Depeche, I read some statistics somewhere that said that people trying to quit using NRT of whatever variety were far less likely to succeed because they can become addicted to the NRT itself and because psychologically it's a crutch, you're never actually facing up to the actual quit.
On a more cynical note, it's worth remembering that most NRT products are made by ... cigarette companies! So they're working on making you addicted.
It seems scary to quit cold turkey and it is unpleasant in places. I told everyone I was doing it - even dd. So I explained to her that I would be a bit crazy for a week or so and I invented a sort of scream / cry that I did to show her that I was having a crazy moment. She was so pleased that I was stopping that she found all that quite amusing.
I'm 6 weeks fagless now and I could sum it up like this:
1st 3 days awful.
1st week pretty grim.
Week 2 getting much better, feeling of relief, forgetting all about fags for longer periods of time.
Week 3 big psychological addictions to face.
Week 4 loads better.
From week 4 onwards it's got easier and easier and now I don't want to smoke at all. Really seriously, not at all.
give it a go. Set a date. We'll be behind you all teh way.