Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
General health

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Original poster

Poor Peter

66 replies

misdee · 27/04/2005 17:19

still in hospital. was back on oxygen monday night/yesterday. went to see him yesterday just as they were doing his readings, and his heart rate was reading at 198bpm

he said he felt fine tho, so made them redo it on another machine and it came back down to 70bpm. thank goodness, i was panicing.

OP posts:
anorak · 27/04/2005 17:24

Oh misdee, what a worry. I imagine it must be so frustrating being unable to do something yourself to make him better . I'm so glad you share all this with us - it certainly helps me put things in perspective when I'm whinging about some small matter.

I hope things improve soon xxx

SoupDragon · 27/04/2005 17:27

Bum

Original poster
misdee · 27/04/2005 17:27

i am still hoping that everyone gets better with a transplant. am so scared it'll go wrong.
met with dd1 headteachers today to let them know exactly whats happening. apparently dd1 sometimes gets very quiet and withdrawn, but aside from that she is doing great. just dont want my kids to lose their daddy.

OP posts:
Blu · 27/04/2005 17:32

oh, misdee.......

WideWebWitch · 27/04/2005 17:32

misdee

bundle · 27/04/2005 17:33

thinking of you all, x

spykid · 27/04/2005 17:33

so sorry misdee.
wishing you all lots of love

nikcola · 27/04/2005 17:35

thinking of you all hunny {{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}

Original poster
misdee · 27/04/2005 17:35

i just want this all to go away.

so tonight i'm going to try and scare myself watching the 'ring two' with mieow at the cinema. hopefully dd3 will take a bottle eeeek! will try and forget all this and hope my mobile, doesnt ring during the film.

OP posts:
iota · 27/04/2005 17:36

so sorry to read this misdee

SleepyJess · 27/04/2005 17:38

((((misdee))))) sending you hugs and ~~~~~~ good vibes~~~~~~. Sometimes it would be nice to be a 'normal family' wouldn't it.. (Not that we'd change them for the world.. except to make them better )

Thinking of you

SJ xx

Original poster
misdee · 27/04/2005 17:39

is it wrong for me to think 'i want someone to die soon so peter can survive'. tangle of emotions all the time. i never focus fully on anything atm, mind always elsewhere.

OP posts:
Yorkiegirl · 27/04/2005 17:39

Message withdrawn

Original poster
misdee · 27/04/2005 17:40

SJ, just one day of normality would be great. one day of no medication for dh or the kids. just one day of being able to do something other than sit and wait.

OP posts:
Enid · 27/04/2005 17:43

thinking of you misdee x E

Fio2 · 27/04/2005 17:45

of course it is a tangle of emoticons honey you live everyday on a knife edge, nothing is going to change that. You just have to live everyday as it comes and be grateful what you have got. i am sure a transplant will come available soon, please dont worry, and please dont feel guilty. the guilt will eat you up. That person, whoever it may be, is going to die, they WANT their organs to be passed on to help someone else. i know it is more complex than that but you have to visualise on the positive outcomes and not the negative ones I know its hard

Original poster
misdee · 27/04/2005 17:51

thank you fio, as you have some idea of this, it makes me feel better that what i'm feeling is normal.

i popped out saturday night to get some shopping with mieow leaving peter with the kids, and was checking my phone constantly.

am going to wear trousers with pockets and keep my phone on vibrate (ooo-err) tonight, so dont piss off other movie go-ers.

OP posts:
Fio2 · 27/04/2005 17:56

do you knoiw, the morning my sister was called (the 2nd time) for her transplant I actually went into work , have no idea why. i sat there like a bloody headcase, but everything was 'suppossed' to be normal, we were all suppossed to carry on like before. thats how she wanted it. Dont know why i am telling you this. Its just when I think about it now, i find it odd!

Original poster
misdee · 27/04/2005 17:58

the next time i really want to be there, but i dont think i'd be able to, i'd be a wreak. dh seems so strong through all of this, but i know he isnt, cracks are appearing with each setback.

OP posts:
ks · 27/04/2005 17:59

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

Marina · 27/04/2005 18:04

misdee, thinking of you all XXX

noddyholder · 27/04/2005 18:10

Really hope they get him a new heart soon.Your children will be fine once they have their Dad back to normal they have an amazing ability to rise above these things.My ds apparently used to cry at the slightest thing at school and stopped almost immediately after my transplant Enjoy the cinema and the vibrating phone xx

anorak · 27/04/2005 18:16

misdee, of course you don't wish other people dead. But we all know accidents happen. If one happened to me, and my heart could be used to make someone like Peter well, that would be at least one good thing to come of it. It's making something good out of something bad.

Hulababy · 27/04/2005 20:27

misdee; I hope that new heart comes soon.

swiperfox · 27/04/2005 20:32

You'll get through this misdee - all of you. I have no experience so I can't begin to imagine how agonising it must be waiting from day to day.

Is he all ready for a transplant now - i remember you saying when he got pulled out of the last one that they had to wait for all his levels to stabilise - is it just a case of waiting for a heart now? I really hope so and I hope it comes soon for you. xx