REST IN PEACE STEVE -from all your mumsnet friends

[bossybritches]

Steve died at 10.30 in Jo's arms where he belonged.

I have spoken to her & she asked me to let you all know. Her dear friend Tracey is with her.

God he put up a good fight & I for one feel honored to have known him & his family.

Hello Tracey Lovely to 'meet' you

Solsbury Hill is just such a wonderful song. I'm sure Steve's funeral will be a lovely gentle celebration of the life of a wonderful man.

xx

thanks for the words and poems I am hoping to keep these threads and print them out at the moment I am struggling to keep up and can't remember who said what.
I am waiting for a phonecall from funeral directors to say that Steve is back in the chapel of rest so I can go and see him, I havent seen him since Tuesday, we have some fathers day socks for him to put on too.
I had a crap night and feel awful have a bad cough sore throat coldsores ulcers and my glands are swollen, I am still in my pjs my mate took the kids to school bus.
I phoned the drs and got the dragon receptionist who wanted to know exactly why I wanted to talk to the doctor, I told her the doctor would know why I was ringing, she said I will put on the note patient refused to tell me, I lost it a little and told her that my husband had died and that my life was falling around my ears and the doctor had said to ring him, the dr phoned 10 mins later and apologized he has given me anti biiotics thrush stuff and sleeping meds.
tracey has been up to get them for me.
I am going to try to get some sleep before the school run.

oh OJ! Yes, try and get some well deserved sleep - hope your body feels better once the ab's kick in.

So sorry OJ. I hope the dragon apologised - am for you.

I read somewhere they aren't allowed to ask what is wrong with a patient since they have no medical training.

I hope the AB kick in quickly and you feel fit to cope with Wednesday.

Oh dear OJ - your body is reacting to everything.

Bloody dragon receptionists. Hope the drugs kick in fast and you feel better.

blimey that was long but needed to come out.
debbie rang earlier, she thinks a holiday would help somewhere very hot she says, she is so kind cos she said in her role as choccy scoffer mac nurse she would have to come with me.
she says they don't have many phonecall with laughs in there office and they always know when debs is on the phone to me cos she always ends up laughing.
she is very special to our family.

Honey, hope you are having a good rest as I type. Tracey is a star! It is wonderful to have such a close friend. Thank you Tracey for being so fab! Jo, I am around anytime if you want to chat esp tomorrow or Wednesday nights as I know how concerned you are about the service. Sorry about the insensitive receptionist, just what you don't need right now. Many hugs from our household to yours. xxx

Oh OJ

Nothing to do with the bloody receptionists

After having to be strong and well for so long when Steve was ill, your body is reacting now. Hope the ABs kick in soon.

Take some time to sleep and relax whilst the children are at school.

Thinking of you all x

Hi OJ and family and hi Tracey!

Haven't posted for a few days, but have been reading your threads. MN is a wonderful thing - all these people who can put into words what I struggle to say. I hope MN continues to give you some comfort.

You are doing so well with the organising. Agree you deserve a lovely hot holiday somewhere - hope its possible.

Thinking of you every day.

xxx

Thinking of you today.

at receptionist. I am sure I read somewhere you don't have to tell them what you want an appointment for/to speak to the GP apart.

OJ I just wanted to share with you something that I was told by the mum of a friend of mine who also nursed her husband (friend's stepdad) at home through terminal illness and brought home to me something that I'm sure many people don't consider.

She said that what a lot of people don't realise is that not only have you lost your soul mate, your life partner, your best friend; you have lost what was driving you day to day. You are no longer having to feed someone, wash them, care for them and as well as having to cope with losing a loved one you also have to suddenly adjust your everyday life as it no longer revolves around an ill person. You have a massive readjustment to make and I can't begin to imagine how hard that must be.

It is easy to see why you are ill now - you must be so run down after caring for Steve so well for so long alongside the added hassle of your inlaws [blood boils]. I am glad you have people there that can help with the kids while you get some much needed rest.

Take care x

whoops I knew there was something I had to do, I will hopefully feel up to going out tomorrow to get top shoes and bag.
there is a massive Steve shaped gap in our lives and it is hard to adjust without him here, it was odd getting used to having the 24 hour carers and the district nurses here many times a day I even miss the. Almost daily vists to pick up his meds. But most of all I miss Steve I miss climbing in bed for a snuggle, the kids miss there snuggled too.

((OJ))

OJ . All the things you miss must be flooding in on you.

Bloody Receptionists, sometimes they really shouldn't just assume should they?

oj i am not surprised you are feeling ill ,you have been doing so much and not having a proper nights sleep for so long,your body is bound to react somehow,I hope you will soon have some time to relax and build yourself back up again.A holiday does sound just the job,maybe it will give you something nice to focus on,i expect you are feeling a bit lost after having been so busy for the past few months,so maybe you can pick up some brochures and have a little study of them.You deserve it oj ,there is no doubt about that. x

{{{{{{{{hugs to you all}}}}}}}

I like this one:

Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped away
into the next room.

I am I,
and you are you;
whatever we were to each other,
that, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name,
speak to me in the easy way
which you always used,
put no difference in your tone,
wear no forced air
of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we shared together.
Let my name ever be
the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect,
without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all
that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.

Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?

I am waiting for you,
for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just around the corner.

All is well.

Hope you had a good sleep OJ and hope you feel better soon. Still thinking of you and sending you lots of love xxx

OJ as ever you and the dc's are in my thoughts. Wish we could offer you all a snuggle but it wouldn't be the same i know!

{{{{{{hugs and hugs}}}}}}} to you and your family OJ.

So sorry for your loss. Just seen this news, and wish you as much comfort as possible in the circumstances.

Thinking of you OJ and sending lots of love. I hope you don't mind me posting this, I found it to be beautiful

I'M FREE

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard him call
I turned my back and left it all

I could not stay another day
To laugh,to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way
I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joy
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss
Ah yes, these things, I to, will miss

Be not burdened with the times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow
My Life's been full, I savoured much
Good friends, good times, and loved one's touch.

Perhaps my life seemed all too brief
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me
God wanted me now, He set me free.

Thinking of you OJ. hope you're feeling a little better soon.
I can never read your threads without tears in my eyes. you are inspirational.
take care of yourself.
(i never can find the right words to say )
love and hugs
D xx

OJ I hope the day goes well for you tomorrow. Nothing will fill the void left by Steve but you will find ways to cope. You've been so incredibly brave and strong so far.

Thinking of you and your wonderful family
xxxxxxxxxxx

Oh OJ cant believe you are ill on top of everything,hope the ab's kick in soon.
Thinking of you all and sending you love.

xxxx