Hi, have read the thread but don't have time to comment also.
Except this..
And ABW, I hope you understand and forgive me for this. Because these ladies are extraordinary and I think if anyone at all can help it is a good thing.
I read the advice for ABW and it is good, the changing name thing, the visualisation (amazing post BoF). I met ABW on here and since christmas we have become very good friends.
She is one talented Lady,
Writing, Cooking the most amazing cakes, she crocheted me some gloves that IMO could be sold in a swanky boutique, A fabulous sense of humour with a quick wit and sense of fun. She is deeply caring of others and in many ways the most selfless individual I have met.
But, and I wouldn't dream of betraying ABW's trust, she has NO self esteem. Not low, or damaged. None. So the suggestions, whilst positive might be hard to take on board until that is improved.
ABW, come on here in the evenings, I love it both because the company is corrupting me fabulous, and because like trill says, it is a form of escapism that can lift you, and the humour and overall positiveness is infectious.
You have so many people that care about you, The 10/10ers, even on here after a short time, and I would be devastated if the Black Dog became a longterm companion......you need a fluffy poodle with glittery ribbons in it's pom-poms! Find the fight again, kick some 'BD' arse and let the light back in....holding your hand and hugging you all the way.........
And please, from the bottom of my heart, stop drinking, it isn't your friend and never will be..
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