why Taya's too young for you to explain the consequences of teenage pregnancy and your feelings about it. The younger they hear this stuff, the more likely it is to just become part of their own beliefs IMO.

How can he justify being furious if she chooses not to go? It's his fault if she doesn't want to go, by making her feel so unwelcome! I know I have weird view about parenting, but I just think it ought to be up to the child to decide, not the parents. Children are people too.

i think you may be on to something there shiney - tell her dad that as she hasnt got her own bed there, it is really awkward for her to stay, so you are cutting it down to once a month (and then rope grandparents in) It may wake him up a little into his repsonsibilites?

No that's not boring Shiney sounds like fun

Nah, I'd leave the last bit in

tell us more about this blokie then shiney

(as an aside - when you all get a min (after we pull apart discuss shiney's blokie, please reassure me about doing the race for life)

A little bit of 'and I will kill you' won't go amiss

Bloke situation sounds ummm interesting Shiney - will it be a bit of dirty phone talk? how far away he is like? China or timbuktu or europe?

Norma: Dog is a Boxer bitch, see profile.

Roastie is on the go.

I did some yoga with them! I am such a good mummy

Ooh, what yoga did you do and how? I am the least flexible human being in existence.

If 'I will kill you' doesn't add emphasis how about stressing how sad and disappointed you would be?

DD2 got some 'yoga pretzel' cards for her birthday, based on the book 'daddy is a pretzel', which is about yoga for children. We've done children's yoga classes in the past - they're all keen to start going again now so I'm off to ring the lovely woman who runs them.

You don't have to be flexible to do the yoga I do, which is far more about finding space within yourself. My teacher is trained in what they used to call Viniyoga - not so much about pushing yourself to get as bendy as possible as about finding a way of doing a posture to fit your body. It's more spiritual.

Shiney - If I were you, which I'm not , I think I'd just be going down the 'think about what you want from your life' line, rather than scaring her into not getting pg IYSWIM. We've talked about this with our daughters, as they've all said they want to have babies etc. We talk about how it's important to do your best to have babies with someone you love and think you'll love for ever; and how it's good if you're old enough to really be making an informed decision to have babies, even if you end up making that decision relatively young (ie. early twenties).