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(Flying) Bear hugs for Steve, onlyjoking and their children

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WanderingTrolley · 01/06/2008 23:15

Please note this thread has been continued here
For Steve

For oj

For Elliot

Quick! What do the girls like?

Is this ok? I think you said one of them liked to watch it.

Is that everyone sorted?

Not forgetting the carers!

OP posts:
TigerFeet · 02/06/2008 15:32

OJ I'm so sorry.

I hope that Steve's remaining time is peaceful.

Take care.

grouchyoscar · 02/06/2008 15:33

OJ, I think I speak for many a MNer when I say we are here for you.

There is so much love and affection in your messages. Thank you for allowing us to have this insight into your life. You are truly generous and beautiful

Much love and strength to you all at this time

tortoiseSHELL · 02/06/2008 15:34

OJ, sorry that things seem to be moving in that direction, , all love with you, Steve and your 3 lovely children. x

TheFallenMadonna · 02/06/2008 15:37

Thinking of you all and wishing you peace.

youknownothingofthecrunch · 02/06/2008 15:37

OJ, love to you all. xxx

mellyonion · 02/06/2008 15:38

sending you more strength and courage to get through the coming hours and days oj.
x

squeaver · 02/06/2008 15:49

So sad for you OJ. But your strength and humour amazes and inspires so many people. You are astonishing

largeginandtonic · 02/06/2008 15:51

Lots of love to you and the family OJ, you are being incredibly brave. Thinking of you always.

Buda · 02/06/2008 15:52

Oh OJ I am so sorry.

pepperrabbit · 02/06/2008 15:56

OJ, So sad to read this, sending you and the kids much love.
x

mummylin2495 · 02/06/2008 15:57

Thinking of you Oj and sending lots of love to you and your beautiful children.I trust the end is as calm as possible and that Steve can find peace at last. Paperchain x

RosaLuxembourg · 02/06/2008 15:59

So sorry, OJ. Sending you all love and support.

bramblebooks · 02/06/2008 16:00

So very sorry to hear this. Love and strength to you all.

lilibet · 02/06/2008 16:01
Sad
forevercleaning · 02/06/2008 16:02

so sorry to read your post OJ, thinking of you, and sending peace, prayers and thoughts to you all xxx

copycat · 02/06/2008 16:06

oj, your heart must be breaking It's so hard to let go and I'm sure that you and the children have been grieving for Steve for many days now. I pray that the five of you will still be able to draw close in these last hours and cry and smile and love each other in the midst of your pain. Praying too for pain-free peace for Steve. Love to you all xxxx

YeahBut · 02/06/2008 16:10

I wish there was something I could do or say other than "I'm thinking of you." Wishing you all peace.

kayzisexpecting · 02/06/2008 16:12

I am so sorry OJ. I hope he can hold for the girls birthday.

Sending you all the love in the world.

XXXX

robinpud · 02/06/2008 16:13

Jo, so sorry to hear this, but grateful for you that the consultant has seen Steve and can gently prepare you all.
I am not at all religious, but do believe that some people get to slip away when it's their time.
My Mil battled a tumour not dis-similar to Steve's and died quite unexpectedly just after her darling dh who had cared for her had a heart attack and we had begun to try and work out how to care for them both.
She looked so peaceful and it was as if all the strain and stress that she had put up with left her and it helped us hugely to be able to know that she wasn't suffering any longer.
So, I hope that Steve gets to slip away softly and that you continue to find the phenomenal love, devotion and courage that you have had for so long. I hope that you can say the goodbyes that you need to, and then let him be at peace.
Wishing you strength and thinking of you x

TimeForMe · 02/06/2008 16:13

OJ, I am so sorry. I too wish there was more I could do rather than just say I am thinking of you and sending lots of love. I want to give you a big hug! Stay strong sweetheart xxx

shrinkingsagpuss · 02/06/2008 16:14

OJ sorry to read your last post.

It is the hardest time now, almost like holding your breath, waiting, knowing what is to come, and as you said, not wanting Steve to suffer. Remember to breath, and hug your children often, and hold his hand long past that last awful moment.

I hope the carers are able to make sure you are with Steve at the end. Keep talking to him, and ease his way through, as he is eventually set free frm this awful disease.

We have no candles here, DD would eat them, but there has been one lit for you for a long time now.

Take care

NotABanana · 02/06/2008 16:14

Hope you have had a nice afternoon with the consultant.

Just chraged up phone and put credit on.

NotABanana · 02/06/2008 16:16

Sh*t

Sorry, I missed your update.

I am so sorry darling. Let me know if there is anything at all you want. I can't do a lot but I can send chocolate.

olivo · 02/06/2008 16:17

OJ, i'm so sorry to hear this .

dippymother · 02/06/2008 16:18

So sorry to read your post but in a positive way, Steve will soon be released from his suffering. It must break your heart to see him in such pain. My mum found it very hard to cope when my dad was in the late stages of cancer, so he spent the last 10 days of his life in a hospice, where he died peacefully. I am in awe that you have been willing and able to care for Steve at home, I know many people would not be able to cope (me included). What shines out from your posts is the incredible love you both have for each other which has carried you through this awful disease. My thoughts are with you all, sending prayers and peace over the coming days.

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