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How have you changed 'down below' since having children?

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kittywise · 01/06/2008 22:34

I wonder because I'm sure that after 6 kids I have almost no gap between my fanny and my anus!!
perhaps it will morph into one big hole
I don't expect replies to this, most peeps don't want to discuss!!

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cositjustisok · 02/06/2008 07:00

I want to discuss it with you Kittywise

Do you mean the perineum has gone?

How could it have disappeared...where could it go?...up inside......I am away for a look at me own now

Rosylily · 02/06/2008 07:16

Well after four babies I don't have much of a gap but I don't feel as if it will all merge because the muscles are strong around there.
I bet you are perfectly normal down below, but you could get someone to have a look, reassure you?

itwasntme · 02/06/2008 07:21

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kittywise · 02/06/2008 07:27

Ta, yes I'm going to the dr's this week. I want to know if I'm normal, whatever that means

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Whitty · 02/06/2008 07:54

Gosh I know what you mean. I have changed quite a lot actually. I am saggier , and I know what you mean about the one hole thing. When I have (ahem) wind, it often feels like it comes out the wrong hole.....

girlnextdoor · 02/06/2008 09:03

when the vagina stretches, it does get bigger so that there is hardly any space between it and the anus.

Do you feel ok otherwise?

I had a vaginal repair after just 2 normal sized babies- my bladder was sagging- so they tightened it all up.

Do you do your pf exercises, lol?

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kittywise · 02/06/2008 09:17

Thanks, I feel better for having read this!

yes I think that's what it is girlnextdoor, it's stretched backwards.
oh the old grey mare aint what she used to be.
it doesn't help that dp and I haven't had sex since ds3 (13 months) was conceived, (his issue not mine btw ). So I have no idea how I 'feel' to him iyswim?

I have been thinking recently that the old PF needs attention, especially with the rectal muscles.
I have had to face it that the PF exercises are NON NEGOTIABLE!!

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girlnextdoor · 02/06/2008 09:23

If it's too bad you can have a nip and tuck! depends on whether you feel it's all too slack and if you are leaking etc etc.

Rosylily · 02/06/2008 09:45

Maybe 'average' would be a better word than 'normal'? Because normal must cover a wide variety of possibilities

Hopefully when you go to the dr you will be reassured.

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kittywise · 02/06/2008 10:22

Yes Rosy, I suspect I am average. I don't like it though

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