THREAD FOR WISHING PEACE TO STEVE AND STRENGTH TO JO AND THE CHILDREN

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Thinking of you. (Not sure if ayone has started one)

Peace to Steve on his journey,

Strength to Jo the the road ahead,

Birthday Blessings to Abby and Bethan,

and Cuddles for Elliot.

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Hi Oj
Have never posted before, but you have always in my thoughts over the last few weeks, especially today.
I know it sounds wierd but your story has brought a warm glow in my heart, it is so obvious that you and Steve shared a special love for eachother and I'm sure you know how lucky you are to have experienced that. That love will be carried on in your children and your heart every day.
Wishing your girls a very happy birthday.
xxx

Happy birthday girls - hope you have a great day.

Elliott - how do you put up with two sisters? Me and my little brother used to really fight....well it was me who used to fight him!!

OJ and Steve - hoping the sun shines hot for you all tomorrow and the day goes well.

Sending my families love down the motorway to you xxx

Happy Birthday to the girls!

Oj I know you lurk when you can't respond so big hugs & love to you all.

Tell Elliott I'll take him out for more peas soon as my special treat

Happy Birthday Abby and Bethan. I hope that there day is special. Well done Steve for getting this far.

All my best to you OJ and also not forgetting Elliot today too

Happy Birthday to the girls xxx

hiya OJ!! just a quick post to say Happy Birthday to the girls. Hope they have as good a day as possible. xxx

Happy birthday lovely girls.

Happy Birthday little ladies! Have a wonderful day!xxx

Happy Birthday Abbey and Bethan. OJ, this day will be one of such mixed emotions for you. Wish we could bear the anguish for you. xxx

OJ, thinking of you all.
Happy birthday, Abby and Bethan.

Love to you and yours OJ xxx

Happy birthday to the girls - hope you have a lovely day xx

Morning OJ, just sending love and Happy Birthday to the girls! xxxx

happy birthday to your beautiful girls. xxx

xxxx thinking of you all

thanks for the new thread.
steve is still holding on his breathing is worse he has been given meds to dry up secreations so he isnt as rattley but his breaths are sudden and loud and he breaths a few times and then stops for up to 30 seconds. His heartbeat is really fast now.
the girls went to bed so excited and I have been sat here listening to steves breathing pattern and willing him not to go today as it would be much harder on the girls birthdays, I know there will never be a good time, elliot was telling me the other day that he was looking forward to the girls birthday this weekend and fathers day next weekend.
sorry if this is a long post but first chance I have had to update and as I am sending from my phone the spelling is probably terrible.
steves family are still causing problems, they were told on thursay they needed to come and say goodbye to Steve, they kickedd off and refused to leave, me and the kids were hiding upstairs with 4 of our mates whilst the two Sw dealt with the vist.
after they had gone I was able to spend time with Steve but the kids were in bed.
the Sw spoke to mike and Mil fro morning and mike apologized for his sisters behavior and said that he accepted that he had had his last vist and said goodbye.
4.45 I went to get steves drugs came back to a message fromike saying basically that he was going to come over to see his brother and to drop some stuff off for the kids for Saturday. Sw had gone home so I text mike and said no vistors as now was time for the kids and me to see Steve and he needed to sort thing with the Sw, mike phoned up. And was abusive to me, I put the the phone down on him.
then sat scarred that they were all gonna turn up. I got the kids off to bed and three mates here. Mike came and didnt knock but put birthday cards throu the letterbox and I letter for me, on the letter he said that Steve had given him some info to pass onto me but that he didnt know if it
meant anything to me. Mike had written down my birth mothers name and address and my exs name and adrees now Steve wouldn't have looked for and found my birth family cos he knows a am frightened of them and that I moved house and changed name to hide from them, mike knows this too, so now a am scared that mike has passed on my details to my birth family who are not the sort of people to be allowed around kids and I didnt want them to find me or know that I have kids.
if you've got this far thankkgou I just needed to get it out IYKWIM. I want to be able to make sure the days goes ok for the kids sake but I don't know how I am gonna do it.

I am awake if you need to talk.

I really do not know how you are still going.

Gasp. OJ. You poor thing. How awful. I'm so sad for you that you are contenting with such terrible actions at this time. You only deserve support and love. It is so wonderful your friends are solidly there for you.

Are you able to phone the SW to let her know about the developments? She may have a professional opinion on the situation.

Your heart must be breaking. Steve would be hugging and reassuring you right now, if only he could.

Steve is amazing to be still here. No matter what happens you can tell your girls that he really really fought to stay with them on their birthday. X

oh OJ This is just too much for you to have to deal with - especially today

I hope you can get through the day - do you have anyone there today to support you?

xxx

So glad you could come and tell us about it Jo. May God bless you and Steve and your children, especially Abbey and Bethan on their birthday.

sorry I forgot to say thankyou for all the bithday wishes, thankyou for the game that lapin sent from the mumsnet crew
berlinola?? Thankyou for the survival pack dunno how you guessed I liked run truffles! I am looking forward to a soak in the bath with the posh stuff you sent me.
whoosh what a lovely cakeless cake you sent all made from sweeties the girls and elliot will love it.
bossy thankyou for the balloons the girls screams of delight will travel up the M1 to you I am sure.
thankyou all for the lovely things you have done for us all.

Hi Oj - my god he's a real fighter isn't he - he so wants to be here for the girl's birthday! I remember a while back you were worrying he may not have made it to Elliot's birthday and now he's made it to today as well. Amazing man for an amazing family.

As for the ILs - well, as someone said below I hope that there is some good in the fact that it gives you something tangible to hate, but for Mike to give you something like this to worry about is just utterly foul and low. So sorry to hear he's done this.

Good morning OJ.

Firstly - a big Happy Birthday to Abbey and Bethan. I hope you all manage to have a good day for them. Steve is amazing in how he has hung on for so long.

Secondly - I am really sorry that Mike is putting you through this now (or at any time really).

I would also suggest contacting the social worker - she could maybe try and find out just what Mike hopes to achieve by doing this and give you some professional advice.

As if you didn't have enough on your plate.

Hugs from here anyway.