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contraception, withdrawal method......

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npg1 · 13/04/2009 21:43

Does anyone else use this method of contraception? I know its not good but im sure it works for me.

Been with DH for 11 years. When i first met him I was on the pill. After 2 years we then moved to LA and i stopped taking it and started using the withdrawal method and then after another 2 years started trying properly (IYKWIM) for a baby. Fell pregnant with DD1. After I gave birth went back to withdrawal again. I knew this wasnt 100% so i tried the pill twice and it turned my into a depressed maniac and I said I will never go on it again. Then started trying for DD2 and fell pregnant and gave birth in 2006. Have been using withdrawal ever since.

In the near future we will probably try for another baby (still unsure!) which is why im on here doing research as I know its not 100% safe. I have just recently found out I have polycystic ovaries and am waiting for a scan so I wonder how fertile that makes me.

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SlightlyMadSimnelCake · 13/04/2009 21:46

Well it has been successfully used as our main form of contraception for the last 10+ years. but I know and understand all of hte risks and am prepared to fully accept the consequences of failure IYSWIM.

If/when there comes a point in time that the potential consequences are not acceptable then we will do something else. I think that is the most important thing for us.

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npg1 · 13/04/2009 21:48

Im glad to hear someone else uses it to and I feel exactly the same as what your post says!

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SuziSeis · 13/04/2009 21:51

the problem i find is that i am most keen on sex at ovulation and get scared iykwim

SlightlyMadSimnelCake · 13/04/2009 21:52

Well IMO it is an acceptable form of contraception then

I often curse it for being a bit too reliable at the moment broody as hell as DD3 reaches three next week....

KnickKnackGetsInsideCremeEgg · 13/04/2009 21:53

Similar to SlightlyMad...ex and I used it as sole method of contraception for about 12yrs (no fertility issues and conceived both babies within 1 or 2 months of trying for baby). Only started using condoms when the cracks started to appear in the relationship.

expatinscotland · 13/04/2009 21:55

We've used it sucessfully for years. Just don't try to use it when he's really drunk or with you on top.

I cannot do hormonal contraception for a variety of health reasons, I object to the copper coil on grounds of conscience. I'd get sterilised but it's still too invasive a procedure in this part of the country. He'd have teh snip but we live in a rural area and to give samples would require lots of travel and he can't get that time off work. He hates condoms.

So we use this and sometimes condoms.

It's worked for us!

KnickKnackGetsInsideCremeEgg · 13/04/2009 21:56

ah the memories...sex at ovulation, vague memories of making him withdraw v v early

SlightlyMadSimnelCake · 13/04/2009 21:57

Oh yes that is the big one.......NEVER use it as a method of contraception after a few drinks.....

DisasterEggs · 13/04/2009 21:58

works for us. even after booze. works a little too well for my liking. no more 'accidents'

hellsbells76 · 13/04/2009 22:00

Hmmm...I have a nearly 3 year old daughter who is a result of this 'method'! Wouldn't be without her for a second but I'm back on the pill now

expatinscotland · 13/04/2009 22:01

Well, admittedly it worked well for us when he was under the influence because he doesn't drink but about 3x/year.

It was the girl on top that screwed us up once.

But after that, no probs at all.

We used it for years.

There's not much else out there but copper coil and condoms if you can't do sterilisation.

ABetaDad · 13/04/2009 22:01

npg1 - why not use condoms or non penetrative sex around the most fertile part of the month and then withdrawal at other times? Seems a happy compromise.

I guess if you do not mind the consequences of a 'mistake' too much I guess withdrawal works well by just decreasing the chances of conception until you really want another baby.

I would never ask my wife to take the pill as it has all sort sort of effects on her. Blood pressure for one.

SuziSeis · 13/04/2009 22:01

expat you can post samples nowadays!!

your dh will love that news!

SlightlyMadSimnelCake · 13/04/2009 22:04

I only wish my DP would withdraw a little later so that his little spermy men have a chance to meet my little ovum

ho hum

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npg1 · 13/04/2009 22:04

I was just reading about this on another site and some people where saying its really stupid. Personally I cant see the problem if an 'accident' did happen and obviously if you are using this method then that is not completely out of the question otherwise you would be on the pill or sterilised?

My other problem is how often I ovulate and i dont think I ovulate very often. i have a period every 3-4 months. DH is very good at withdrawing and he hasnt done the deed in me for about 3 years now!!!!!

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LastOrders · 13/04/2009 22:05

If DP and I used the withdrawal method there wouldn't be much point putting it in to begin with!!! [grin}

SuziSeis · 13/04/2009 22:07

slightlymadscientist you need to scream in the throes of passion ' just give t to me - in me - deeper ' or some such much filthier version and he will have no option

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npg1 · 13/04/2009 22:07

Abetadad, I have polycystic ovaries so not actually sure when I ovulate!

I do have a Persona unstairs I could start using (when my next perios decides to show!) but even then my cycle is so long im not sure it would work properly.

Oh and DP is only home at weekends so that lessens my chances anyway!

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chequersmate · 13/04/2009 22:09

Ooh, an acquaitance has been using this for years and I've always had 2 questions that would be far too personal to ask her.

Do you mind answering them?

  • Is your DP/DH perfectly happy with this form of contraception, and
  • Where does her, er, you know, deposit it then, if not there?

Just interested as I'm not keen on hormonal contraception and condoms don't work for us so a bit tricky.

SuziSeis · 13/04/2009 22:10

for us

  1. Not totally
  2. his hand
LastOrders · 13/04/2009 22:11

I've never thought about this method, I'd just be to worried.

What about (another personal question) pre cum?

And why should girls not go on top

SlightlyMadSimnelCake · 13/04/2009 22:12

In our house it is DP's decision...and TBH I wasn't happy at first but now fine with it as it increases my chances of a happy accident. We have condoms in (although I suspect way past use by date) and he will use one if he wants to stay put.

In our house he tends to deposit things kind of on my lower abdomen....we then unromatically head to the bathroom together to wipe down.

SuziSeis · 13/04/2009 22:13

sms begs another question but too rude to ask

SlightlyMadSimnelCake · 13/04/2009 22:14

pre cum is the risk in it all.

I think expat is being sarcastic as I believe it was a woman on top that lead t her failure of contraception. I don't think it is necessarily a hard and fast rule with any scientific basis.

SlightlyMadSimnelCake · 13/04/2009 22:14