THREAD FOR WISHING PEACE TO STEVE AND STRENGTH TO JO AND THE CHILDREN

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Thinking of you. (Not sure if ayone has started one)

Hope you all had a fantastic fathers day OJ. x

it has been a bitter sweet day, memories have been made. it has been very busy today but in a nice way lots of mates calling in to see steve and us all and many tears been shed but on balance we have had happiness too. Steve has been in a coma for a week now and i am amazed he is still here.
this weekend has been very special and that has been easier to do with so many special people being around.
the many DNs have popped in for tea and birthday cake the kids have been surrounded in love and respect.
our best night lady asked me last night if she could come and babysit for me sometime soon as she loves being with the kids and will miss them, she brought the girls a tee shirt each for their dolls, this has been a difficult journey but we have meet some amazing people along the way i count Mumsnetters within that.
i had a message on the phone from mike earlier he was being difficult and is due to vist tomorrow night, i will talk to the SW and Mac nurse in the morning and get a plan of action in place.

Happy Fathers Day to a very special Father and Husband. Hope you've had a good day together.

Thought and prayers with you all xxx

So glad it has been a fab weekend for you all.x.x.x

I am so glad that amongst the sadness that you've had moments of happiness and been surrounded by so many people who love you and support you. It is lovely to hear how many people think your dc are fantastic as well as you

wishing you peace & strength for tonight and for tomorrow x

sorry x posts.

I'm glad you've had more good memories. You really are all such a special family.

Hope you can sort something out for the visitors. You and the children are the most important people though.

Love to you all xx

(((((((OJ))))))))))

Bittersweet makes total sense to me. I'm so glad there has been respect and happiness in amongst it all, especially this weekend.

Thinking of you all as ever, xxx

OJ, what a lovely post... I'm so pleased you found some happy moments today in amongst the sadness. Keep strong sweetie, we are all holding your hand. xx

OJ, how lovely for Steve to be surrounded by so many special people. I'm sure he can hear everything and will know you are well supported.

How sweet the night carer wants to look after the kids at some point, definately a good person there !!

Good night Jo and god bless x

Jo - thank you for sharing those lovely thoughts with us all here on MN. Thank you for letting us know how you all are. You are a very special lady to share it with us. Sending you loads of love. xxxxxx

Im so pleased for you that you were able to enjoy this weekend together, you and the kids will treasure the memories you all made.

I keep hoping that i'll come on here and see a message from you saying the In Laws have decided to call a truce or whatever for the sake of the one person who matters most in all this (STEVE).

Families, however strained need to put their own feelings aside for respect of the person who's ill.

They dont need to be all lovie dovie(sp) but at least keep quiet about whatever is annoying them and smile for Steves sake as well as the children and you.

Thinking of you all

((oJ))

Sending you love and prayers and hugs and peace and more love from the whoel weegie family.

xxxxx

Jo..............you sound so good.....so much inner strength, putting everyone else before yourself as usual. Your chidren have been blessed to have two amazing parents, they coud ask for nothing more, lots can`t say that, hugs for you all tonight xxx

I am so glad you have all had a good weekend.

Sending you lots of hugs. xxx

i have followed your thread over the last couple of weeks and felt it was not for me to intrude, as i was fairly new to this site. I sat with my dad for days when he was leaving us and in the end we were saying..' please ..now it is time time to go' i know how hard it is,and i have been to counselling since to understand the guilt i felt for willing him to leave in the end.. so much suffering.. but i still had so much to tell him and share with him. it is so difficult to be strong and when you have children, you put your thoughts aside to be strong for them. try to give yourself time, it is not being selfish and you are entitled to that time. so sorry you are not getting the caring and understanding of Steve's family. It is a time when each and every one should be pulling together for support, and you and your children need to be supported most. May you have the strength and love to get through thid. I can see you are such a close knit family and my heart goes out to you all. Please do not feel this is an intrusion, love and hugs xx

OJ - your pictures are so lovely and your strength and love as a family shine through. Have thought lots about you and your family this weekend - somehow seeing the photos have brought home even more what you are coping with. Love to your dh and cute as buttons children xx

Sorry had to come back again. we could not believe hoemy dfad held on.. but my mum being a believer in spiritulialism, wa stols that when my dad would go would be when he had the people around the he would choose. I had been with im from Saturday until Monday , as were my two brothers and my mum and my son.
My son went from the hospital , at Monday lunchtime 12 mid day. He called me on my mobile at 1330 this was the onle time I answered my phone, during the time I was with with my dad, and I said is thimk he is going.. my dad was in a coma but it was almost like he knew ..at 2.00pm there was my two brothers and my mum and I and dad went peacefully quietly, i was holding his hand, it was dignified. My son arrived ten minutes too late and was distraught, throwing himself down on the bed and so upset. it was almost as though my dad kenew that if he had been ther he would not have been able to go in peace. So I truly believe that they do and able to pass when the time is right. steve has waited until the birthdays are over and has shown his unending love and thoughtfulness, he will leave you when the time is right for him, leaving so many happy memoried and meaning that each future borthday can be celebrated without sadness xxx

thinking of you all, love to all. x

not had the chance to post today, but have been thinking of you all.
Am so pleased you've had a lovely weekend together.
Steve is amazing holding on for so long.
Your girls' birthday photos are beautiful. Thankyou for sharing them.
OJ how you keep going I don't know, but you are truly awe-inspiring.
I can only hope that i have even a fraction of your strength, should i ever have to experience what you are going through. (hope that doesn't sound too crass)

Wishing you all a peaceful night, and strength OJ to deal with the ghastly ils tomorrow.
Love and prayers, D xx

Up early as usual! Just popping in to wish you peace, love and strength for another day.

xxx

oj when steve does pass over he will still be with you.I do believe he will still be watching over you all.JUst hope he haunts the MIL as as we all know they are terrible family .Your love and strength has kept steve holding on so long xx.Of course he dosent want to leave you but he has no choice .I wish you love and strength for what is happening.You will always have steve with you through your children.They have so much love from you and freinds.Shame it doesnt come from steves family.I would not let mil near your children when the end for steve comes.She doesent deserve being part of thier lives and yours.Let her die a sad lonely death sad bitch.No wonder her other chidren are like they are such a great infulance the mil is.Dont waste your energy on her dont even let her see steve now.He can still hear you all.

oj when steve does pass over he will still be with you.I do believe he will still be watching over you all.JUst hope he haunts the MIL as as we all know they are terrible family .Your love and strength has kept steve holding on so long xx.Of course he dosent want to leave you but he has no choice .I wish you love and strength for what is happening.You will always have steve with you through your children.They have so much love from you and freinds.Shame it doesnt come from steves family.I would not let mil near your children when the end for steve comes.She doesent deserve being part of thier lives and yours.Let her die a sad lonely death sad bitch.No wonder her other chidren are like they are such a great infulance the mil is.Dont waste your energy on her dont even let her see steve now.He can still hear you all.

OJ as usual, thinking of you and sending lots of love and sincerely wishing there was more I could do. You, Steve and the childrn are in my thoughts constantly. xxx